Anyone feel like they'll just never go into labour?

[RedCrab]

Im only 39+5 so not even due yet - due Friday. But I feel so depressed! I had it in my head that this baby would arrive early.

Dc1 was 11 days late. DC2 was five days early. I've had it in my head I was going to be super early with this one - I had a stomach bug around 37 weeks - which is stupid, I know.

Just feel like I'm never going to go into labour. I need to get my head sorted out! I've had all sorts of signs for weeks now - cramps etc and no longer take any notice of them. It genuinely feels like it's not going to happen

Sorry forgot to ask - how's everyone else doing?

RedCrab those are definite positive signs however unfortunately not necessarily imminent

Know how you feel. I'm cranky af.

40+4... Think I lost some of my plug last night which never happened with dd1 or dd2 and today I've been having on and off watery discharge - happened twice so far that I've had to change my liner each time... Bottom of my bump is feeling kinda heavy too... hope this is a good sign!

40+4... Think I lost some of my plug last night which never happened with dd1 or dd2 and today I've been having on and off watery discharge - happened twice so far that I've had to change my liner each time... Bottom of my bump is feeling kinda heavy too... hope this is a good sign!

user really hoping it happens soon!

Nothing going on here. Counting down to my sweep tomorrow. Good luck user!

Happy due date Have a meeting with the consultant today to insist on a CS if I get to 42 weeks. Hoping also for a sweep - they don't do them until 41 weeks here. I reckon and hope I'll go into labour before then but fingers crossed.

Every morning I wake up vaguely anxious until she moves. God, this is the pits.

How is everyone else?

RedCrab can you insist on a section if you want? I would much prefer that to induction which I'm due to have over the weekend. Have asked midwife but she just fobs me off and says to ask at hospital when I go in.

Glad it's not just me that gets a feeling of dread until she moves!

Troodie I read it in Childbirth a while ago and it got me thinking. I had a very emotionally traumatic, physically awful, and completely unnecessary induction with my first baby. I then went on to have a really positive HB with my second child. But it was all over my notes that I had zero faith and trust in the hospital and I would not go into hospital - not even the MLU - unless it was an emergency.

So this pregnancy, a few days ago, it started to occur to me that I might go overdue. Maybe even to 42 weeks. Don't think I will but might. At my 40 week appt a few days ago - actually done at 39+4 - I just told the midwives I wouldn't consent to an induction IF it came to it. At first they thought I meant expectant management and monitoring but I said no - I've no interest in going post dates. But I will not consent to an induction so a CS needs to be booked. I explained that the thought of going to the hospital to be induced specifically filled me with panic. That I knew it was completely irrational and in all likelihood the outcomes would be very different - but I literally can't make myself agree just to please MWs and consultants.

I am very much hoping it will not come to this and I will go into spontaneous labour and have a lovely HB. Even if I have to transfer in, in my mind it is not the same as being induced. It's not about labour. It is very specifically about induction.

Telling them all this, they just nodded and said they understood and got me an appointment with the consultant for today - this was Tuesday. I'm at the point now in my life and with this pregnancy where I'm basically like - I won't consent to an induction and I won't go over 42 weeks so it's on you to sort out the CS. No bullshit. I think even if they book it for 42 weeks and I go into labour that day, I would call and cancel the CS. I don't even particularly want a CS - it's just the lesser of two "evils" in my mind.

Thanks for info. Sounds similar to me but bit more traumatic in your case. I don't mind trying the pessary thing but dead against the drip. Will see what they say

41 weeks today 😢 went for a sweep this morning but the midwife couldn't even reach my cervix to do anything 😣 booker in for another one on Tuesday if still nothing induction booked for friday 😓 going to be a loooong week!

Oh User, that really sucks!! But a lot can happen in 5/6 days. I know it's hard but my MW told me that adrenaline scares off labour and happy hormones encourage it so having a good laugh or cry is a good thing! I just watched Rio: Being Mum and Dad about Rio Ferdinand and his family grieving for his wife/ his children's mum and I was bawling!! Is this your first - sorry can't remember if you've said.

Nope it's my third, didn't have any issues with the other 2 this one just seems to be stubborn! Starting to be hard to stay positive... Going to start spending more time on my ball in the evenings and hope it changes for the sweep Tuesday afternoon! Worse case she's been given her eviction notice for 5 days time - just really hope it doesn't come to induction, really want an easy water birth in the midwife led birth center

Yep same here - difficult third babies!! (Well I had a horrible time with my first but second was awesome home birth). Also resistant to induction. Boo. Fingers crossed it doesn't come to that.

My doula sent me this to hopefully get things moving: www.milescircuit.com/the-circuit.html

Thanks I'll take a look now :) think I got cocky because my first 2 were so easy now I'm paying for it haha... It just better not come to a c sec cos I'm home alone with my kiddies while the Mr works away... Going to be a hell of a lot harder if i need one of those!

Yes I know the feeling about getting cocky! My second came at 38 weeks so I just assumed it would be the same. Idiot!

I have requested a CS at 42 weeks in lieu of an induction because I think I've developed a genuine phobia of induction but now I'm starting to panic about a CS too. Gaaaaah!!!

Yup dd1 was 7 days late but dd2 was only 3 days so I was hoping this one would have been on time.... How wrong was I?!? The thought of a section freaks me out more than induction so I really hope it works first time if I get that far! 4 more days 😓

FINALLY just lost my plug 🙈 hope it's not much longer!

41+2 attempted sweep number 2 - failed 😣 midwife still can't reach!

Don't lose hope User! I was just reading about posterior and anterior cervix positioning with regards to going into labour. This is from a midwife:

Before labour, having an anterior or posterior labour has zero indication of anything. Your provider might say it's a great sign for it to be anterior, but I've seen many a posterior cervix in early labour bring a baby out a few hours after that exam. An anterior cervix can take its own sweet time dilating. Before active labour, I'd not give any credence to where the cervix is at all.

I'm trying not to give up hope but it's getting harder by the day! I did 14k steps yesterday hoping it would work and bring it down but nope it's being stubborn :/ 2 more days so fingers crossed it will happen on its own before Friday 10am

I know, sorry, I know it's so hard. And the bastard of it is the more you stress, the less likely it becomes. Poor love, it's the worst thing ever. I'm trying evening primrose oil suppositories and my breast pump. Come on, oxytocin!!

A week ago i saw my mw who documented me as 3/5 engaged and said most likely baby will be here in 7 days time. I had couple of very promising nights with a lot of pressure and regular bh but couple days ago baby became disengaged, her head is free and I am pretty sure of it. I still get bhs but no pressure to below during that. Pretty sure I will go over but who knows. My 7 days run up tomorrow