Feel like the worst mum ever X I'm currently pregnant with dc2 and have lovely dc1-3.5. I'm really struggling with morning sickness and off on half term. My husband is away with work and I'm booked to take my little boy to Thomas land today. I just feel so so sick and keep being sick with no warning. My mum has told me I should have stuck with DS and has implied that I'm irresponsible and selfish having another (am married and a full time teacher, 33 and own our house yet she's still making me feel like an irresponsible child) she's already told me she won't be able to love another grandchild and keeps making digs about DS coming to live with her to get away from'the noisy baby'. I just feel like crying!
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Lunalovepud ·
22/02/2017 08:46
Your mum sounds great and not at all like she is jealous of you and wants your child to live with her. 
First thing I would do is get rid of your mum until you are feeling well enough to deal with her nonsense. She sounds awful and her toxic comments are the last thing you need.
Have you seen your GP about sickness? If you haven't, please do - there is no need to feel so awful.
When is your DH back?
for you OP.
Hgmother ·
22/02/2017 09:42
Is the tablet cyclizine by any chance? You can get other medication like ondensetron metachlopramide. I'd ask to change it because taking something that makes you so drowsy when you're in charge of little ones is not good as you know!
Ps you have hyperemesis, not morning sickness. Your mother needs to read up on that before making such comments!
I know how hard it is. You're not alone. There's a brilliant HG thread on here if you need it. No one judges they just listen and help. Good luck and good health in your pregnancy
vfoster ·
22/02/2017 10:18
Your life sounds so similar to mine! I'm 34, a full time teacher with a 3.5 year old and expecting number 2!
If it makes you feel any better I never have dinner ready in the table when my husband gets in....he'd be lucky if there was food in the house! My parents have made similar comments about taking my first (though not as critical, think they think they are being helpful!).
You are anything but a failure! Being a mum is tough; working as a full time teacher is tough; trying to have family time is tough! You are doing all of that! I am currently buried under a pile of mock GCSE exams and was contemplating how hard it is to do everything....then I stopped and played candy crush for an hour. Because it's also really important to look after yourself! I struggled with PND after my first and someone told me: if there is an emergency on a plane they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping anyone else. You need to be kind to yourself in order to take care of everything else!
You are not failing. You are doing a great job. Be kind to yourself and tell other people to knob off. 
Final note: I've let my jkid watch Trolls on repeat since yesterday morning. She's never been happier xx
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