Feeling in limbo! Early pregnancy

[Missonhartbaby]

Hey all, so I've just found out I'm about 3 weeks pregnant and just feel like I should be doing something more than I am. I've booked in a midwife apt and got my pregnancy pack etc... I keep feeling like I'm not really pregnant! I'm so scared that Il go see the midwife and she'll just be like your not pregnant. Is all this normal?!?!

Oh no!!! That's horrible, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you but hopefully it's nothing!! Was it heavy or just abit? Cos bleeding isn't always something to worry about sometimes it's just normal but I would be worried too so I completely understand! Please let me know how it goes!!!

Thank you it was quite a lot I have had a little pink spotting after sex throughout and have never been concerned about that but yesterday it was a lot more than normal. They have warned me they may not be able hear/see anything on the scan tomorrow because of it being early on which is adding another dimension of nerves to the mix! I will let you know, thank you.

I really really hope it's nothing and little one is still safe and sound!! Yea of course, hopefully they will be able to give you more info though and they might be able to tell! Try to relax tonight (I know it's difficult!!) but have a nice bath, chill out and try to get some sleep... Look after yourself and speak to you tomorrow!

Emvy I will be praying everything goes well for you and your little one is safe and sound and healthy. Try to rest as much as possible, sending you lots of love ❤️ x

Mumh3art16 when is your little one due?! :) have you had your first scan yet?, I'm desperate to have mine but it's soo far away!!

Thanks guys

I'm 10+2 and I have serious scanxiety. My symptoms are very real, I just can't help worry about every possible thing - it's driving me a bit loopy, I'm counting down hours until my scan which is 2weeks 2hours today!

I did read somewhere that you shouldn't continue to test after your BFP due to fluctuating hormones even after a miscarriage, so I've refrained from POAS since my initial BFP.

I do worry I will get there on my scan day ad receive bad news, but I suppose all we can do is stay positive.

Congratulations x it's a long waiting game love x I found out at 4 weeks and I have my scan in a few hours and am now 13 weeks, it's my 2nd but 5 years later so I'm a lot older and busier but then I'm so excited.

I'm on my third and every single time I've showed up to the 12 week scan terrified there'll be nothing there and they'll look at me like I'm crazy! it's a very common problem. All I can say is enjoy these weeks, symptom less and worrying they may be but it's better than horrendous nausea/vomiting and later on heartburn and shoddy hips. You may of-course dodge all these problems.

So, I had my scan this morning. They couldn't detect a heartbeat but did see a sac, yolk sac and node which they dated at 6 and a half weeks. I have to go back in 10 days for another. They would usually see a heartbeat at this point apparently so they're trying to prepare me for the worst but also told me to keep a little hope as there are occasions where heartbeats aren't heard until later on. These 10 days will be like wading through treacle I'm sure! My emotions are all over the place and I don't really know what to think. A very uncertain, worrying time ahead but keep praying that my little one keeps growing 🙏🏻 Thank you for all your well wishes, we've still not told anyone except my mum so I really don't know what I'd do without you lot to talk to. A source of comfort and reassurance I hope you are all feeling well today and symptoms are at a minimum!

Envy - I'm so sorry, they're right that you should keep hope though, scans are so very difficult to date so early on - I was wrongly put back a week at an 8 week scan, everything is so tiny just being a mm off makes a huge difference. Good luck for your next scan, it must be a very worrying and stressful time for.

Emvy it is very early to hear/detect a heartbeat. Stay positive and we will have you in our thoughts and prayers x

Emvy we're always here of you need some time to talk to, I've told a few of my close friends because I need to talk things through, if I kept it all to myself I would be going crazy!! Fingers crossed everything will turn out OK for you, try to keep positive, 6 weeks is still very early to find a heartbeat I think.. I'm keeping all my fingers and toes crossed!!! Lots of love

Thanks so much everyone. I haven't told any of my friends because my OH doesn't want me to, until we've had the next scan and know for sure. We're going to tell parents this weekend though so we have that support whatever the outcome. A friend of mine has been through an early miscarriage so I'd like to talk to her really but will approach that with him over the weekend after the stress of today. All your well wishes, luck and prayers are making me feel very supported so thank you.

I think there's a big taboo about not telling people before the first scan but I think if something bad does happen you need all the support you can get instead of carrying around this huge secret and handling it all yourself... It's harder to explain to people that you were pregnant but now your not instead of just ringing your best friend or parents for support if you do miscarry. In my opinion anyways. But everyone thinks differently. I would try to get you OH to realise that you need abit of support from your friend as she knows first hand and see what he says :)

There is so much isn't there Missionhartbaby. I always wanted to tell a handful of my closest friends straight away but my OH has different opinions on the matter! I will definitely approach the subject with him though. I'm due to go back to work tomorrow (took the day off sick but didn't tell them exactly why). I was hoping to speak to my boss tomorrow and explain everything to her as will obviously need the next scan off and preferably the whole day (and week?!) if it's bad news, but she's not in tomorrow. Going to be difficult going into work with no support. This is no fun!

Yea I've told my boss aswell as we're pretty close anyway and it's mainly just me and her so it's nice that she can listen when I'm worrying at work or just super excited and wanting to talk about it loads. The only reason I haven't told any family yet is because I want to tell my parents in person so we're visiting then next weekend and we have to tell them first because my partners family will never be able to keep it quiet!! Haha. At least your mum can be there for you though, you need her support :) what has she said about it?

Yeah I'm not sure how I'm going to get through the day tomorrow without someone who just knows, if that makes sense? It must be nice to be able to be excited and worried while at work, I feel very secluded! Some of my colleagues yesterday said that I seemed down and I hadn't even been for the scan then! They're bound to be even more prying tomorrow!

My mum has been very matter of fact, I guess with it being her profession that's her natural response! She just said to stay hopeful but prepare for the worst and that what will be, will be! Easier said than done. I would've said the same thing if it wasn't me going through it though! It's changed my outlook on it for sure. I know it's common but it seems when it's suddenly you, it changes your whole perspective.

Hey Emvy, just thought I'd check in, how is every thing? Hope your feeling OK!