Cousin lost her baby we were pregnant at the same time

[Sophieeleanorxx]

Hi ladies just looking for some advice my cousin and I were pregnant at the same time she was 10 weeks ahead. I never really see her or keep in contact I probably see her every three years or so, I seen her at my grandmas 90th party in August and we were both so excited and we promised to keep in touch and that I'd go up to London and visit once baby is here. Anyway unfortunately she lost her little girl at 34 weeks due to preeclampsia. I didn't bother to contact her because I didn't know what to say she doesn' have fb and I didn't have her number but I could of got in contact if I wanted too. The guilt is eating me up inside if I post anything baby tek

Please send her a card or anything just to apologise. I lost a baby at a late stage last year and I was surprised about the number of friends who didn't contact me. One of whom had made me godmother in the previous year. There was no way I felt up to congratulating anyone who had given birth after or became pregnant. I was absolutely devastated. A nice card will do wonders and just be honest.

I think you have gone about this completely wrong. Your family member lost their baby and you ignored it like they had a common cold? You could have got an address/number but you decided not to make it a priority.

I think you should contact straight away. Her husband being Muslim is little relevance in this situation. A loss is a loss