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health visitor coming Tuesday what will they do?

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thecatsarecrazy · 11/12/2016 23:07

Back when I had my other 2 children the health visitor didn't come until after baby was born to do hearing test and give you book.
I have a visit on Tuesday and I'm getting myself in a bit of a state. My bil partner said when they visited her they stayed for 2 hours, wanted to be shown where baby will sleep, check they have a fridge and looked round their bathroom. Is this true? My house is clean and tidy ish but I don't want strangers walking round judging. Baby will be in our room and because of Christmas our house isn't as organised as it could be.

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abbinob · 11/12/2016 23:14

Erm, mine just introduced herself, did some forms, asked some questions etc I think she gave us the red book but can't quite remember, and asked medical questions, and that was that (and I was under the midwife team for young parents so if they were going to be spying on anyone it would have been us I suppose!)
Took about 20 minutes and no one checked I had a fridge

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thecatsarecrazy · 11/12/2016 23:23

I know it sounds strange doesn't it, don't know what that's all about. I'm going to be running around like a blue arse fly tomorrow now tidying I expect

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TerriB84 · 12/12/2016 09:10

Mine was there about an hour and it was mostly to introduce herself and discuss any things that were concerning me about becoming a parent (in a very helpful non judgemental way). I was given my red book and other information on the local children centre. She didn't go anywhere other than my sofa.

Nikki2ol6 · 12/12/2016 09:26

Hello I had this last week at 36 weeks and she just sat on my sofa. She did ask where my baby would be sleeping..... I said in his Moses basket beside my bed of course she didn't ask anymore about that. She introduced her self really and gave my the red book, told me I have to take it to hospital with me when I'm in labour. Don't stress about it lol

Anie125 · 12/12/2016 09:40

Mine was here for about 45 minutes.

She sat on the sofa, asked a few questions that we had already answered plenty, she had a cup of tea and gave us loads of leaflets.

Didn't ask to see baby's room or where she'll sleep or anything.

We live in a pub and have a staffy cross dog so were expecting quite a bit of judgement and snooping, but no it was fine.

NutellaCookie · 12/12/2016 09:45

My visit lasted about 20 minutes. She introduced herself, sat on the sofa, asked me a few questions then left. It's a relatively new service (meeting before baby arrives I mean). Try not to worry - it's just a formality.

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/12/2016 09:50

Thankyou everyone. She said this one was very funny with her. They have a parrot and she was concerned about her, we have 2 cats so I was worried they might have something to say about that. I don't really want anyone in our room.

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Elland · 12/12/2016 10:21

Same with mine, she was here about 30 mins, sat on the sofa and didn't go in to any other rooms.

She gave me a few leaflets, asked a few questions about feeding, gave information on sleeping and went through a medical history form to check for any safeguarding issues.

BertrandRussell · 12/12/2016 10:28

There are always stories about health visitors and midwives being really intrusive, but they are like sightings of aliens and yetis-they always happen to a friend of a friend.......

I live on a boat so she did ask me a few more questions, naturally enough, but even then she sat on the sofa and drank coffee while she asked them, and didn't go anywhere but the living room.

BertieBotts · 12/12/2016 10:33

Honestly, they just want to check you're not living in a crack den. Cats and Christmas chaos ought to be no concern. Perhaps your friends hv was new - from some of the stories about things seen in people's homes I suspect most hv wouldn't blink an eye at a parrot! Don't stress yourself out getting things perfect.

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thecatsarecrazy · 13/12/2016 09:41

She's 15 mins late good start

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kikiroo · 13/12/2016 10:28

I was thinking this the other day! I had my booking appointment at home with the midwife. I thought maybe this also gives her a chance to see where/how we live?

I thought fair enough as people who want to adopt dogs have visitors come round from the dog's home/trust and check that their house and garden is suitable. So checking for a child/baby seems a given if It happens for animals! Haha :)

Princesspinkgirl · 13/12/2016 13:15

They are routine now I had one she spent about 30 mins asking questions previous births and soon random questions like how will you feel with a new baby all read off her sheet she had then she handed me a load of leaflets and said okay see you when baby is 11-14 days old

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thecatsarecrazy · 13/12/2016 16:43

Was painless enough. She was here about 30 minutes. Asked about what dh does, ours and our children's dates of birth. What support we have. Never went in any other rooms.

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