When did your pregnancy start becoming hard work?

[chocolatey123]

I am 28 weeks pregnant with my first DC. I work full time (office hours), largely office based, hour commute each way.

I've had a very straightforward pregnancy so far - minimal morning sickness in first tri, bad back in the second tri but felt good otherwise, now starting to feel rubbish. Tired all the time, starving hungry all the time, uncomfortable, bad back, trouble sleeping. No medical concerns, very lucky.

I'm worried about getting through the next 12 weeks, and then I'm worried about managing to care for a baby and being even more tired etc.

I feel like a real moaner considering I've had an easy ride so far. I still have 12 weeks to go, am I being a real wuss? DH is generally lovely but doesn't quite 'get' pregnancy. He just says things like 'go to bed earlier' which in theory makes sense but is easier said than done (plus I am often asleep by 9:30 as it is!).

Hats off to those with other children at home already, carrying multiples and other generally more hectic lives than me!

I don't have any advice but I am also 29 weeks and am just feeling so heavy/uncomfortable already so I feel your pain! First child for us too. DH is very lovely and supportive but I just feel like I'm moaning all the time

I remember at 30 weeks (also straightforward pregnancy) with DD2 complaining to a friend that it was so hard just getting out of the door with DD1 (shoes/coats on etc). She told me it wasn't going to get much harder-I think she was right. You also naturally slow down and you give yourself more leeway (as do others) as you get bigger.

DD1 I felt fine until about 37 weeks (after an awful start with sickness!).
DD2 I felt pretty horrific all the way through. Horrific sickness (I was sick every single day until she was born), I was massive, I had SPD, bad back... and DD1 was only 19 months when DD2 was born and I was looking after her full time too all the way through the pregnancy.

oh chocolatey I could have written that post and I don't even go out to work so feel very very pathetic

And I wish going to bed earlier helped but I'm not sleeping well so it doesn't!

I'm 28 weeks with my second pregnancy and it's starting to get a harder now. I'm a teacher with a three year old so pretty busy.
I'm planning to work until 38 weeks with this one as in my last pregnancy it was up and down. Some weeks were harder than others but it's manageable!
As PPs have said, you just start naturally slowing down as you get bigger and people are far more understanding! Just take some time for yourself and try and enjoy it, I think I feel more relaxed this time knowing having a newborn is more tiring 😂

6-33 were hard. Gave birth before I got to 34!

Again didn't have a bad pregnancy, it just didn't agree with me. Sadly I'm not like MiL who was digging fucking ditches as 8 months and skipping about like Mary Poppins or some such shite.

Thanks everyone, I'm glad to hear I'm not alone!

As a couple of you have said I am sure you a right in saying that you naturally start to slow down, maybe it won't get progressively harder as every week goes by.

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People at my work (teacher) keep telling me about wonderful stories and how well they were coping up until they gave birth - coaching sports, skipping everywhere and feeling bloody marvellous. I'm just having to grit my teeth and smile along about how jolly wonderful it is, when actually even sitting at my desk is uncomfortable!!

Just about coping at 29wks (Pelvic girdle pain) but have to wear a mat belt most of the time and by 4pm on days I'm looking after DS I am ready to drop! I hate TV but CBeebies is my friend right now. 10 more weeks 😂

I felt grim from about week 6 with the most horrendous morning sickness. That's actually how I found out (put it down to a stomach bug at first because I was on the pill)

Had about 2/3 weeks respite in the middle of the second tri.

Last few weeks were thoroughly miserable and I cried when my induction (for pih) was scheduled for after my due date. still pissed about that one

I felt shit from 6-12 weeks, then fine for a while, then struggled with tiredness/PGP from about 26 weeks I reckon. I'm 36 weeks now, don't think it's necessarily got worse though, you'll manage. Your body is growing an entire human inside it, be kind to yourself! People are nicer to you as you get bigger as well which is very nice !

Show DH those week-by-week pregnancy thingies (I liked the Mumsnet one) which explains how the baby is growing and how you are feeling - think it makes it more real to them and he can hopefully understand why you feel like this a bit more. He's getting a baby out of this without any of the hard work so he needs to support you!

Agree those annoying Mary Poppins stories are not helpful !! Everyone's pregnancy is different and each pregnancy can differ.

Looking back my first pregnancy was a breeze. I taught full time until 38 weeks and just remember feeling tired and uncomfortable from about 30 weeks. Some sickness in the first tri but nothing awful.

This pregnancy has been hard work since week 6. I've got hypermeisis and I'm literally dragging myself through each day. I'm only 19 weeks

Sounds exactly the same as me, 29 weeks is when it suddenly hit me too. Can force myself to keep going and still having an easier time than most but everything feels like an uphill struggle especially in the mornings whereas a week earlier I was skipping along...

I'd say just past 31 weeks something hit me hard physically. But I might revise this as I get closer to the 40 week mark!

Also agree about toddlers and mornings! My DD (2yo) is luckily quite complacent in the mornings, but by the time we are both ready and I have dropped her at nursery and got to work, I feel like I have run a marathon (breathlessness, palpitations, just ready to go back to bed!) feel like a bus has run me over! Defo the most tiring part of the day for me even though I leave everything ready the night before so all it really is is bfast and clothes on!

I love my neighbour's reaction:
N: 'How far along is she now?'
DH: '31 weeks'
N:'Oh poor thing, she must be feeling awful.'

someone who understands!

By 6 weeks, the sickness hit me like a tone of bricks and pregnancy in general has been a struggle ever since.

Have to say though, nothing has been as hard work as getting pregnant in the first place

CaptainWarbeck I love your neighbour that is great!

I'm sick of people telling me how great I look, I mean thanks and all, but I feel shite! Would rather it was the other way around!

I think I felt ok 14-19 but awful apart from that. Currently 27 weeks and eagerly waiting to count down until EDD.

The tiredness hit me at around 24 weeks, until I had DD at 36 weeks prematurely. I was lucky in that I had very few symptoms no sickness or anything through my pregnancy but boy I was tired, I just wanted to get straight into bed when I got home. Later on I had terrible insomnia and would wake for several hours in the middle of the night. Try take it easy

I've had straightforward pregnancies but still felt like crap - tired etc. I just hate it.

I've felt loads better immediately after having both babies, so you could well be fine once you've had it.

First one was horrid until about six months - feeling faint and sick all the time. From six months onwards was great though, we moved house at 40+9, hired a van with no removal men and did my equal share of fetching and carrying.

Subsequent two I can't remember!

Last one, I felt marvellous until about month 7 when I had spd. I worked full time with two hours round trip commute til four days before my due date but it wasn't fun. I felt rubbish and put on more weight than I should because the spd stopped me being as active as before. It was probably hard work for the last two months or so.

I had a shocker of a pregnancy (I may be a wuss!) but horrendous sickness, generally felt unwell most of the time. All I can advise is that you will get there. After going through labour for 48 hours that ended in an emergency c section, pregnancy was a breeze!

I'm about 29/30 weeks and a mess of tiredness after doing school walk this am... Usually park and stride... Argh!!!

With DD I was good right up to 40 weeks it was the extra 2 weeks that did me in. The DS1 I had SPD from about 28 weeks which just got worse. Then DS2 had SPD from 16 weeks was on crutches by 26 weeks and finished work early at 32. However the labours got progressively easier with each pregnancy it seemed to be the worse my pregnancy was the easier labour was.