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43 replies

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 08/02/2017 23:28

Hi

So I'm in a bit of a shocked state at the moment. I did a pregnancy digital test and it came back positive at 3+ weeks

I'm stunned, confused, scared, excited all at once. Me and my partner started trying for my first child over 12 years ago and nothing, I've never used contraceptives since but gave up on anything many years ago. I did consider IVF but decided against it, there was always a reason to wait longer due to work/family etc. Infertility was unexplained although some small cysts on ovaries, doctor said it would make it more difficult but should not prevent it

I only did the test because I had a hospital minor procedure due on Friday and the letter said it cant proceed if you are pregnant, then I realised I was 10 days late. I still thought nothing of it picked up a test as was at the shops, forgot about it when I got home and remembered at tea time. I was looking at Facebook waiting for it to tell me not pregnant so when the nurse asked Friday they wouldn't make me pee in a cup....

So now I'm completely shocked, the timing is absolutely rubbish given some personal issues but still, I want to be excited! I'd completely given up on ever having children, my partner has a 15 year old and we have a great relationship and that was enough so I was happy.....but this has completely thrown me

Sorry for the rambling post, my partner is also in shock so not much for conversation right now and I don't want to tell my family yet as I'm convinced something is going to go wrong....

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Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 09/02/2017 08:50

Thank you all for your kind words

Tried to get a GP appointment today but none available, have to try again tomorrow morning, no pre booked ones available for weeks (UK based). Bit gutted as would have liked some reassurance today. I have left a message for my hospital consultant though so hopefully he can put my mind at ease instead

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LexieLulu · 09/02/2017 08:57

The clear blue week indicators were spot on week wide for me. So if it says 3 weeks it's 5 according to midwives.

vfoster · 09/02/2017 16:32

If it's any use my doctors wouldn't do anything. We went after first positive pregnancy test and they just sent us away with the number for the midwives!
This time round I just contacted the midwives whose number we found on a leaflet next to the pregnancy tests in the chemist.
Other GPs do more than mine though!

Babyblues14 · 09/02/2017 22:51

I cried for 24 hours straight when I found out I was pregnant, couldnt sleep for more than half an hour. called the doctors the next day, thought I was having a break down (first baby) turns out it was just shock lol I felt better telling someone else other than my partner about it, told my mum after I'd been the doctors. Im only two months now and have to stop myself from buying every baby item in sight. It will sink in soon and when you get to talk about it properly it will feel real
good luck, hope all is well xx

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 10/02/2017 10:41

Thanks all, I'm seeing my GP at lunchtime today. Have to see him first as I have other health issues so need to adjust medications

I'm still in complete shock, I did tell my dad and sister though. I think it'll start to feel real when I actually have a proper conversation with my partner, he's still saying nothing so it's hard to make it feel real

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MommaGee · 10/02/2017 11:47

Once he sees baby in the scan it should help too. Good luck today x

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 10/02/2017 15:35

Despite being told yesterday I had to see the GP first it was a bit of a pointless appointment, every question was answered "ask the midwife". So I now have a my booking appointment with the Midwife on the 23rd

I think I'm going to be a nevous wreck by then, lots of strange sensations going through my body right now and I'm not sure what to make of it all. I keep googling every weird feeling and they all seem normal but it would have been nice to talk to someone properly. I do have a giant pack of information and booklets which is a bit overwhelming!

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ALRM · 10/02/2017 16:44

For a bit of light relief for you... I only found out I was pregnant because I was seeing a specialist about a colonoscopy and did a just in case test beforehand as I had an inkling. So my OH came home to ask about the state of my bowels and instead I told him I was pregnant. He is still catching up! One piece of useful advice I got from a (very involved) male friend was that for him it wasn't real until the baby was actually born. He felt awful during the pregnancy that he was as 'into it' as he felt he should be but the minute baby was born he was besotted!

ALRM · 10/02/2017 16:44

For a bit of light relief for you... I only found out I was pregnant because I was seeing a specialist about a colonoscopy and did a just in case test beforehand as I had an inkling. So my OH came home to ask about the state of my bowels and instead I told him I was pregnant. He is still catching up! One piece of useful advice I got from a (very involved) male friend was that for him it wasn't real until the baby was actually born. He felt awful during the pregnancy that he was as 'into it' as he felt he should be but the minute baby was born he was besotted!

mummabubs · 10/02/2017 18:59

I had exactly the same experience re: GP, NHS website tells you to go to GP first and mine just instantly said "oh you don't need to talk to me, just tell the receptionist and they'll give you a pack" and then answered every Q with "the midwife will tell you". Useless!!

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 14/02/2017 00:20

Thanks Alrm and Mumma. I'm sure he'll get there, he's a great dad to his dd by his ex who is 15 so no concerns there. He just says it doesn't feel real at the moment. We gave up trying so long ago that I think this is just too unreal for either of us. Maybe the first scan will make it more so, until then I guess we just won't talk about it much :)

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MommaGee · 14/02/2017 01:20

Have you told the teenager yet?
My niece was a bit Confused Hmm when my sis announced her pregnancy (she's 14) but utterly adores him now

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 14/02/2017 01:44

Not yet, want to wait until a bit further along first. She won't be able to stop herself from telling people and would rather keep it too ourselves until we know it's all ok. She'll be happy though, she has other siblings from her mum and is a fab big sister

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MommaGee · 14/02/2017 10:59

That's good and she's the right age to babysit with her boyfriend

LexieLulu · 14/02/2017 18:35

Would you pay for a private scan so you felt better/make it more real?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 14/02/2017 21:55

I'm seeing he midwife for the first time next week so it may start to feel real then, I think I may get an earlier scan anyhow as I'm not sure if the light and short bleed I had at the beginning of January was a period or not. I may be further on than I realise, I really don't know, gp just said the midwife would figure it out

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sweetchilli77 · 14/02/2017 22:34

I was exactly same as you, didn't go for IVF and decided to adopt. 6 years plus of hardcore trying.....

Adopted a beautiful baby and the month later BANG I'm pregnant.....i will have 2 under 12 months ......

Astro55 · 14/02/2017 23:08

Grin How wonderful!! Bet you're thrilled!

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