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Paranoid, stressed and only 4 weeks

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OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 13:29

I found out really early due to feeling ill. Ive known since Thursday and im already thinking time has slowed down. Im scared something goes wrong n have no one to talk to. Proper melt down of day😟 someone hold my hand

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DinosaurFanGirl · 21/03/2017 13:39

Congratulations lovely.

Are you worried about anything in particular or just everything? If you're finding anxiety too much you can ask your GP to refer you to the mental health midwife. Mine is lovely and really supportive and offers a drop in session every Friday, your area might have something similar x

OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 13:42

I'm just super tired, and I'm stressed something goes wrong. It's our first, I conceived in just 3 cycles after the pill. Just seems too good to be true. Like I'm waiting on the blow... Being exhausted isn't helping

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DinosaurFanGirl · 21/03/2017 13:50

I do relate to you, even at 22 wks I'm still paranoid that this little miracle in me won't give me the chance to meet him.

But what gives me comfort is how many pregnancies are successful and how many of those are total fine. We often only hear the bad stuff but try to remember that there are many many many more completely normal pregnancies and births.

Hopefully by 2nd trimester tiredness will go. I actually told everyone as soon as I found out I was pregnant (even work!) As I knew I would need the support as I was so tired and constantly being sick. Everyone was lovely. Might be worth telling a few people around you?

OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 13:55

My DP and my mother know. All going well we plan on telling DPs parents at weekend, mother's day in UK. I'm just shattered and really don't function well like this. Get proper crappy and paranoid about everything. I think if I were less tired I'd cope and manage my emotions better. Poor DP got a mouthful last night for messing the sofa cushions up lol.

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OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 14:00

And congratulations to you. A little boy is it?

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DinosaurFanGirl · 21/03/2017 14:10

Thank you, yes little boy. Feels so much more real now I can start calling him Vincent (the name we've chosen).

Does DP know what to expect from pregnant women? Was a shock for mine but I encouraged him to read a few books and talk to my mum and his mum so he knew I wasn't becoming crazy haha. Also I told him that if I get grouchy or OTT please just remember that I'm an emotional wreck that's over tired and hormonal. Might be worth having a similar conversation? He's fine now and he knows how to handle my irrationality.

I jut wish I could advise you on how to take your tiredness away but you just have to ride through it. Are you taking the pregnancy vitamin supplements? Make sure you get plenty of iron just to ensure you don't get extra tired from iron deficiency

OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 14:20

I was on iron before but stopped after I found out. I stopped all my supplements except pregnancy ones until I see or speak to midwife/GP. Xx

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DinosaurFanGirl · 21/03/2017 14:30

Pregnancy supplements usually have iron in so you should be okay but might be why you're extra tired. Perhaps get in some extra spinach and peas with your dinner to boost iron levels naturally until you see GP?

Hopefully once you see GP you'll feel calmer too as they can start pointing you in right directions etc.

Have you cut down now caffeine btw? It's recommended that you restrict your caffeine intake (which is horrid considering all I wanted was a coffee to wake me up!). If you have cut it down that might be another reason for tiredness and that will improve for sure. ☺

OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 14:38

I wasn't a big caffeine fan, aside from a cup of tea now n then and sometime a cola or other fizzy drink. I'm still drinking tea... Normal at work as it's from a machine and decaffeinated at home. I'm not a veg fan... Hint why I was on so many supplements but I've upped my fruit intake. Not at GP for another 3 weeks or so... I may be in hibernation by then lol

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DinosaurFanGirl · 21/03/2017 14:54

Ahh I see! I'm not a medical health professional but iron supplements are said to be fine to take during pregnancy. I continued with mine as I was anaemic before pregancy anyway. Up to you though, totally get wanting to wait till you see GP.

How comes you can't see GP for 3 weeks though! Such a long wait. Can you not squeeze in earlier? X

OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 15:20

It's a nightmare getting a appointment. I already had one booked so I'm just sticking with it lol. Xx

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Lelly0503 · 21/03/2017 16:28

Hi I felt exactly same as you, it does get better and you do start to relax and enjoy it more as the weeks mount up. I was very irrational in the early weeks, I had two early scans for reassurance which helped, could be something to think about to help. I am 17wks now and at 4 weeks I read about people being that far gone and it felt an absolute lifetime away. But I promise time does start to speed up, I have a home Doppler which helps me calm down when I start getting anxious, I do have worries and doubts but from what I've read so do most people, I think pregnancy is one massive worry!! You will be absoloutely fine and in a couple of weeks you may start getting sickness which weirdly reassured me xx

OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 16:31

I read about the dopplers but there's nothing to pick up on until week 6 / 7 / 8... Is that right?

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Lelly0503 · 21/03/2017 16:44

I didn't use mine until 16 weeks, I heard people hearing the HB from 8 weeks but could cause more worry if you couldn't find it as the baby is so small and tucked away Xx

mistermagpie · 21/03/2017 16:54

It's awful, I found out very early too and was practically counting the minutes until 12 weeks and analysing every little twinge. I remember looking at how many pregnancy vitamins were in the packet and working out how many packets I would need to get through until 12 weeks, 20 weeks etc etc etc. I'm now 38 weeks and have 10 vitamins left!

Time does pass quicker later on. I found between about 18 and 30 weeks it really flew and then slowed down. Now it is back to counting the minutes and analysing every little twinge for me!

Try not to think about it too much just now. Obviously follow guidelines etc, but other than that try to focus on other things. Pregnancy is really really long and you get plenty of time to plan, for now just celebrate each day you are pregnant and carry on as normal.


OnNaturesCourse · 21/03/2017 17:08

I'm trying to be as normal as possible with the side effects like hot flushes, cramps, tiredness and achy feeling. People keep asking if I'm sick! Lol

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