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9 weeks don't feel pregnant

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Leanne17 · 25/04/2017 07:51

I'm driving myself crazy!!

I've posted a few times as this pregnancy hasn't been easy with various problems but the last two days I've just not felt pregnant!

I know symptoms can dwindle off at this stage and come and go but Now my minds going into overdrive thinking about missed miscarriage!!

I had a scan last Tuesday and baby looked great (had a scan due to bleed)

But the further along I'm getting I'm getting worried about my 12 week scan and the words 'I'm sorry but...'

I just needed to tell someone :(

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Salmonpinkcords · 25/04/2017 08:10

I am in a very similar position - I have already had 2 scans and due a third today - absolutely terrified. I'm 11 weeks on Wednesday but it hasn't gotten any easier as time has gone on.
My symptoms have definitely lessened on last couple of weeks which hasn't helped my paranoia about it.

I feel cheated that I should be enjoying this time but due to recurrenting miscarriages I can't.
Hold strong Flowers

BendydickCuminsnatch · 25/04/2017 08:16

I could have written that Grin Ahhhh it seems my only pregnancy symptom is paranoia. I'm 11+3 and have had 3 scans already due to spotting. Since my last scan I've had a red bleed but it wasn't big, so rationally I know it's nothing to worry about, not even bad enough to be referred to EPU for a scan, but it does have me worried that at 12 week scan I'll get bad news! DH can't come with me as he has to look after DS, boo!
Have my second MW appt today so hopefully that will perk me up a bit :) And had a letter from the GP about v v low iron so that's a good sign in a way! Was anaemic last time too.

Last time I didn't have any symptoms either until the old heartburn kicked in! We are the 'lucky ones' and I am happy about that, but wouldn't mind some mild, reassuring nausea or something! Grin

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Leanne17 · 25/04/2017 08:21

Yes just some sickness to help the anxiety!

I know it's probably just because we're nearing the first trimester but they don't make it easy do they!!

I had a miscarriage in January which I think is why I'm as paranoid as I am! Even tho I've seen baby etc I feel like I'm just waiting for it to go wrong?!

What is womengo through eh!!

My partner said to phone midwife but there's not much they'd say bar symptoms come and go etc

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brownear · 25/04/2017 08:45

If it's any help I have terrible symptoms every day and still have the same anxiety that you describe, especially coming up to each scan.

I've heard people can continue to get symptoms even if the baby's heart has stopped, so I don't think everyone's symptoms stop immediately if they miscarry.

Pregnancy anxiety is so cruel!

Dani00 · 25/04/2017 09:02

I feel the same , I'm 9+2 and have been having morning sickness , tiredness, sore boobs etc, The past few days absolutely nothing , feel fine and don't feel pregnant, due to a previous miscarriage I'm terrified something is wrong! X

MissBel12 · 25/04/2017 09:05

Could you book in for a private scan later this week or early next week? The wait for 12 weeks must seem so long Flowers

robinsongyal · 25/04/2017 19:21

I felt like that throughout my first trimester, I'm now 39 weeks! Grin I was convinced something was up and I'd get to the scan & there would be nothing there, I was just really symptomless! Tbh if it wasn't for bubba kicking and the tiredness I kinda carried on having no symptoms the whole way through! Occasionally some cramping but that's it. Don't worry yourself because it will most likely turn out to be fine and you'll have a lovely little bean cooking away! Ive heard that missed miscarriages are ultra rare it just seems like loads of woman have gotten them because we all read responses on these feeds Hmm x

jitterbug5 · 25/04/2017 19:41

I had exactly the same at 9 weeks and I'm 17 weeks now! I've been overly obsessive this entire pregnancy due to having a miscarriage and I'm a little bit (but not much) ashamed that when I have my 20 weeks scan it'll be my 5th scan... I've had 3 privately!! And probably another next weekBlush
It's so easy to get yourself worked up and convince yourself the worse. Get a private scan, it helps sooo much. Flowers

Dani00 · 25/04/2017 20:03

It makes me feel better reading your comments! I've booked in for a scan on Saturday (dreading it). X

CreamCheez · 25/04/2017 20:52

Same here! It's terrifying... I went through all of last week feeling very pregnant, big boobs, swollen belly, dizzy spells, urge to sit down, frequent wee, growing pains. No worries!
This week, boobs back to normal, no cramps, small bit of brown discharge. Eating loads (haven't had any sickness at all actually), no constipation. Where are my symptoms gone?
Almost 8 weeks now. Feeling v tired, headaches, lots of bed rest. But feeling v down / emotional. Just want hugs from DH all the time... Don't feel much attached to my baby right now.

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Leanne17 · 26/04/2017 15:54

I am so glad it's not just me driving myself crazy!!!

I've had three scans so far one due to my paranoia 2nd because of cysts and one last week due to bleeding

Each time bubs was fine growing and had a strong heartbeat!!

I do try feeling positive and I do feel in my gut everything's fine just mentally driving myself insane!!!

A I'm thinking about bar my two little boys xx

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Monkeydust · 26/04/2017 15:59

I was like this with both mine. Now 9month and 2 years.
My first I must if spend about 400 pound on scans and pregnancy tests. I felt them both start moving at about 14 (2nd) 16(1st)

I promise it gets easier

JonSnowsWhore · 26/04/2017 16:09

I don't mean this in a patronising way at all, but believe me, there will come a time when you will either laugh or cry at yourself, remembering back to when you were worrying about not feeling pregnant. Me & my cousin are 33 & 35 weeks & I actually messaged her the other night saying 'remember when we used to moan/worry about not being able to feel any pregnancy symptoms 😂😂😂😫😫😫😭😭😭
That's pretty much how I feel lol.

Hoping for lovely pregnancies for all of you 😊

Phoenix76 · 26/04/2017 22:42

Now this is why I didn't actually know I was pregnant with my first! Me, a grown woman, had no idea! (I was 36) I must have been around 12 weeks when I thought I'd better do a test as I felt a bit sicky. No obvious symptoms, every pregnancy is different. As I progressed, however, I soon felt pregnant! All the best, try to relax.

SucklingDuckling · 26/04/2017 22:48

It's awful early on isn't it? Sad I had sore boobs and sickness for the first five weeks and then... nothing. I was absolutely terrified and only had my first scan at 12 weeks, didn't even let myself get excited because I was so sure they'd tell me there was no heartbeat.
Everything fine at that scan. And the next. And the next. Only now at 26 weeks am I letting myself relax and that's because I feel her move every hour or so.

Good luck and I know it's awful those first weeks, try not to worry or let yourself get stressed out. So many women have healthy pregnancies and I hope you do too! Good luck Smile

CreamCheez · 27/04/2017 10:05

I'm feeling lots of activity again. I was in bed for a few days (apart from work), feeling awful. But my mad bod has started up again, I feel like I might have been moving to the next level. I was even delighted to feel nausea last night...

Dani00 · 28/04/2017 16:56

Hi ladies , I went to the EPU today and had a scan, baby was moving around and has little arms and legs now! So cute! Hope this helps some peoples worries! I'm sure I'm going to find something else to worry about soon but I'm going to enjoy the next few hours 😂

CreamCheez · 28/04/2017 18:28

That's great news, Dani! It's such a strange thing, this pregnancy lark. 22 weeks is the first scan, where I live. Half way through! Considering a private scan at 12 weeks, it's not expensive, might be useful.
Robin is right about MMC etc... Everything you read online is only a narrow gauge of women's experiences. Although forums like this keep me going at times!

Dani00 · 28/04/2017 19:14

Thank you CreamCheez! Where abouts do you live? I'd really recommend it, I'm having another one tomorrow purely because I'd already booked this private one and don't want to waste the money!

CreamCheez · 28/04/2017 20:13

Ireland. I'm happy to wait the 22 weeks, but it just the worry... Not normally an anxious person, so I'm trying to fall back into my default mode. If that's possible during pregnancy!

Sweetyboo · 28/04/2017 20:17

Oh i didnt know you can have scan that early can ya? I just find out im pregnant after 3 m/c and im WORRYING SICK. Keep worrying if baby still aline in me as latest one had no heart beat. Trying to stay positive & happy as i have a 6 year old but cant help it. Just keep worrying me & my midwife is no help atall i called her & she wants a breathing space from me. I want a private midwife now not her as she is NOT supportive. Dont know what to do where to go for help

Dani00 · 28/04/2017 20:23

I think it's definitely reassuring and I would go for a private scan just to help your worries, so worth it! Yes sweetyboo, I had my first scan at 5 weeks and then 7 +1 then today at 9+5 , not through my midwife though! I actually went to the urgent care centre due to pain (and worry because of previous m/c and they referred me to the EPU! I've got a private scan booked anyway for tomorrow because I worry so much X

Sweetyboo · 28/04/2017 22:28

Dani00 can they see baby at 5 weeks? Id baby ok? Coz is it not as big as seed? Im thinking book a private scsn now coz i worry too much too as i had 2 m/c after my 1st scan coz baby had a prob & 3rd recent one at 8weeks as no heart beat, do u think i sud wait 2 more weeks as im only 5weeks???

Dani00 · 28/04/2017 23:42

They don't see baby just ges/yolk sac. I only had it at that time because thought it may be ectopic. If you wait til 7 weeks you will be able to see more/heartbeat!

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Leanne17 · 01/05/2017 11:20

Was looking at statistics for missed miscarriages and it's only 1% of pregnancies end thus way!!

It feels a lot more with these forums etc

I still feel paranoid but have my 12 week scan in two weeks, deep down I feel everything is fine it's just mentally.

I just knew I'd lost my last ones maybe mothers instincts xx

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