17 -19 weeks way too late for first scan ( after 2 mc?!)

[honey2theb]

Im between 14 and 16 weeks pregnant. I had a mc in August, so my cycles werent back to normal, thats why im not exactly sure, but i think 14 weeks. Anyway i had my booking in appointment with midwife nearly 3 weeks ago, where she said because of my 2 previous mc ( one missed) she would get me an urgent appointment. Now today i have got really stressed and rang the hospital, because my surgery said they didnt have a number for the midwife?!!?! so anyway the hospital said they have only just recieved my paperwork, and theres a 3 week waiting list and nothing they can do! im so stressed and tearful, because i didnt know i had miscarried the first time until my scan
So what do you think?! sorry its so long!
ooh and i ordered a doppler today. not sure if its a wise thing to do but i need something! im feeling really down!

thanks xxx

I would ask to be put on a cancellation list - would deal direct with the person who books the scans tbh - then she can call if a time comes up - or ring up daily til they book you in! Mine forgot to book me in for dating and my 20 week scan - midwife fault not hosp.

Iwould get an appt to see gp. They may be able to get you in quicker and ring to get a cancellation. Keep ringing and you should get somewhere. Hope it works out okay. I had 2 mc and didnt know til scan. But now have 2 healthy dc. Will be thinking of you.

Well it seems to me that they should have given you a priority scan even if they were very booked up but who knows what their policies are like. There's a few things you can do if you want to get this scan sooner and calling to hassle them to bring forward the appointment isn't working. It is a bit naughty but you can tell a bit of a white lie and say you've had a bit of spotting and you are concerned - depends how desperate you are to get the scan! There's no way for them to know if it's true or not and in and of itself spotting is not necessarily a dangerous thing but they would check it out if you asked. I don't know whereabouts you live but if I were you I'd make an appointment for a private scan. For a little over £100 you'd have the piece of mind. You can always call your GP and see if he/she can pressure your local hospital to get you scanned sooner. You can also go to your GP and have them do some blood work to look at your hormone levels which could be useful to help put you at ease. I know it's difficult but try not to get yourself stressed, it's the last thing you need right now.

Could you afford a private scan if there was anywhere near you that did them? (not that you should have to, but just casting about for practical options). In my experience, though, if you're in a pregnancy-after-miscarriage situation then even if you get an earlier scan you start worrying within about two days that the baby may have died since the scan (comes from reading too many sad posts on the internet that say "he'd been fine on the scan just the week before"), so then get back to being stressed again. I did really find that the doppler helped with those moments.

I think that is awful - I would expect someone who had had 2 mc's to be offered an early scan - that is certainly what they would do at my GP/hospital. If I was you I would do what the previous poster said and got to your local hospital and say you've had cramps and bleeding. Most have an EPU (early pregnancy unit) and will send you there for a scan. They are quite use dto people coming in with that and everything being allright - I had some bleeding at 7 weeks in my first pg and went down there and we saw the baby and a heartbeat which was so reassuring. With mine you were supposed to phone the EPU first but i know people who have just turned up at casualty and got sent through.

This time I paid for a private scan at 6 weeks as I just could not go through 12 weeks (and more in your case!) not knowing whether or not there was a heartbeat. I personally think it is maybe a tad unethical to pretend you have a problem to get a scan at the EPu, under normal circumstances, but in your case, given the lack of care yo are receiving, I'd say it was perfectly justified. How can they leave you to be so stressed and worried when everything is fine, I'm sure.

Good luck - go to the hospital and fib (or over exagerate, I find you can always convince yourself of cramps if you are looking for them) or get a private scan.

thanks you lot. I dont feel so unreasonable now!
I have sent an enquiry on email about a private scan so i'll see what happens!

I feel huge and sick so i suppose maybe thats a good sign, It's just that after my mc's i dont want to tell anyone until i have a scan - which is getting quite difficult!! and i cant wait until 19 weeks to tell family really can i!

If i dont get a date through in the next few days i'll ring again or even go down there with cramps!! thanks again xxxx

Got my appointment today!! - for monday!!!

Looks like my tears worked!

Now ive only got 3 days to panic for

thats more like it - well done

well done!!
i can belive they didnt do this !!! where are you , why didnt you get a 12 week scan??

honey2theb - Hope it all went well today x

Hello! thank you itw went really well. I am 14 +6, so exactly where i thought i was! really happy!!

thats wonderful news