How did you announce your pregnancy?

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Apparently I'm not the only one in my Facebook/extended family/life to recently find out they're pregnant! All the announcements have been very sweet but I'm lost at what to do now. I was see myself as creative but I've hit a block! A generic status will not cut it with me! (The important people are being told face to face on Christmas Day/s)

How did you announce your pregnancy to the world?

Scan photos are in a whole different league namechange

Here's a list of the people who will be really REALLY Thrilled to hear that you are pregnant

1. your partner ( I hope)
2. Your parents, if it's a first GC

The rest of your friends, family and colleagues will feign a polite interest but basically women have babies all the time .

The only exception is if you have been dealing with infertility and have told people . If you are under 20, over 45 or single , nosy people will ask why . If you are a same sex couple, nosy people will ask how.

That's about it .

Sorry, didn't RTFT, but I made up a personalised crossword puzzle, which once you solved spelt out "we are having a baby". I don't get why people are so "down" on announcements. Then again, maybe you shouldn't have so many random people you barely like on FB too! I do, but only share things with close friends using lists or on other forms of personalised messaging.

Purple Fair enough.

Kr1stina I complete disagree that no one cares, and it's a really harsh to say. Of course people don't care as much as the future parents (and maybe grandparents) but close family and friends are likely to be very happy for them. Mine were delighted (more so than me as I had got over the initial excitement by that point and was in the exhausted, anxious phase!)

Kr1stina that may be the case for you, but I live 150 miles from my best friends after relocating and they were thrilled. You should probably question why yours don't care tbh...

Remind me where I said that no one cares ?

And raspberry your personal comments about me are nasty and uncalled for. I have indeed questioned why my parents don't care, because they put me into care when I was a toddler.

are you saying that was my fault ? What did I do wrong ? Do you think it was because of my behaviour ?

just tell people you are pregnant, most people will think oh nice and thats it, the more twee the announcement the more people will think oh fuck sake is this what its going to be like for the next months

Kr1stina
"your friends, family and colleagues will feign a polite interest"
I read that as "no one will care". And I disagree. If it's happened to you, I'm sorry, but saying it will definitely happen to others is projection. A good friend will care. If they don't care, they're not a good friend.

Kr1stina 'I' never mentioned family... that my dear was you...

"The rest of your friends, family and colleagues will feign a polite interest but basically women have babies all the time."

I'm sorry to hear that you were put into care, but as NameChange mentions... those who are good friends (as I was talking about) will care.

Your statement re family and friends though is pointing fingers... why would my friends, family and colleagues have a 'feign' interest? Every member of my family has been just as overjoyed as the next about the expectant news of our pregnancy.

Also: I care when I see pregnancy announcements on Facebook. Even if they're from people I haven't seen in years or even don't know that well. I like seeing happy news and also I'm nosy about other people's lives

Having done a 'cute' announcement to our parents and then miscarried a week later, i could never publicise my pregnancy. My own dad doesn't even know that i have since had another miscarriage as i refused to tell anyone.

I would never have put it on facebook because i know how hard i have found the endless scan pictures, weekly bump pictures, etc. Very few people in my life know what is going on and i smile and show interest in their lovely news, but i really wish people wouldn't do this. People i care enough about to be really overjoyed for would tell me in person.

Social media invades your headspace in your own home and catches you off guard sometimes at your lowest ebb. Previous generations managed very well with a simple "i'm pregnant."

I don't mean to rant at you, and your news is lovely but i do blame social media for things like this.

I think to announce it is wanting attention and drama. Work knew cause they had to and so did my family and very close friends. I even dreaded telling them. FB friends found out whenever a photo got put up.

I fainted at work & they all guessed.

Told DH and very close friends (about 3 of them) face to face immediately. Phoned parents (significant distance away, so don't see them regularly) after first scan. Conveniently saw IL's shortly after first scan (they aren't nearby either). Personal email to good friends and those I knew were struggling with infertility then facebook for the rest.

I threw up in the office, and then was off work for 8 weeks (hospitalised with Hyperemisis). Everyone knew by the time I got back.

No announcement here. 3 painful years of infertility and a miscarriage meant that I had found social media (scan pics and announcements) rather depressing and I didn't want to risk doing that to anyone else.

I saw a really cute pic on Facebook before of a big safety pin, smaller safety pin and a tiny safety pin inside the smaller one.
Although, in saying that I never felt the need to announce anything.

ah whycan recognise you from the July thread :) think you got a bit of a rough ride early on!

You could post a pic of you and DH with in front of a Christmas tree with "DH and me in front of the tree, this time next year we two will be three!"

or just a pic of the two of you with "soon to be three" nice and simple but still a little creative :)

Rum that is absolutely adorable! I'll have to convince DP to get in a photo as he's a hider. Yeah that's me haha! It was a full on attack but I think they misunderstood my wording, that or they genuinely hate the idea!

I get why some
people might like it but you know your Facebook friends and how it's most likely to be received and if you're excited to share your news I say go for it :)

Sorry to hear about your anxiety etc - I suffer very mildly but it's event specific in terms of triggers and only a tiny touch of it so I can't imagine what it must be like to deal with it all the time. If this is something you're able
to focus on positively and with excitement I think you should embrace it and go for it :)

that should have said might not like it. Time for bed me thinks!

Told my mum in Matalan so she couldn't make a scene in price. She walked out and didn't speak to me for an hour.

TBF she assumed my ex was the father as I hadn't told her about DH then, and I was reasonably young. She got over it quickly though

In price = in public. Rotten phone.

DH I said "I'm pregnant" first time. Second time I showed him the pregnancy test and he said "oh dear never mind" (turns out he thought it was negative ). Parents and PILs - we just told them.

Others - just told them when I was next in touch.

I don't really mind pregnancy announcements though I'm really not keen on the cutesy/witty ones (save those for your DP/DH/parents). I like hearing announcements when it's someone I know has struggled to get pregnant.

YY, SIL and her DH had been trying for a long time and I shed a happy tear when she announced her pregnancy

I don't think showing pregnancy tests to men is always the most efficient way of announcing it, they often seem to get confused and don't understand that it's positive! I showed DH the test but I was too impatient to wait for him to work it out!