Hen Do at 36 weeks

[moonoverthewater]

Hi all just after a bit of advice as I have no idea how I will feel at 36 weeks.
This is my first baby and I'm currently 22 weeks. The hen do is for 2 nights and a 2.5 hour drive away. I could get the train but if I drove I could take my hospital bag and notes in case plus stop as much as I need to.
Would you go?

And as for the wedding, my first was 15 days late!

I would be honest with the beige and groom and tell them you will come if you can

Tbh I would turn down the wedding and maybe go to the church as you suggested.

As you say they will need to know for numbers etc

Thanks everyone

So I think I'll put off the hen do final decision for a while as I think I'll be fine regarding getting some money back until final payments are due (need to check this).

And think for the wedding I'll decline and go to the church if I'm up to it

Sounds like a good plan, op.

That's a tough one! My DS was born....2 weeks after my due date. I'd chat to the friends about it but maybe count yourself out of the sit down meal if there is one, you could still attend the ceremony if local and/or maybe go for a drink with them if you're up to it.,

If you feel ok then drive to hen do. But I would stay the one night and do meal and mock tails if same day. Then drive home and own bed while they go out clubbing etc

I would have been ok to go to the hen do, I was still swimming up until my due date and long walks at 41 weeks (which I'm sure an unintended particularly long walk caused me to go into labour that night)
However dd was 8 days over due so would have only been a week old at the wedding. Church would have been fine as we took dd to church at this age and possibly meal but wouldn't have stayed for the party afterwards.
Your suggestion of the church service seems very sensible and is the most important bit. But be prepared for all those hormones to make you cry ALOT during the service

At 36 weeks with DD1 I went on a trip down to London with my mum and grandma to see a show, do sightseeing etc. I really enjoyed it (2 plus hour train journey) although we only stayed one night - I was in a single bed though!

When I was 34ish weeks with DD3 I went to Manchester with a friend who was 36:weeks pregnant - we drew some stares but were fine!

I've been able to drive quite happily up until the day I've given birth with all 3 (Inc 11 days overdue with DD2) although granted it has been more pottering about type journeys.

I guess it just goes to show you don't know how you'll feel! The wedding a few weeks after will be hard work but everyone will forgive you anything when you have such a tiny newborn! My friend's sister didn't make her wedding 10 days after giving birth so we just Skyped as much as we could throughout the day.

Thanks everyone