32 weeks and emotional wreck

[mumof3nearly4girls]

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and up until now I've been ok emotionally. But this week I have been an emotional, grumpy, paranoid misery guts to put it politely. my partner works near his parents house (an hour from here) so mon-Friday he sleeps there. This was supposed to be until he got a job that is offering the same wage around here but it's just never happening. Baby is due end of January and he's assured me he will be moved in before she's born. I just don't see it happening! He was talking about looking forward to spending the Christmas holidays with us because he'd be here for a while ..... I was hoping he'd not be going back after xmas and would just move in then. I'm just sick of only getting Saturday nights with him (He does drive by the way). he is great but this is driving me mad, AIBU?
I'm emotional in general I think but if I mention it it goes over his head completely! Probably because I'm telling him over the pigging phone and he isn't getting it at all!

He only works an hour away. Why on earth doesn't he just commute daily?!

Why can't he live with you? If his parents house is only an hour way from you, how far is his work from there? My DP had a 2 hour drive each way until we moved.

He has a mileage restriction on his car . And doing 80 miles a day commuting would just swallow it. But it will have to be done anyway when baby is here!

He has a mileage restriction on his car

That an excuse. Sorry, but it is. If it's a work car he has to use then leave it at his parents house, buy a £500 banger and drive that to pick up the work car. If it's just because he leases it from the finance company then up the mileage or pay the excess.

I had to google that. So it's a rented car? Surely there are options to discuss increasing that, or he can't get his own car? I think if you're really unhappy, you will need to have a proper discussion with him. The job market slows down over Xmas so unless he has something in the pipeline, it's unlikely he will have a new job very soon. Remind him of all the stuff he'll be missing when the LO is born :)

I agree with Pottering

I suggested last week that if there is no job by Christmas (most unlikely there will be, but he did apply for one this week) then he drives my car (no restrictions on mine) and I'll drive his. It cost next nothing to add him to my insurance as an additional driver but his insurance want £400 to add me (he had paid for his annually I'm monthly ) he's agreed but this is where I'm paranoid.... I don't see it happening!! I only see him moving in when he has a job here. I need to just tell him how I feel as blunt as can be I think
He doesn't seem to get that I need him in so many ways right now.
And now I'm crying, god sake!

Btw the point of swapping cars is that I do hardly any miles xx

You poor thing. It can be hard for (some) men to understand how much support you really need in pregnancy. You need to stand firm and make him see how much you need him around, it's not fair on you. Don't buy his bad excuses for not being with you, make him understand that you're carrying a baby for both of you and need support.

Thank you everyone for seeing where I'm coming from i was worried I was just being over sensitive.
This is his first baby so I understand it's all completely new to him but another thing I worry about is that because he's not here now, (and let's face it, phone calls and weekend visits is not exactly being here through pregnancy,) but he will be when she's born it will all hit him like a brick. Does that make sense?