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Never thought I'd feel like this

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Dolwar · 06/02/2017 04:09

In the last 2 days I have found out that 3 of my colleagues are pregnant, all around 16 weeks. I didn't think I'd be that bothered but it feels like such a kick in the teeth. Obviously I'm really happy for them but it makes me feel so down and inadequate.

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Hollyhop17 · 06/02/2017 16:55

Well you've got it now Purple haven't you.

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PurpleDaisies · 06/02/2017 16:56

holly if you're wanting people to be mindreaders you should expect to be challenged on it.

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Janey50 · 06/02/2017 16:58

Please give yourself time. December is only 2 months at the most. It took me 3 months after coming off the pill,and I know it seemed like forever. Good luck..

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passingthrough1 · 06/02/2017 17:18

OP have you tried temping with a Basel body thermometer? I did this from the day I came off the pill and it was very interesting to see how the pill flushed its way out of my system. So my temps were all over the place for a few weeks and I also started feeling incredibly rough - hot flushes, no energy etc. Then my temperature stabilised at a low level and I knew then that my body was back to normal, then when the temp spiked after about 2 weeks I knew I'd ovulated.

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passingthrough1 · 06/02/2017 17:19

Re: the above I don't mean to suggest that after such a short period of time trying you need to be tracking etc but I just found very interesting / useful to know how long the pill was still affecting me for.

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buckyou · 06/02/2017 17:30

I was a bit harsh, sorry.

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Dolwar · 06/02/2017 21:31

I think the majority of you have totally got the wrong end of the stick regarding my post tbh. It is NOT a moan about coming off the pill and not being pregnant yet, I have said that I fully realise it takes time (but hubby is not quite getting it). It is a realisation of how I feel now that we are ttc and everyone around me seems to be pregnant when before I would never have put myself into the "baby person" category.
Honestly the cruelty and nastiness of some of you is shocking. I am very glad I do not know you in real life.

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Mummyh2016 · 06/02/2017 21:47

With the exception of a couple of comments most people have been supportive and sympathetic. I also felt like you did at one point. It comes across to me that you've spat your dummy out at the couple of harsh comments, and haven't even addressed the comments where people have tried to offer suggestions. I probably wouldn't expect anyone else to try and help or make you feel better.

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NameChange30 · 06/02/2017 22:40

"cruelty and nastiness"?! One person said something harsh - and later apologised! (Which is rare on MN!)
You clearly haven't ventured into AIBU or even Chat, have you?!

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DustyMaiden · 06/02/2017 22:45

I think your period will be here soon

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LexieLulu · 06/02/2017 22:49

With my first I fell pregnant straight away, expected to be the same second time round and I was very very wrong. I was so jealous of other people around me announcing their pregnancies, and doing so so many negative tests.

It's hard OP. Good luck to you and hope it happens soon x

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NapQueen · 06/02/2017 22:53

OP you don't know how long these pregnant colleagues have been trying.

It's shit when you want something and can't have it straight away, and I hope you never have to experience prolonged failure to conceive.

But you need a hefty doe of perspective

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PurpleDaisies · 06/02/2017 22:58

OP you don't know how long these pregnant colleagues have been trying.

To be honest, I'm not sure that makes any difference to how you feel. They're pregnant, you're not. It's bloody hard.

I put an oscar winning performance on with congratulations etc but like many others it just brings home that you're not in the situation you want to be in. Feelings aren't always logical.

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Babyblues14 · 09/02/2017 23:03

I think everyone is taking this the wrong way, two years ago my sister got pregnant, I was insanely jealous. I was desperate for a baby but my partner wasnt ready which made my blood boil even more, I think there is a stage in life where your broodiness reaches its peak and that was definetly mine. She's not saying that she hates the fact that they are pregnant its just that she wants to have what they are experiencing. Sadly my sister had a miscarriage, but gone on to conceive again and have a baby boy and ive finally been blesed with being pregnant, eight weeks today xxx good luck with your trying, it took me 6 months to conceive, I was on the pill for two years before that