I am probably being precious but I need to rant or I'm going to burst.
I have a very needy and insecure dsis who needs to be included in everything or she will have major tantrums and cause problems for everyone. She also drinks too much which is pretty much 90% of the problem.
I am an older mum and 32 weeks pregnant. I was asked by dm if I'd like a baby shower about 6 weeks ago and if I did she would arrange it, just give her the guest list. I said no as I felt I was too old and uncomfortable about it and dh had suggested a "meet the baby" gathering or bbq during the summer. Dm thought it was a lovely idea and dropped the subject. I also told her NOT to let sis organise anything as she had done this sort of thing before and it's been a disaster and always about her.
On Sat afternoon I was taken to my sis's house on the pretence of picking something up to find she had organised the shower!!!! They really did keep it a surprise as there I was unwashed, hair greasy, no makeup and in a stained t shirt as I was painting the nursery.
I was livid with dh and nearly punched sis but managed to keep myself together for the guests. Dm was there as was mil, sil and 2 good friends. The others were my 3 female cousins and my sis's friends and her mil who I do not know.
I am really really grateful for those who attended but none of my other friends or dh's female side, who I'm very close to, were invited.
I have spent the rest of the weekend trying to explain to people who hadnt been invited that I had nothing to do with it and have had to apologise profusely to my dh aunt as well as she saw a status by sis on fb.
I know in the grand scheme of things "what is done is done" but I'm still really upset and can't even speak to sis at the moment as she thinks she has done something absolutely wonderful!!!!!