I'm pregnant. Could be one of 2 fathers. Please help.

[Silverstone67]

My LMP was 5th Nov. I had sex with regular (but still casual, i.e. not in a relationship) partner on 23 nov and one night stand on 30 nov. Did preg test on 7th dec and it was a very feint blue line.

Please would someone with some nouse about these things tell me that it is unlikely to be the ONS guy? I am considering terminating to be honest but at least with the other guy there is the possibility of a "father" being in the baby's life.

Its pretty unlikely. Is your cycle regular? You would ordinarily ovulate between day ten (15th) and day 17 (22nd). 30th would be day 25 so ordinarily way too late.

In all honesty it could be either of them. It all depends when you ovulated and speem can live up to 5 days. If you had a feint line on a pregnancy test Its likely you conceived in the previous 7-14 days which covers both of them.

I'd say it's too close to call unless you know when you ovulate. How long are your cycles normally?

Tricky to calculate without your period due date... And how long your regular cycles are...from crunching numbers based on 28 day cycle... Your af would be due around 2nd Dec, could have ovulated from as early as 11th or as late as 24th😐 and sperm can survive up to 5 days... So based on random numbers and a 28 day cycle, there's a slight chance it could be ONS but a bigger chance it's 23rd Nov person xx

You can't rely on strangers on the Internet to guess about this can you? Only a DNA test would tell you.
A casual relationship is unlikely to result in your child having a committed and present parent.
You will likely be a lone parent. Are you happy to do that?

It would be very hard for you to have a baby on your own, OP. Are you sure you want to do that?

Coming from a family where people don't know their biological dad, I strongly recommend DNA testing if you're not sure and if you can somehow find a way of getting both mens' details.. ? Does ONS person go to the same place regularly perhaps or knows a friend etc? I think you can do it alone but it's a difficult time, lots of thinking to do and what you feel comfortable with. Xx

It's massively, massively unlikely you'd get a bfp just 7 days after dtd (or 6.5 days, assuming you shagged him at night and tested in the morning). It's not impossible, probably, especially if it's twins, but it's unlikely as fuck.

I think before worrying about who the father is, you have to decide whether you want a baby right now. Assume you'd be a single mother without support from anyone else. Because you aren't in a committed relationship.

Once you've made up your mind, then you can try to determine if the man you're in a casual relationship with is the father.

Good luck, OP.

Thanks all. I'm obviously not thinking straight really, but I do know you can't DNA test a pregnancy test, i just think it is more likely to be the guy i slept with on 23rd. My cycle 28-30 days. I am 35 and not in committed r/ship but would like children eventually. I'm frightened if I have a termination that I could be giving up my only chance. I am scared of my friends IRL judging me if I tell them the truth. I've only told my sis in law I've done a positive test so far.

The overwhelming likelihood is that it's the first one. It would be almost impossible to get a bfp after 7 days.

If you go ahead with the pregnancy they will do a dating scan at around 12 weeks, which will give you a more accurate date. As there's a week between partners you'll have a much better idea once you have the gestational age. A lot of people don't even announce their pregnancy till after that scan anyway, so if you hold off, no-one needs to know you weren't sure.

As above, it is much more likely to be suitor number 1.

I'd not go off the 12 week scan, mine put me nearly a week ahead of what I thought even though I know conception date.

If you have regular 28 day cycles you should have ovulated around day 19... so if you ovulated a few days later I'd say it's the 23rd guy... but I got a super faint line 7 days after sex. You will need a DNA test I think because even an early scan can be a few days out and you slept with two people a week apart so it's just a bit too close but it's probs the 23rd guy

IT is most likely to be the 23rd guy, esp with a 28/30 day cycle. Then ovulation should be at day 14/16 and you had sex with him on day 18. Eggs last for 24-48 hours so that fits.

Afaik a conception on 30th couldn't have the hormone levels to show up on a pg test as soon as 8 days later.

Thank you all. Feeling a bit more ok about this now. Have googled furiously and feel fairly confident it is going to be ok.

Remember if your family are going to help to u bring it up then the most important thing is that you are the mother its our baby and you can do a DNA test once baby is born. Just don't lie to either of the men if you tell them.

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