Will people judge me, young and pregnant?!

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I'm 20 and a couple months pregnant. I've only told close friends and my boyfriend, my parents don't know yet as I don't see them often. Everyone I've told is overjoyed, and I can't wait, and I'm in a situation where my boyfriend and I are very happy and believe we could fully support a child - he's older than me, a uni grad and has a good job. I'm just worried when I tell people they might judge me for being young/unmarried etc. Obviously this won't detract from the happiness I have from having this little family on the way, but it still worries me as I always thought I'd be much older and married, but this feels completely right. Thoughts please?

I fell pregnant at 21, I now have a Two year old boy, a little girl born exactly a year to the day later and I'm pregnant again.

So we will have this year a 2 year old, one year old and a newborn! Yep people do judge, but it's my body, my life and no one looks after my children but me and my partner! Sod them all and be happy xxxx

Honestly, people will judge you no matter what you do, but screw those people! I was pregnant at 18 and people say to me now how well I've brought up my daughter and what a credit to me she is. So don't worry about anyone but you and your little family! No one else matters.

I think it's no ones business but yours and your partners. It's only in the last 20 years or so that the trend of women delaying having children has become the norm. Nature intended women to start their families at a young age, most had completed their families by the age of thirty...ish. Fertility starts to decline when a woman reaches

Sorry, fat fingers. Fertility tends to decline when women get older.
People judge others for all kinds of reasons. A young lady I know had her first baby at 19, she is a fantastic mother. My own granny had two by the time she was 17, she was unmarried, this was in the 1920's so you can imagine the shit storm she endured! She kept both babies and went on to have two more, she did marry my grandad. (father of all four)
Good luck op, enjoy your baby.

I am 37 and I wouldnt judge you. I have no right to! There will always be someone who does think they can raise an eyebrow. Even if you had of been 14 lol i think every mum deserves support and not judging eyes/comments. Good Luck x

I was 24 when I had DD1 and 26 when I had DD2. Lots of rude people commented how young I was and assumed they were both unplanned. Me and DH have been together 8 years, lived together and both pregnancies were very much planned and wanted nosy fuckers
Don't worry are time worrying what people think
Congratulations

That should be your time not are

I was 20 when I got pregnant with my son.
I'm now 33, he's nearly 12 and I'm pregnant with my 3rd!
I didn't get judged. These days 20 isn't young. I've got friends who were 15/16/17 when they had babies and even they were not judged xx

Yea my mum had had 3 by the time she was 22 it was the norm for her generation and background (partly why I had twattish relatives having digs at me for being 29 they weren't close relatives and didn't know it had been a 5 year journey).

Honestly enjoy your time being pregnant, sod the naysayers and look forward to lots of gorgeous smelling warm cuddles

Congratulations!

I hope you don't get judged. I'm, erm, rather more than 20, so don't have any personal experience, but when I was in hospital with DD, I saw a couple of younger mothers being spoken to in ways I know the staff wouldn't have tried with me.

One was read the riot act about contraceptives, yet when I asked about contraception (when I would need to start using it, what was compatible with breastfeeding), the midwife said she didn't know, and I'd have to ask my GP. How she was supposed to be helping the younger woman I don't know. Another, who'd had an emcs, was told rudely that she had too much stuff with her (that's the short version).

So you might want to have support with medical staff. I'd made some unusual choices about health care during my pregnancy, in which I'd been supported by community midwives, but came under a lot of pressure to consent to procedures I didn't want while in hospital - it seemed to be the hospital environment that wasn't always pleasant.

SheepyFun that's awful and completely unprofessional and unnecessary of them! Nurses/midwives should not be making moral judgements in that way.

I got pregnant at the same age as you and felt exactly the same. I used to wear big clothes that would cover my bump (cardigans, jumpers, etc).

It was only when DD arrived that I realised I couldn't care less what people thought as I was so proud of her.

You've made the decision to continue with the pregnancy and will be the one bringing up your child and looking after them. It's nobody else's business. The people who love you won't judge you and the people who do aren't worth the time.

Congratulations and enjoy 😊

One friend of mine (first pregnant at 16) tiny terror just fixed people with a death stare if they said stupid shit. She's very small slight and fair colouring so looks pretty much a pushover especially when pregnant - I wouldn't cross her!

Congratulations!

I agree - people will judge if they want to, just as they will judge everyone else for being too old/young/skinny/fat/poor etc to have kids. Haters gonna hate. Don't let the bastards get you down. Enjoy your pregnancy and future baby!

Twenty's not that young in terms of baby-making, you've hit a few fertile years under your belt.

But, yes, some people will judge you. And they'll judge you for how you feed the baby; how it sleeps; when you wean; how you dress it, and countless other things that are none of their damn business.

They'd do the same if you were older, too; and then they'd also judge you for being an older mum.

Develop a thicker skin and enjoy your pregnancy

I'm 20 to and almost 27 weeks.
Nobody has judged me to my face if that makes sense but I have heard a couple of colleagues comments, and honestly I don't care! Work weren't very helpful anyway and I'm now signed off with spd but quite frankly people that know you well enough not to judge you or know that actually this is the right thing and are happy and supportive of you are the only people that matter and the sort of people that do judge are probably not the sort you'll want to have around you! :)

Hey!

I was 17! My DS is now 11 and I have another DS who is 7. I was married but unfortunately it didn't work out but we're really good friends (which people find odd, but mainly the reason it didn't work tbh) and I'm now with someone else and trying for number 3.

I still look young for my age (I'm rather short lol) so sometimes I still feel a bit awkward, especially if I have to go to DS high school as they are as tall as me lol! It was quite hard, and I was judged a bit but I've done everything I've wanted to do with my life including travelling, uni and a competitive hobby!