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Feeling really really c**p...is this normal?

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Pheebe · 12/03/2007 14:54

Hi all
Feel like I'm just winging (DH certainly thinks so!) but I feel so dreadful today I'm worried soemthings wrong. Woke up this morning with absolutely no energy, body feels like a lump of lead, ms still raging and can't thyink straight to save my life. I certainly never felt like this with DS and after several early mcs I'm now worrying that this might be a sign somethings wrong again. No pain or bleeding though and pt is still positive. Am I just being dumb?? Seems to have come on so sudden though...

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LilRedWG · 12/03/2007 14:58

I certainly felt like this for a fair portion of my early pregnancy. Like you I'd lost previous babies and worried. My midwife said, the worse I felt the better the baby was growing. Not sure as to the science behind that, but it made me feel better at the time.

Try to take it easy and rest up as much as possible. xxx

katybird · 12/03/2007 15:03

I've had a few days like that (I'm 16 wks now), and I get panicky when anything doesn't feel normal. But if there's no pain or bleeding then it's probably normal, still having ms is a good sign (I try to tell myself!). Maybe have a word with mw or GP if it would allay your fears, you might feel like you don't want to bother them but I'm sure they're used to dealing with worried mothers-to-be.

Hope everything's ok x

tokentotty · 12/03/2007 15:06

I think that the science behind the worse you feel the better the baby is, is the fact that all these symptoms are caused by really strong hormonal changes which mean all is going well. sometimes there's more to be concerned about if you have no symptoms at all apparently. If it's different to how you were with DS then you never know - it might be because you're having a DD instead and your pregnancy will be totally different?

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Pheebe · 12/03/2007 15:13

Thanks everyone, should have said I'm 6+5 so very early, further than I got with others but still not far enough yet ...

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LilRedWG · 13/03/2007 08:36

Pheebe - I can remember your feelings exactly. I tried to tell myself, "what will be, will be" but it doesn't help, does it? DD didn't make it easy for me.

I bled at four weeks (thought it was a normal AF), 15 weeks, spent four hours in delivery suite at 26 weeks as braxton hicks were far too regular, had gestational diabetes, evil morning sickness, severe SPD, and she STILL made it. I think I only actually felt well for three days of my pregnancy - between the morning sickness easing off and SPD starting at around 20ish weeks.

I guess what I'm trying to say is hang in there, try to take it easy and most of all - trust your body. I look forward to following your pregnancy on here.

xxx

KitKat30 · 13/03/2007 12:56

LilRedWG - I feel like you do! I'm 16 weeks - and having just (only just) got rid of my morning sickness, I have now developed PUPPP (really itchy torturous rash) on stomach and thighs, and I think I'm starting to get SPD... tell me it will all be worth it in the end??!?!

LilRedWG · 13/03/2007 12:59

Oh KitKat - it really and truly is!

DD is ten months old and I still look at her each morning with wonder. I cannot believe how much I love her and what she means to us. I know this sounds very vomit inducing but have been feeling very overwhelmed with love for DD lately and blessed to have her.

honeyapple · 13/03/2007 13:07

hi pheebe,

i am 7 wks pg and have been feeling REALLY sh*te. No energy, need to go to bed all the time, lie on the sofa, can't move! I have a DS and DD already, and never felt like this with either of them. I guess all pregnancies are different. I think that feeling yucky is probably a good sign, so please don't worry too much.

BTW, I am starting to feel a little less awful, but it may be that i am just getting used to it!

KitKat30 · 13/03/2007 13:09

That's what I keep telling myself - that it will all be worth it in the end. But I'm struggling a bit today... pelvic pain is not fun. How did you cope with your SPD?

LilRedWG · 13/03/2007 13:55

If I'm honest - badly would be the answer

Get to the physio (dr/midwife can refer you), ask for a tubigrip and support belt. Physio will also remind you to do pelvic floor exercises. You can get crutches from your physio if it gets that bad.

Do all exercises physio gives you - religiously! TBH they didn't give me many beforehand, mainly postbirth.

Unfortunately I got to the point where I needed a wheelchair - don't bother waiting for an NHS one, your little one will not only be born but at university by the time you get it - British Red Cross offer an amazing service. We used them and were blown away with their helpfulness.

Ask to see the physio in hospital when you've had your baby and ask for advice.

Do not - and this is important - overdo things or carry on at work because you feel you should. I did and now regret it. No-one is indispensible and if you need to get signed off then do it!

Find a local brine baths or flotation tank - the feeling of weightlessness is out of this world and melts away the pain!

Look at your scan pictures often and remind yourself that this little one will be worth it.

Hope this helps

If you need to ask anything else you can get me at [email protected] or I'm usually lurking on here.

LilRedWG · 13/03/2007 14:00

Oh yeah - get a full length pillow (bolster pillow). Mothercare and loads of other places do them. You can shove it between your knees, which helps hold your back straight and pelvis inline, and under your bump and then cuddle the top bit

Plus, a chiropractor helped me enormously post-birth, just shoved everything back in the right place - physio wasn't overly impressed, but I went into Chiro on chrutches and came out carrying them!

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Pheebe · 13/03/2007 14:56

hi everyone
feeling much better today. got a good nights sleep finally and got myself some sea bands which are really helping with the ms. had a wobble this morning thinking if i feel better there must be something wrong ... doh! a good talking to and excruciatingly sore boobs did the trick though. 7 weeks tomorow already. can't quite believe it.

Kitkat, i had spd with ds. the chiropracter was fantastic, find one with a special bed that allows you to lie on your belly without squashing your bump. Towards teh end I paid her to just let me lie there for half an hour!

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LilRedWG · 13/03/2007 15:58

LOL at panic attacks because you feel better - it is soooooo me!

Glad you are feeling better though

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Pheebe · 13/03/2007 16:05

LOL ... panic attacks over everything at the moment! forgot about being pg for an hour this pm while working adn really concentrating on something... started to worry brain is loosing pg fuzziness and soemthing was wrong!! dh is thoroughly p'd off with me already bless him

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Bucketsofdynomite · 13/03/2007 16:16

Pheebe, start shopping for snacks and decent hijuice sugary squash to keep your blood sugar levels up. I've also heard a rumour that low salt leads to morning sickness and dehydration. Put a tv (or laptop ) in your room so you can go to bed at 9pm - doesn't matter if you're asleep or not, the rest will help.

KitKat30 · 14/03/2007 08:45

Thanks so much LilRed and Pheebe - went to docs yesterday, hopefully she'll refer me to a physio. In the meantime I'm off to see an osteopath now!

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