Hi there it's a really long story and I want to cut it as short as possible.
I had my first baby a son in May 2016. We was born by c section under a general anaesthetic. I couldn't have a spinal or an epidural because I had just had the pseudomonas infection in my kidney.
When I was pregnant at 22 weeks I was suddenly struck down by major flank pain .. Think falling to the floor.. Couldn't walk.. Ambulance..
Anyway. I had a nephrostomy (external catheter into kidney direct) inserted at 23 weeks pregnant.
I had a major case of hydronephrosis and my left kidney wouldn't drain by itself.
The nephrostomy itself nearly killed me with the terrible infections I caught.
The whole experience was really painful and really humiliating. I was constantly in hospital.
I had the nephrostomy taken out because when they went to replace it (they have to do this to stop it growing into the kidney) they realise I had no "physical obstruction"
A few days later I was in pain again and had gone into labour. My son was born at 35 weeks.
I never dilated but was too exhausted to have a natural labour.
My son went to special care for 4 days then we took him home.
I had to take tramadol and codeine for the pain for nearly 4 months and I was very addicted to them afterwards.
I went cold turkey and the withdrawal was horrendous. My husband said he has never even seen the heroin addicts he works with withdraw like I did.
Now.. We said we would never have another baby. But I am already so broody. I want more.
My husband said he cannot take it, what happened again. So no more babies.
I'm keen to know if this has happened to anyone else and if so what was their subsequent pregnancy like?
either way I think il cope being pregnant. It will give me closure: I am not good at being pregnant and it happens again but at least I know and my son gets a sibling OR it's an easy experience and I can box away the trauma of the last pregnancy knowing it was a one off experience for me.
Thank you for reading