After 2 m/c, When is the best time to tell people your pgnt again??

[cupcake78]

DH and I are having a discussion at the moment as to when we should tell people. I am 8 weeks + at the moment have had two m/c at 11 weeks and 17weeks (work knew about both of them, not recommended it you can avoid it).

I have had a scan and everything is ok at the moment. He thinks as everyone knew about the last two m/c (can't really hide it at 17 weeks) we should just tell people,as he is very excited.

I would like to hide it as long as possible but realistically don't think I will be able to hide it past 14 weeks as I am already finding clothes very tight and almost reaching out for those maternity trousers. (Third pregnancy and my body has officially given up).

What do you think? Can I hide it when people know the signs (they have seen me go throught it twice so know what to look for and some are actively looking). Do I admit it if I am asked?? Don't really want anyone to know till baby is born but that really is not an option. Dating scan in 5 weeks.

We didn't even tell family until after the first scan - and didn't tell work until after the 2nd (but it didn't really show until then anyway).

Close family already know but I am really unsure what to do about everyone else.

Oh and I have just been asked by the second person today if I am alright as I look very pale and tired (that is with makeup and sneeky lipgloss) I thought I looked ok.

cupcake - I would wait until after your first scan if it would make you feel better. People might be suspicious but unless they ask outright (at which point you may decide to tell them, or just say you're feeling under the weather depending on how well you know them) then it's none of their business.
Plus you'd be amazed how unobservant some people are - I'm 30 weeks and some people at work who I didn't officially tell are only just realising (and I have a huge bump!)

Oh, and - Congratulations -

I read on another thread that the risk has mostly passed by 14 weeks. We're telling family now, but will leave friends until at least 14 weeks if we can avoid anyone guessing.

There was a very good link on the last pg after m/c thread to an article which suggests that once a heartbeat has been detected, the chances of m/c reduce dramatically. Could you see a heartbeat?

oh yes there was a very good heart beat and everything looks fine at the moment. Which has just got DH even more determined to shout it from the roof tops.

I don't share his confidence.

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