Help me! To confusing! I'm 7 weeks and unsure on the father!?

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Hello. Please don't judge me. I had an early scan in my pregnancy and the doctor told me I was 7 weeks pregnant. I was going to terminate but changed my mind this is how I ended up having a scan.

I thought I new who the father was as I have been sleeping with the same person for 2 years trying for a baby. However we broke up in September. I had a silly one night stand with someone on 16th September he said he didn't cum. It didn't last long either!

However after this I blanked it out! I got back with my partner and had sex with him around 29th September (roughly, not exact) but we continued to have regular sex. And I haven't been with anyone since.

So when I found out I was 7 weeks from the ultrasound. I was happy as I worked out that would of been beginning of October. I had my ultrasound on 22/11/16.

I told my partner he is over the moon. But this morning out of no where that one night stand popped into my head Iv tried calculating everything now I'm panicking. And don't no what to do. As I'm reading it can be 2 weeks different. I need to know ASAP and don't have a midwife appointment for another few weeks!

Is it the one night stand from 16th September. Or my partner who I slept with before the 16th and continually from end of September??

Please help and please be honest I'm so scared.

I don't understand how it works though. As they take blood test from my arm and a swab from my partners mouth. Very confusing. But we will see. Thank you for wishing me luck i feel like I need it.

The NIPT test (the one you are having) tests tiny bit of baby's DNA that fund their way into Mum's bliss stream .... Good luck!

Blood not bliss!

Thank you that makes sense

I agree there is no way the one night stand is the father. But it's good your checking to be sure. Sperm lives a few days not weeks

I know you did not ask ... and this section is pregnancy ... but anyway ...

I'd strongly recommend get an STI test for yourself and partner too. If the result is positive, then you'll have to tell him.

If the result is negative, then if I were in the reverse situation, I'd certainly want to know (I know you were not together at the time).

I really hope everything works out for you.

If you had ons middle of sept and then light period end of sept then more then likely to be oh baby

Your partner is 32 and his family are insisting on a paternity test???? Why is he not telling them to fuck off??

I'd be telling his family to fuck off with their DNA test request. How fucking dare they? You say OH doesn't have an issue so shouldn't he grow some balls and tell them to knob off? (Obviously you want one anyway now but that's beside the point).

Ha ha lovinglola.. great minds!

Exactly this is my point. I'm very angry with it all. Now there telling me they want to wait til after Christmas cuz they've had a hard year!! Now I'm refusing. Iv said I'm not being around you all at Christmas whilst looking at me with doubt!! It gets done before or not at all. It's starting to get to me as I just want everyone to enjoy this pregnancy x

You poor thing x

This all does sound tough but I really think you should tell your OH about the one night stand. You say he loves and trusts you, but you admit the baby you are carrying could not be his. I think you should prepare him for this possibility just in case, and also as PP mentioned, for STI screening.
If your partner had a one night stand in this time frame and could potentially be a father, wouldn't you rather know now?
You were not together, so he can't reasonably hold it against you, but if the baby is not his (after you have told him it can only be his) this will destroy his trust. I think you should be honest with him on this. If he chooses to raise the baby anyway this will be easier if he knew it was a possibility from the beginning.

Just an update I'm due on 5th July 2017. I'm now 20 weeks 5 days. I'm still unsure on who the father is but I'm pretty sure it's my regular partners. Although we broken up. Just curious if anyone has more info. I am still doing a DNA test but not until my baby is born now. But have told my ex partner I don't want any money or anything off him til he has these results as it's only fair. I got in touch with the ons who told me to stay away he didn't even ejaculate so he's not interested. Iv gone on conception calculators online which state I would of had sex to conceive between 8th October to 16th October. Can anyone reassure me of how accurate this is please? And I did have a mini period on 25th September so 9 days after the ons.
Thanks in advance

I'm due day before you and had proper period 2oct just before going on holiday with Dh to Oz and coming back with stowaway...

If ONS was 16th sept, you'd have to be around a month further on for it to be his.

What was your estimated date of conception from your 12 week scan? It's unlikely this would be more than a week out. Although not impossible. So most likely your partner's. Although have you separated now?

Are your periods usually regular? Was the "mini period" at your usual time? Have you had "mini periods" before?

If it does turn out to be the ons man you can still pursue him for child maintenance, even if he doesn't want to know.

If she is the ons just gonna forget him and deal with it on my own as he is married etc. My periods are usually regular and it was at the right time but was just shorter than usual for some reason. But my 7week scan and my 15week scan both gave me and the same due date which the doctors told me. And both scans made sense of each other aswell as my 9 week scan. Was all spot on. We have separated and still doing a DNA but I need to know how to prepare myself or what the chances are of it being the ons.