I'm a horrible unbearable person

[GlasgowGeorgie]

Hi everyone, I'm 5+3 and today I have been on the verge of tears all day. And I've been more irritable than I've ever been in my life. Everything is annoying me and I just want to cry - should I be feeling like that at this early stage?? Please tell me I can blame this on hormones because it's so unlike me and I feel terrible

Should also say I am delighted about my first pg!!! But if this keeps up I won't have any friends or colleagues left by the time I can actually tell them why I've been so cranky...

Very normal. Mine has calmed down quite a bit since about 12 weeks. I won't go into just how irritable and unreasonable and cross I was at that stage because I could probably be arrested

Oh gosh I found it horrific back then. Crying for no reason, exhausted, felt so sick and irritable. I've been miles better since 9 weeks thank God. Hold on and remember it will pass :)

The first 12 weeks are HELL. Chin up. Be nice to yourself.

I was irritable and irrational for the first 9 weeks or so. Now 25 weeks and all I do is cry!

Aw goodness you're all so lovely and kind that I'm crying AGAIN. Can't wait for this stage to be over, I'm a pure wreck! DH doesnt know what to do

I'm 5 weeks almost exactly and I was really spoiling for a fight all weekend this is #3 for me but the first time I've felt like this!

I'm a fairly horrible person during pregnancy. I tend to stay away from people where possible!

Things do calm down. I actually get like that a few days before my period is due, too. It's that feeling that absolutely everything in the world is pissing you off and it builds and builds until you snap over something stupidly minor

I now tell people if I'm feeling like that and just say "sorry, everything is annoying me at the moment. I just need a minute." I don't tell them so that I can say what I want and justify it. I'm still 100% accountable for my shitty behaviour, but just telling people I feel like that usually helps me snap out of it and I don't run the risk of being rude to anyone. And people are usually pretty good at giving you a bit of space if you say.

It's hugely frustrating (for us and our nearest and dearest) though

I'm a complete moody whinger at 8+2. I actually laid down on the dinner table and started howling I don't feeeeeeeeel well in the middle of dinner proper melodramatic teenage style even though I'm 30. Luckily my family all know I'm pg or I would have been told to grow up instead I got a pat on the back and a cup of tea.

I think it's hormones and I hope it passes.

Not quite the same but I had hormone problems on BC. I was a complete and utter bastard.

Had to come off it.

Yours is temporary. Hang on in there

I had to take 4 days off work between conceiving and finding out I was pregnant because I was such a moody hateful cow I couldn't face the world it gets easier in a few weeks when the placenta starts to grow

sparkly that made me laugh a lot. I'm 4+2 and got my first ever bfp yesterday. Also happened to catch norovirus on the same day and I feel like just moaning I don't feeeeeel well constantly.

On another thread a poster got flamed for saying she was 'being a bit hormonal' at the moment. I understand their concern, but really, when you feel like you do, it's hard to work out which way is up! Hang in there, it will settle, and it is your prerogative.

Quick fix. Lie on the floor and concentrate on breathing in and out slowly. Think of a word like peace or stillness.

Also walk. Get out in the country. Clear your head

I think so. At least, she said she was 'very hormonal' so whether pregnant or not her hormones were making it harder to cope than usual. Of course it doesn't mean that she had no reason to be upset/angry- just that she was finding it hard to judge if she had things in perspective.

Other people dismissing you because you are 'being hormonal' is of course outrageous.

Sorry for the derail, OP.

I had one of three moods for the first 12 weeks: moodier than a teenager, weepier than the weepiest thing on the planet or angrier than The Hulk! Tbh though I was mostly The Hulk and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it. I felt possessed at times!

Like PP have said, It gets better, we promise!

nova I'm glad! I'm such a nightmare to be around, yesterday was a crying day- cried when DH went to work and then cried when a family friend bought their dog over because it was very cute. Slightly less irritating than epic whingeing

My boss figured out I was pregnant because I was so grumpy and irrational with this pregnancy 😂 Don't worry and definitely don't beat yourself up for it, your body is going through some serious changes and your hormones have gone crazy ... You cant help it

I'm 11 weeks now but I'd say right from conceiving until 9 weeks I was a complete hormonal fucking bitch.
Crying one minute, laughing the next, or both at the same time.
DP cleverly just smiled, nodded, satisfied my insatiable desire for satsumas and apologised for things that weren't his fault just to keep the peace.

Admittedly I did have a bit of a hormonal/anxiety flare up the other day because I'm feeling too well for a pregnant woman

Ha, all of you have made me so much better. I find myself swaying between insanely happy, to wanting to kill ALL THE THINGS, to crying until my fave swells up.

Example: I cried this morning because my dog growled at another dog. Then laughed at how insane I was being. Then got angry at DH for laughing with me.

These threads keep me sane.

I am 15 weeks now and things have definitely levelled out a little. It's normal - I still cry at almost everything but the rage has definitely settled!