Hi,
I am not sure what to do or who to turn too. I am currently 31 weeks pregnant and me and my husband have been constantly arguing over little things for the whole pregnancy. I think I have finally found the route cause of all his anger and resentment towards me as he keeps saying 'you got your own way'and 'I never wanted another baby.' . We have a 2,5 year old son. His behaviour has changed and he is going out more with friends and acting like he doesn't have a family. When I say that he should maybe keep those feelings to himself seem as though I am near my due date he says he just wants to be honest and he will be there for me and the baby but fears with 2 children under 3 years of age he won't be able to go out with friends and do his hobbies as much as he does now with just the one child.
I find this completely selfish as it takes two to make a child and although we tried it did catch us both by surprise. My husband now says he only went along with it to make me happy which is a disgrace as he now resents me and our soon to be here second child. It is causing real arguments and stress for us both and I don't know whether I should just leave him as it's caused me to question why I am with him the way he is behaving towards me. I am worried about my son being around for these arguments all the time and the impact it is having on him. He says he won't leave me and loves me and the baby but then keeps saying you got your own way. I feel like this resentment if not now will cause more problems when the baby is born due to his lack of being able to go out with friends again and losing freedom. He was happy with one child as I did everything but he now realises with another he will have to take on more responsibility and this will restrict him.
I have not told any of my friends or family as I am hoping he would change his mind but the arguments are getting more intense and verbal every week the baby gets closer.
Any advice greatly appreciated?
Thanks