Has been an egg donator ( or received eggs)?? & people who haven't ...would you?

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My very good mate's sister is struggling conceiving - they're looking into going abroad for treatment as they can't get an egg donator over here.
I've been wondering about offering to donate eggs.

I guess I've got two sets of questions - first is practical - I know in practical terms that this will be a hassle/probably not much fun. How hard is it?

In terms of the emotional side, I guess I'd need to think about any resulting baby as nothing to do with me ...will that be possible? Esp as I suspect I won't hugely agree with their parenthood methods (could be wrong) Would you want to stay 'friends' with an egg donator?!

Thoughts/opinions/experiences??

oh guys, come on, lets be more generous here! i think it must be wonderful to help someone to conceive their baby! i would donate my eggs for strangers and family.

Interesting question from evans. I wouldn't use donated eggs, I'd adopt. I myself was adopted, so I feel quite strongly that I'd prefer to take a child out of social services than faff about with aided-conception. And I wouldn't have cared about not having a newborn either (I always wanted 'children', rather than 'babies' iyswim).

Luxlife, it's not about being generous. It's something you can either do or not, IMO.

I couldn't. I couldn't know that there was a child out there that was biologically my boys' half sibling, but I was unlikely to meet them, I'd never know what they looked like, if they were happy, what they liked to eat, whether they wanted their ears stroked as they fell asleep, I just couldn't - it would torment me.

And no, I wouldn't have donor eggs. I'd rather adopt. I thought about that long and hard when I was 22 and told I couldn't have children (they were wrong).

i dont know, the way expat talked about it was so strong, and also how she would prohibit her daughters... anyway, yes, either you can or cannot. i can.

The drugs you take to stimulate egg production can kill you though, so I can see why people wouldn't want their DDs doing it.

Loopymumsy, I saw DS1 on a scan as an egg, so I have quite strong bonds with mine Only produced one that cycle, so know it was him!

I couldn't do it for the same reasons as hunkermunker. I have the absolute admiration for people that do. I would have considered donor eggs if I had needed to which makes me feel very selfish as I would not do the same myself.

so maybe im talking out of my ass when i say i can, i havent heard/read that it can kill you.

i like the idea of helping other people to conceive though, it is so stressful for couples that cant. i like the idea of adoption too.