Trouble Shaving ''Down There'' In Late Pregnancy.

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I know this is TMI or too personal but honestly, I need advice on this. I am someone who feels incredibly self-conscious if I'm not shaved down there before having sex or spending the evening/weekend with my boyfriend. But recently as i've gotten bigger, i've been finding it really hard to reach to be able to do it as my bump has been in the way.

I'd be so embarrassed if I couldn't keep myself ''sorted'' for the rest of this pregnancy, Even more so when in just 2 months I'll be giving birth and people will be looking at that area. Alot of people have said they get their boyfriends or husbands to do it for them, but I'm a very shy person and wouldn't be comfortable with that. I don't really know what to do.

Anyone experianced this problem before?

Glad you knew already - someone I know was really upset when they took off part of her expensive pedicure!

Also when you have a newborn baby you'll really have more on your mind than bodily hair. I know some people prefer a smooth pubic area which is fine (I like to have smooth legs) but I find it bizarre that their partners can't cope with the sight of them hairy. After my first baby I don't think I shaved anything at all for months! What with the sleepless nights, cracked nipples, sore fanny, mountains of washing - bit of body hair was a small concern! And any spare time I had was grabbing sleep not shaving .....

Can't you do it in the shower by feel? I shaved everyday like that when pregnant including in early labour!

99.9999% of women poo whilst pushing the baby out, and the vast the majority of women have pubic hair when giving birth.... leave your dignity at the door on the way in, you'll be fine!

summerson l, i suggest you go for a wax.

If she can't face her boyfriend looking down there, then why would she be OK with a randomer waxing hair if her?

If you need a CS, it's worth having a MW shave any places where they're likely to stick a dressing (same for both sexes, all operations) as it would be utterly horrible when the dressings come off otherwise.

Echo the advice that it would be unwise to be waxed for the first time during PG, because your undercarriage can be more sensitive and it doesn't sound much fun to have tender fanny (ever, tbh, but certainly not when you can't reach to tend to it). Ditto using a depilatory cream for the first time.

Don't wax, unless you want sore bits for your birth experience, during pregnancy your skin changes and waxing is actually not recommended although everyone is different.

Shaving in front of mirror sort of works but I also read some people ask partners to help. It does not matter how hairy it looks though to MWs. I usually shave my bikini line and since few weeks ago I can't reach. Last time I got to it was when we stayed in a hotel and they had a large almost full height mirror in the bathroom.
I now have trouble getting to my legs. I it is very likely I will get to labour looking very furry as it is just to hard to do all that shaving right now.

I didn't let my husband shave me 1) because I was afraid he would accidentally cut me and 2) because I don't want him staring at my hairs around my vagina and bum like that.

I used to just have a good feel with my hand and stroke and see if I could feel stubble. I got as much off as possible.
My husband loves me just how I am and no doctors or nurses were interested in my hair do but I still tried my best to keep myself feeling as normal as possible.
So yea, in short just have a feel and check with your hands instead of trying to look
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When I was pg with DC1 I managed to maintain a short back and sides using a complex configuration of mirrors but towards the end I just thought 'fuck it' and went for a full 70s bush. It was quite liberating.

In the end I had a section so DH had the enviable task of shaving it all off with his hair clippers the night before.

I thought I would feel self conscious as usually when he is scrutinising my fanjo that closely, the mood is very different and he is certainly not holding cutting equipment. But actually it was hilarious and he made a very good job of it. So much so that he is chief pube tamer for this pregnancy as soon as I get too spherical to do it myself.

I think you need to choose the lesser of the three evils - either your partner does it, a stranger does it in a salon or you embrace your natural bush. As pps have said, hcps have seen it all and won't care a jot.

Good luck with everything.

could you not go and get waxed?

Hi op. I set up a mirror in the bathroom and used clippers to have a general tidy up. I had to contort myself a bit but it worked!

Besides, when sewing up (if necessary) HCPs seem to prefer to see how the hair grows down there as that'll prevent problems with ingrowing hairs and your scar. Or so Belgian gynaecologists say anyway, I've heard.

Oh my - imagine dealing with an episiotomy scar and ingrowing pubic hair too. My eyes are watering! Keep it long!

I'm an intimate waxer.

It's absolutely fine to wax during pregnancy. I wax plenty of women for the first time in their 2nd and 3rd trimesters. If your waxer uses hot/hard wax (not strip wax), you shouldn't be AT ALL sore by the time you've put your clothes back on.

I took a photo of a notice in my consultants office that said NOT to shave for 2 weeks before a planned section but hair removal creams and waxing was fine. I'll try and find the photo...

I don't normally have a Brazilian myself but definitely will prior to my planned section in 6-7 weeks. I couldn't give a toss who sees my bits hairy or not hairy, I just find it cleaner afterwards dealing with lochia etc.

I know there will be people here that say it shouldn't have been top of my priorities, however it's a personal decision that I won't apologise for.
I can't stand hair down there, it irritates me and makes me feel uncomfortable. I was able to shave myself until I was about 37 weeks. After that (as much as he didn't want to as he was scared of cutting me or hurting me), I got my husband to do it. After the birth, I went as long as I would without shaving, but shaved about a week later (just put an old towel on the floor in case of any drips of blood.
It did feel strange, as id never let him see me that way before. But after the birth, I really wasn't bothered. I figured that since he'd just held my hand while I gave birth to our baby, I had no need to worry about him seeing me that way anymore. He helped me shower after the birth, and offered to help with the water for my stitches if needed (though I drew the line at having him in the toilet while I went).
I'd say let your boyfriend help, after all, you are having his baby, so he's seen you naked before.

I work with the staff who delivered our baby and as I went early I wasn't prepped in that area as much as I would have liked. Despite knowing the staff (mainly male drs who as sister V/birth)I didn't care in the slightest at the time who looked or examined what!

I find it sad that women are so pressured into believing that they should remove the pubic hair that Nature put there for hygiene reasons. Are men expected to shave down below these days (genuine question?)

Im lying in bed reading this. I asked my dh if he would shave it for me when I cant see it anymore. I am pregnant by the way lol. He didnt hesitate to say yes. I think if you cant even ask your dh for help with that then you need to keep him out of the delivery room. You will poop, pee yourself and probably throw up on someone so I would try to work on not being shy before you go into labour or you will find the whole experience humiliating. Nobody will care what it looks like, they just want to get the baby out safely. Good luck with your pregnancy x

You could try using a mirror, ask your DP to help out, go for a bikini wax, ask your mum or sister if you have one to do it, or go au natural, nobody will mind at all.