Any gift ideas for a friend who is pregnant and has been through several miscarraiges before?

[greenday]

Very happy for a friend who is in her early stage of pregnancy. She already has a DS but has been through several miscarraiges before and after DS.
I would like to get her something but not sure what. Nothing extravagant (like pampering packs, etc) and would like something that's more thoughtful. But I've got mental block and can't think of any thing that says 'I'm happy for you ... here's a little something that may help'.

Any ideas anyone?

Any takers?

Personally I would be cautious of buying any baby things if she is still very early on. Perhaps some nice bubble bath suitable for use in pregnancy, Boots I think do a range. Or a home made voucher for lunch for you & her in a nice restaurant?

How early is she, 2st trimester still, what do you mean by early?

If it's early early stages still and she's had miscarriages, personally, i'd wait a bit.

I mean 1st trimester, sorry.

Yes, 1st trimester. Really, do you think I should wait? I guess its sensible. It would be tempting fate too much, wouldn't it?

My dm got me a photo frame when I was pg with dd1 as I'd had 5 m/c's over 4 years. it was great she never said what it was for so i put picture of dh in it. then when dd1 was born she came round will a photo she'd took in hospital and told me that the frame was for dd1 pictures only. still only have dd1 pictures.

Thanks for your suggestions/advice. CGOM and YorkSL - what lovely personalised ideas. That's in line with what I would like to do for this friend. She's part of a mums group that I see very often and not a good old friend that I would feel comfortable going overboard (with presents) with IYSWIM.
Anyway, now that I agree that it's wiser to wait till her 2nd trimester, I have 3 months to come up with something.

What about a book - like the simple quotes from famous people about motherhood, also when she gets to the later stages you could get one of those casts of a pregnant belly - if thats her sort of thing

Sounds like you have made your decision greenday - but just to reiterate, I would wait unti 2nd trimester. I had a mc and am now 22 weks pg with my second pg. But the first trimester was an extremely stressful time for me and the whole thing felt so uncertain. I dont think its so much tempting fate, but in trying to cope as best I had to keep think it as an IF this happens. I found it very difficult even to be happy about it with the friends I told, and would really not have appreciated any presents to recognise it (dont mean to sound ungrateful, but all a coping mechanism I think).

Have to say I'd really rather no-one got me anything in my 1st trimester, I'd certainly never get the baby anything myself in that early stage. I think you sound like a lovely friend but I would wait a bit. Maybe send a card telling her how happy you are for her and how much she is loved etc. It's up to you at the end of the day.

Thank you newby for that insight. I agree with you, especially about coping mechanism. I think too that she is doing just that. The best thing for me to do is to not rub it in her face.

fingers crossed for her that she make it to the second trimester and you get the opportunity to show how how mcuh you are about her with a gift. MY friend gave me some stretch mark cream the day after my 12 week scan, and actually that in itself was helpful in making me think it was about time I started believing it now!!!!