Ever since my sister has come back from travelling for a year she seems to be really distant with me. She's 20 and still lives at home with the parents.
I understand that perhaps its been a shock for her as when she came back our other sister was about to give birth (now has the baby), I've moved out and am expecting a baby and our other sister is getting on with her life too.
Anyway the sister with the issue just seems really blunt with me. I didn't think too much about it because she can often have major mood swings and often people find her rude in general. But our other sister said that she had been bitching about me calling me "malicious and manipulative". I'm not sure how this has been warranted. I asked the sister who told me this if she said why and if she agrees, she said "nope she never gave a reason just said it was hard to explain but she thinks you should be blocked out of the family. I don't get where she is coming from at all, not sure what you could have done...".
So her birthday is coming up, her 21st so a big one. And she is my sister, we grew up reasonably close and I've always thought we got on well so despite recently being told she thinks I'm "malicious and manipulative" I was expecting to be invited and want to buy her a nice present. But Dad has informed me I'm not invited! He said he doesn't know what I've done to piss her off but I'm not invited...
So now I'm stuck as to how to approach this issue. I'm 24 wks pregnant and not having an easy ride through pregnancy with sickness still affecting me (although who does have an easy pregnant anyway?!). I don't want there to be a rift between my family when my baby arrives but same time I don't want this drama to escalate by my prodding at it trying to fix it. I suffer with anxiety and depression so I'm rubbish with confrontation.
Perhaps her issue is that I'm pregnant? And maybe she doesn't know how to deal with pregnant women? I know our other sister said she was finding issues with her whilst she was pregnant...
I'm sorry to rant and i know its not really pregnancy related but rather more family drama issues but its really stressing me out to the point I've been crying over it (probably because I'm extra hormonal due to pregnancy granted).
Just any advice would be great. I would ask her directly but I cant drag my other sister into it by saying she told me you said I'm "malicious and manipulative" and I feel mean confronting her this close to her birthday too.
Oh idk, just feels good to at least share my issue on here. Sorry! Xx