Yep, got a ton of stories about how unsupportive, unencouraging, perpetually-disappointed-in-me, can-do-no-right, bullies that my parents are. But I shan't boire you with them all!
My dad (separated from my mother) disowned me at 18 because I swore at him as a result of his unsupportive selfish nature when something awful happened to me and I needed him. He told my sister he never wants to see me again as I "have a foul mouth". He decided if all it took to disown me was me swearing at him to disown me then I was no longer going to fight beg and plead for his love. I have never seen him again and I'm now 34. It was the best decision I made after 18 years of put-downs.
My mother also went on to disown me at 22 when I fell accidently pregnant (I was vigilant with the pill but it still failed me) to a man who had begun hitting me. I'd decided to throw him out, and opted (after a LOT of heartache and soul-searching) to terminate the pregnancy, as the police had refused to protect me or prosecute my ex due to 'lack of evidence' but said social services would take my baby due to my accusations of violence (I actually received a personal apology some years later when a new CEO took over the domestic abuse dept). My mother blamed me for my ex hitting me, told me to lie in the bed I'd made, and then on the day of the termination called me to tell me I was murdering HER grandchild.... My mother herself has had two late abortions, but apparently that was different.
Again I decided I no longer wished to fight beg or plead for her to be my mother. And we had no contact for a year. She also made all the otherfa!ily members cut me off too. Only my nanna refused to cut me off, so my mother cut her off as well. All the other family members were also instructed to cut my nanna off too.
However a year later stepdad called me and said my mother had asked for contact again as she'd got cancer. So I did. But it turned out she didn't have cancer, she'd over exaggerated a benign growth. I can't prove she over exaggerated on purpose but I have my strong suspicions.
But after I refused to go crawling and begging for her to not disown me, and just accepted it and good on with my own life - and despite it being fucking hard on my own - I managed it. I grew stronger than ever. She knows she'll never have the power to treat me like shit anymore as she has nothing left to throw at me. So I maintain a distant relationship, but we'll never be close.
I take solace in that I found a few years later my very loving supportive dh. His huge lovely family also welcomed me with loving open arms just like he did and are just as supportive. Then dh and I got married and I had my own beautiful sweet loving son. They are all my world. My parents did not succeed in making me unhappy forever.
You have your partner, you have a beautiful baby on the way, you have ypour whole future ahead of you. Don't let your parents drag you down. Its your life. If they don't like the decisions you make (like having a baby) then let them stew in their bitterness while you bask in the happiness.
Congratulations xxx