please help 26 weeks tired.. feel like I'm losing my husband....

[LittleMrsSophieB]

Hi not really sure how to start this conversation... suppose I'm looking for advise from others on whether it's me and my hormones or whether he's just not into me anymore now I'm pregnant.
Recently iv noticed when ever he comes in from work he'd rather sit on his phone and watch telly instead of making conversation with me. When ever I pull him up about it he says he doesn't do that. When I try and suggest we have an "early" night he can't wait to pull the covers up to neck and turn over and put his bk to me last night after I tried I made our room all romantic and he just want interested in the slightest. I feel like im losing him and our closeness isn't there anymore I even cried myself to sleep lastnight (and while I'm writing this) has he noticed how much my body is changing now at 26 weeks and he finds me repulsive Or is it my hormones?!?! He works in a office full of women too (their all married) but does he have a thing for one of them now it's his xmas party coming up soon and it's in the back of my mind if he's not happy and being distant with me is he looking else where?....
Wanted some opinions before I ask him about incase it is me and my hormones

Sorry you're feeling like this What do you mean he has a thing for someone at work?

I don't know if he has or not he just seems to talk about her all of the time

My DH went off sex when I was about 24 weeks. He was paranoid about hurting the baby and althought he would never say it I don't think he's attracted to me as I've put on weight.

Not helpful to you OP but you aren't the only one who's husband has changed. I think the only thing you can do is try to talk to him about how you're feeling.

Have you actually asked him what the issue is or are you hinting around it?

You need to have a proper talk with him. My dh freaked out that the baby would see his 'thing' coming towards it! We tend to do other stuff instead of full sex. If he cheats on his pregnant wife he is a giant twat. Talk to him, you might find he's freaking out but not in a relationship ending way.

My DP didn't like the thought of sex after a certain time (can't remember how far along I was).
I had serious paranoia about him leaving me/cheating on me. I think this is a natural thing you feel as you are more vulnerable when you're pregnant. I remember speaking to my manager about it at the time and he said his wife also felt the same.
I hated pregnancy as I spent 9 months worrying about things that never bothered me before (as in the cheating that never happened and the possibility of him leaving me)

I think you need to say all of this to him. Mentionitis about this woman isn't a good sign, but while it shows he thinks about her a lot, it also usually means they won't have done anything yet - if that happens they stop mentioning the woman all of a sudden.

Talk to him, he should take your feelings seriously and do things to reassure you. Your feelings should come first at this time especially. If he's quick to dismiss them or tells you you're wrong to feel that way that's not good news for your relationship. He needs to be in 100% or not at all, being half arsed with you while going on about someone else is not acceptable and you shouldn't put up with it just because you're pregnant. Perhaps he needs a reality check about that.