So terrified for twenty week scan!

[Kelsey28]

I have my twenty week scan on Thursday and I cannot get out of my head the idea of the sonogrammer saying that they can't find a heartbeat. My pregnancy was unplanned but not unwanted and I have this feeling I cannot shake of "not deserving" this baby. When I try to speak to my mum/friends about it they just say "everything will be fine" but I can't relax! Some soothing words please? Thank you x

It's hard to soothe because the chances are good that all will be fine, but you know as anyone else does that sometimes things aren't fine.

Try to reign in your anxiety and enjoy it if you can. It really is amazing but the anxiety is completely normal.

I had my 20-week scan last week, and I was really anxious too. My bump is quite small and baby doesn't seem to move much compared to last time. Everything was completely fine. Baby is just curled up in a corner!

There's nothing wrong with being anxious, but try not to dwell on it, if possible. No one can say for sure that it'll be fine, but chances are that it will. It's so hard at this stage when you can't really feel much to reassure you that baby is ok, but a few more weeks will make a big difference and hopefully you'll be able to relax!

I was very anxious too but had mine today and it was fine. Statistically it's more likely to be fine than not, but I completely get that that does not help.
Good luck when it comes.

I hada MMC in May, so was very nervous at both 12 and 20 week scans. Everything was fine, and we have a very healthy (if rather uncooperative!) baby. Try not to worry, and enjoy seeing your baby again.

I second that, try focusing on the excitement! Are you going to find out the sex? That could be something to look forward to.