feeling rubbish in pregnancy

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34 weeks pregnant, feel like im literally going to pop as my skin is so tight on my stomach, horribly aware this feeling will increase over the next 6 weeks, constipated, anaemic, sore ribs and back, have been picking up every virus going for months, constipated and have a prolapsed womb im worried about.

Hate being such a moaner to people I know but hate that you're meant to just take it all in your stride. Ive felt like utter shit for months and have some way to go yet. Im fighting for an elcs as im concerned an assisted delivery would worsen my prolapse, but know that this will prolong me getting back to my old self so am conflicted...can just see me getting infections afterwards due to being so run down. But I don't want a pair of salad tongs shoved up leaving my organs hanging out

Anyone else fed up? Pls come moan with me here

Im 35w today and honestly am so sick of being pregnant!!! i dont know what a prolapsed womb feels like but the backache, hip pain, tight tummy, heartburn and reflux, never getting any peace from bubba moving, head hitting god knows what all the time im totally with you!!!

People keep saying not long and i keep answering its 5 whole weeks its forever!!! im totally ready for it all to be done now! im not even gonna try and be all encouraging tbh cos whenever people have tried that with me its just annoyed me!!

Im on days countdown now... 35 days to due date!

Oh tiny human someone has arrived for me to whinge to! I literally can't stand moving or seeing people at the moment and its only gonna get worse. I'm going to be such a grinch this Christmas. Luckily we are visiting lots of family so my shitness wont impact DD having a good time.

I really don't remember it being this wank the first time round. Oh yes I hate that one 'nearly there'...please just stop speaking to me. Have had that one said to me since the end of Oct as well!

Enjoying my baths a lot these days, slight relief from it all and I can appreciate the kicks instead of it being arghhhh my ribs!

Argh the kicks just get more and more violent too! I'm so fed up today - 40+4 today and had a massive cry earlier. Been in labour on and off since Weds. Feels like this will never end.

Oh mom2b I feel for you!!! I went to 40+14 with my first and it was total poo. I don't know why our bodies think they have a choice as to whether they birth the baby or not

Got my fingers crossed things progress for you tonight

Thank you so much, that's really kind of you. Xxx

Just update us when baby arrives it can be our morale booster

I've just found out im pregnant and I got told it gets easier, i'm about 10 weeks and had awful morning sickness but everyone seems to be saying its going to get worse

Can I join in?

40+2 today and I am sorry to report I could have written your posts 5/6 weeks ago and nothing has improved. I have forgotten what feeling well rested is. It has been so many months since I had what most adults would feel constituted even a bad night's sleep. People who say, in chirpy voices, 'not long now!' to a woman facing down the barrel of 6 to 8 weeks of increasing discomfort have clearly never been pregnant. I received those remarks in only slightly better humour than my long time friend and neighbour received when knocking on my door this afternoon to complain of recently having woken up with a hangover. I shut the door in his face.

It was the danger of incidents such as this that led me to to conclude around a month ago that there would be no further social engagements on my part. I just cannot face the well-meaning but inane chitchats. I do not want to hear other women's experiences of birth and parenthood, not when these boil down to the same tired witticisms we've all heard a thousand times before. Nor do I want to hear about nights out and hangovers. And to be fair, do members of either of these groups wish to hear my litany of complaints? I doubt that sincerely. I am so glad I will be out the other side before Christmas, one way or another. for everyone who has to maintain festive chirpiness whilst struggling through these latter stages.

If the physical struggles were not enough, I hate the feeling of being entirely responsible for our baby's welfare. I'm under no illusions that I will be relieved of those feelings of responsibility when she arrives, but at least my DP will assume a partial share. As it stands, I spend large portions of the day mentally assessing whether she's been moving enough, whether I need to call triage, or whether everything is fine and normal. I've never done this before and have no frame of reference. The pressure of making hourly judgements on something which I am ill-equipped for has been taking its toll for a while.

Then there is the unpredictability. I have not written a birth plan as I honestly feel having explicated what I want to happen would only make me feel worse if / when those things don't happen. Failure on top of everything else. I cannot think of another situation where those going through it are expected to cope with little or no prior warning with such a diverse range of scenarios. Written down that sounds like pathetic wallowing and I'm sure there are, in reality, plentiful examples. I suppose what I mean is I feel like I could handle most of what labour and birth could throw at me if I knew what was coming ahead of time. In that respect, I can so see the appeal of the ELCS mentioned above. First time, low risk mothers are essentially asked to prepare for a normal, natural birth and hope that nothing throws that off course. It's really nothing more than 'fingers crossed it all goes ok'.

I have moaned enough. My sincere (really) apologies to anyone reading this who hasn't had a straightforward pregnancy. I recognise that (despondent as I do feel) I am one of the lucky ones.

Ov3rt0n - best not to think too much on the trials of the third trimester. The first has its own set of difficulties and for most people (even me) the second was much more bearable. There were indeed days when I didn't feel pregnant at all. Congratulations on your news. I'm told its all worth it at the end.

mikesh909 - oh, I hear you! Yes yes to the hangovers takes of woe. Currently awake with another set of contractions.

Add to all of that birth horror stories, repeated questions about the name of the baby (despite insistence from the questioner that it's 'no-one else's business), oh and breastfeeding tips from men and I could cry.

You all have my sympathy. I'm only 22 weeks. I am still being sick and everyone tells me I should feel happy because it's down from 20+ times a day to once a day. I'm still constantly nauseated. I have excruciating rib pain which stops me sleeping and this is my second trimester so it is officially as good as it is ever going to get. I have just stopped any unnecessary social interaction because I can't stand people right now!

I could have written this! I'm 39+1 today and feeling rubbish! Doesn't help that I've had a full on cold/bad throat/ear for the past week, which I think is now turning into a sinus infection. All those first trimester symptoms have well and truly returned, and I haven't slept through the night since finding out I was pregnant. I'm shattered! Half of me wants this baby now, the other half thinks another week or so would be good to get over this virus first. I went to 40+13 with my first, but wasn't induced so I'm hoping that this one does make an appearance a little sooner this time.

for Bellatrix and Winandchocolate - have now been up since 3:45 with prodromal contractions every 8 minutes, for the fourth day in a row...agony

I'm joining you at 36+2 and wanted to say a particular hi to mikesh as your post is similar to my experience- been very lucky so far with how everything has gone and try to feel grateful for this but this last stretch is quite honestly, rubbish. Although I may be still in this position into 2017 so congrats on your impending arrival!!

to 2nd trimester posters that are having a hard time. It's annoying when you don't follow the usual 'pattern' and feel better when everyone else seems to be. Perhaps you'll be lucky and have good 3rd trimesters...

Thanks for the sympathies everyone.

Mum2Bomg I'm not sure what prodromal contractions even are, but that sounds harsh, especially if it's leading nowhere. I hope this means the end is at least coming into sight and that you're managing to stay away from anyone with a hangover, a horror story to tell or a piece of unsolicited advice.

Bellatrix, every sympathy for you. In what other universe is daily vomiting and pain bad enough to keep you awake something to be grateful for?? I hope the second trimester improves for you.

Wineandchocolate, a virus on top of 39 weeks is a true case of adding insult to injury. I hope whichever way it goes you end up more comfortable soon. I too hope to avoid an induction, it's still early enough that they haven't started hassling me about that yet. Did you have one booked last time?

And thanks Bella for the understanding. Treading the line between martyr, utter grouchbag and faking a cheery mood for the purpose of social niceties is a tough one and the hormones certainly don't help. Good luck for the last stretch.

Seems like there are quite a few of us in this boat!! To the 2nd trimesters I hope that everything goes OK for your 3rd trimester!!

35+1 today and honestly wishing him to just come now! I know I shouldn't and should want him to cook a bit longer but iv just had enough now... I am praying to God I do not go overdue!!

Those who are having your babies before Xmas I'm so jealous!! I'm finding it so frustrating that my due date is so soon after Xmas because I feel like I can't enjoy the festivities as much cos of feeling so rubbish but that it is close enough that I could go at any time over the Xmas break!

Bubba has taken to consistently headbutting me down below so I seem to spend half my day flinching. Oh had a beer yesterday and decided to drunkenly admit that even though he's scared of the labour he's also worried I'm gonna be a wimp and be horrible to deal with!

Iv just got the perfect prep out of the box to have a look at and set up on the side ready, everything is all ready just need the baby now!!

Mikesh

I had an induction booked for 8pm on the Thursday evening last time. My waters broke at around 1am that morning so the hospital offered to induce me around 9am instead. I said no as I had a feeling things were starting so had rescheduled the induction for 8am Friday morning. Contractions started at 4:30pm on the Thursday and he was born less than an hour into Friday morning. Cutting it fine!!

They've told me that they induce at 12 days over here (same as last time), and will be booking me in for that during my next appointment.

I just re read my last post........wow I wasn't having a good day! Had a proper whinge! I hope everyone is feeling better and these last few days/weeks go quickly

Another one joining in. 37 weeks tomorrow. Just back from the hosp after a painful night (I have regular painful pointless contractions due to irritable uterus). Contractions monitoring strong every 10 minutes and cervix looking soft. Told it could be hours or weeks lol. Had previous babies at 37, 36 and 34 weeks so chuffed to have got to 37 this time. Am SO ready for it to be born. Everything hurts!

I'm joining in too, I am so bloody miserable at the moment and I'm only 32 weeks I have got the WORST piles, sciatica which is so bad I can't sleep and the baby has his head in my ribs and due to a bicornuate uterus he is unlikely to have any room now to turn, so a section is looking likely at some point. Just urgh!

More sympathies to all posters. Wineandchocolate, isn't it funny how there are such extremes of good and bad days? Hope your virus has improved.

The end could be in sight for me. Pretty sure I have lost at least a bit of mucous plug and perhaps some waters. I'm going to call triage soonish and see what they say. I know these types of signs can end up being nothing though so I'm not getting too excited..

Iv felt really really crap all day but I have pre existing illnesses before I fell pregnant so I'm unsure whether it's bubba, my illness or a bug. I gave in about an hour ago and rang the day unit and am going in to get checked over. I'm so done with being pregnant now I feel shocking

I would have started this thread if it didn't already exist.
32 weeks with ds2. Feels like I recall 40 weeks being with ds1. I feel like a balloon about to pop, exhausted, bloated, bump the size of a family estate car. We have turnstiles at work and I'm afraid I'm going to get stuck one of these times.
This can't be only 32 weeks, surely they've made a mistake ?!?

Im glad and sad to see how many of us miseries we have now. Everyone seems to be really having a tough time.

Good luck mikesh it sounds like things are moving in the right direction let's hope they continue that way.

Tinyhuman you did the right thing by calling the day unit it's always best to get these things checked out. Hope you are feeling better soon.

Daisygirl are you taking stool softener to help with your piles? Im taking laxido at the moment and plan to until after the birth. Squeezing a baby out is bad enough I don't want to worry about squeezing a concrete shit out too! I find making sure I go regularly helps with the tightness on my stomach too.

I had a really good day yesterday. I was kept busy but it helped me instead of exhausting me. Today is another matter. I can really feel my prolapse tonight which although it isn't painful, it makes me uncomfortable, grouchy, reluctant to move (as I feel like I'm having to hold something in) and just makes me feel bad about myself. Im so undecided about what to do, while I don't want my baby to have a birthday around New years day, I would love for it to arrive naturally at 38 weeks nice and healthy and with the decision over whether to have c section is taken out of my hands. An easy natural birth when the weight is on the smaller end of the scale would be so perfect. I just can't face having what happened last time happen again but the consultant is so dismissive of my concerns. I don't have it in me to fight for something that I would actually rather avoid.

Truly thats what I keep thinking!! Baby seems so big I think I must be further on but my growth chart is ok....

Tmi but I'm not struggling to poo at all just can't seem to get rid of the bloody things! Although I did have a slightly surreal but helpful conversation with a 7 foot pharmacist today and he has ordered me in some suppositories to try, lovely!!

I'msticking that sounds like a tough decision, here's hoping baby does come when you want.

I'm so grumpy I'm even annoying myself tonight, I'm going to have a bath and get in bed so DH might still love me a tiny bit by the time the baby comes out I can tell I'm testing his patience with the constant moaning but he is trying to be kind!