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12 weeks & can't cope

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MotherBearAndBabyBear · 16/01/2017 10:39

Have a 1yr old already and I'm pregnant again, we tried for this baby but I'm regretting it now.
It's SO much effort to get out of bed and move around, let alone taking care of a toddler.
First pregnancy was nothing like this i felt fine other than epileptic seizures caused by stress but I'd take that over this any day!

I'm sick a couple times a day but only if i put my fingers down my throat. I have constant nausea and my body feels like it is made of lead.
My reactions are so slow. I can't catch DS before he falls or get to him before he runs off. I've managed to stay on top of housework somehow but I cant eat otherwise im sick, even water makes me gag and I've lost 5 stone in 12 weeks.
Everyone tells me I look like crap and asks if I'm eating enough because I'm getting so skinny. (9stone now)

How do I cope? I've considered an abortion a few times but its not something I could ever follow through with morally.

Currently living off Lucozade and plain bread.

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HandbagFan · 16/01/2017 10:48

5 stone in 12 weeks?

Have you sought medical help?

snoopyokay · 16/01/2017 10:50

You are so near to the stage where everything gets easier, I started to feel less sick about 12-14 weeks and then my energy came back.

Housework is not important, do the bare minimum. Have you asked GP for tablets to ease sickness? I had come and they were a life saver. Also lived off Lucozade and super noodles (Yuck).

Do you have anyone to help you with your 1 yr old so that you can just crash for a while?

Please see your doctor and get some support, 5 stone is a lot to lose and quite worrying. Hope you're okay x

SuperRainbows · 16/01/2017 10:52

I think you should ring your GP/Midwife and ask to see someone today. Sounds like you are really struggling.

Emmerdalefan · 16/01/2017 10:54

5 stone in 12 weeks ???? What weight were u pre pregnancy ???? Did you need to pose a lot of weight ??

Lunalovepud · 16/01/2017 10:58

You need to see your GP if you haven't already - it's really tough and you don't have to feel like this. I was feeling the same a week ago and it's awful. Luckily my nausea seems to have lifted for now and I feel loads better as a result.

Leave the housework - rest when you can. Priority is DC and you. If it isn't going to help either of you, let it go for now.

Hope you feel better soon.

Hollyhop17 · 16/01/2017 10:58

5 stone in 12 weeks??? That doesnt sound good at all, I would speak to my GP/midwife about that

ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay · 16/01/2017 11:15

You don't have to suffer with extreme nausea that is so bad you make yourself vomit!

Get to your GP and get some medication FFS!

Morning sickness is in most cases mild. But if you have lost significant amounts of weight, are living on bread and energy drinks and can't function you have hyperemesis and treatment is needed. Please get help. Why haven't you thought to go to GP or midwife already?!?!

Heatherbell1978 · 16/01/2017 11:20

Most people don't feel great at the 12 week stage (I know I didn't with either pregnancy) but what you're describing is not 'normal'. I didn't think losing 5 stone in 12 weeks would even be possible. Are you literally eating nothing? You need to see your GP asap. Have you spoken to your midwife?

MotherBearAndBabyBear · 16/01/2017 15:32

Yeah I was 14 stone weighed by doctor 12 weeks ago because of IBS. Then found out I was pregnant. Weighed yesterday at 9 stone by doctor. I was prescribed anti sickness medication 4 weeks ago but it didn't help with the constant nausea and made me so drowsy i couldn't get out of bed. I'm barely eating and my mind feels constantly fogged over. I dont know what to do at this point.

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MotherBearAndBabyBear · 16/01/2017 15:35

My doctor said if i lose another stone I'll be edging on underweight for my body mass index and she will have to admit me to hospital.
I cant keep anything nutritious down and running around after my son on bare minimum is killing me. I go to sleep whenever he does and I cant play with him or pick him up like i used to it breaks my heart.

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MotherBearAndBabyBear · 16/01/2017 15:40

I eat plain bread and shake lucozade till it's flat and have tiny sips but I randomly throw up about twice a day usually after chasing DS around for something he shouldn't have. And it looks like bread mush even up to 12 hours later like my tummy isn't digesting very well. And my poop is non existent (tmi) it's basically water no clumps at all not really much colour to it looks like I'm pooping Lucozade. Do i need to ask for a referral to hospital. Have no idea who would take care of DS I dont have help from family.

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Lunalovepud · 16/01/2017 15:43

I would go to hospital - font ask for a referral... Speak to your midwife. They can test your wee to see if you need a drip for starters and then you can see about changing your medication to something more suitable.

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