This is a bit frustrating and I'm not sure this is the right place for these questions but please bear with me.
I have a young (21) relative who due in February. She has been sickly for most of her pregnancy with a variety of things including strep B and pneumonia. There's a chance her former partner has hepatitis.
Said former partner is an illegal immigrant and is involved with some... questionably dangerous people. When relative's waters broke early, she (stupidly, but that's my opinion) contacted him to tell him the baby was imminent. Rather than coming himself, one of his "contacts" arrived to take the baby. This man walked onto the maternity ward, where the secure door had been held open with a chair, tracked down my relative and said he'd wait "around" until the baby arrived before taking it to its father. As it turned out the labour stopped and she was discharged into the care of another relative who took her to stay somewhere safe for the time being.
An extra spanner here is that she is not sure that her ex IS the father. He is one of two or three candidates.
She has been staying in a place provided by social services, with low rent and contact numbers for people in emergencies. But, because she's of questionable intellect or is in the mindset of an abused woman right now, she provided her ex with the address and he has visited, forcing his way in, and has also stationed himself outside the house for hours at a time. The police have told her she can't get a restraining order until he "does something" though I'm not sure what "something" is under their criteria.
Most of this information has been delivered to me second hand through other family members - I had a miscarriage last year and being around this relative isn't something I've coped with all that well. So, it might not be 100% accurate - I know it has features of a poor quality soap opera.
Nonetheless I am worried about the future of the baby. It has endured a lot through its gestation with illness and stress, and now it seems to be under threat of being snatched in the first few hours of its life. The mother has always had a bit of a penchant for the dramatic and doesn't seem to be coming around to the idea that telling the ex where she is and when the baby comes is rather at odds with reporting him for stalking/harassment, especially when he's made it clear he doesn't intend to let her keep "his" son.
Social services have said they will try to find her a new place to live so he no longer has her address, though if she lets him know where she lives... well, that's hardly their fault. The police are apparently useless and the maternity ward isn't being kept properly secure. The ex might be a garden variety bully and abuser but some of the people he is involved with are deeply ingrained with the areas organised crime - this is what genuinely frightens me at this point, as not only is my pregnant relative potentially at risk, but so is anyone in my family who harbours her.
So... does anyone have any advice? I know I may seem unsympathetic towards her, but I'm in no way unsympathetic to the fate of her child and I can't overstate how important it is to me that they are safe.