Hi anyone listening,
Bit of background...I have a nearly 6 year old daughter. I had her when I was twenty with my long term childhood sweetheart. We split up when she was very young but we're still close friends and he's an absolutely amazing dad and she's happily settled.
I met a guy, he is in the military and we were together for a year. I can see now that it was in a lot of ways an emotionally abusive relationship by him. I was very much in love with him and got completely taken in by his talk of wanting to marry and have children. Now I had an operation in which I had one fallopian tube and ovary removed and was told my chances of having another child had been reduced because of it. I was devastated about this. However, in November I feel pregnant with this guy. Before I could tell him about it he decided he wanted us to split up and he was being deployed back to Northern Ireland. I told him about being pregnant and although he didn't have a go at me, he did very much try to pressure me into an abortion. Then he told me on New years day that he'd met someone else and wanted nothing more to do with me. I was heartbroken and still am although trying to move on and make good decisions now. I did manage to contact him today to tell him that I wanted to keep the baby and he told me I was ruining his life because he's happy with this other woman. So I told him I thought it was best if he wasn't involved and he agreed.
So now I'm in a position where I'm going to end up a single parent with two children with two different dad's. Also one child will have their dad heavily involved while the other doesn't have one. I'm very very confused about what is the right decision anymore and am just looking for some FRIENDLY advice.
Thanks in advance.