wow, thank you so much for your speedy responses, i read them all yesterday before my appointment and my mind was eased, it's so comforting to know people are making the same heavy decisions with the same reasoning.
Nikki - your reply really helped, if contractions had started i wouldve thought...'that's it, im in labour...etc.' so knowing you had them but they subsided was such a relief. I didn't know your little could be taken to a different hospital after birth though?! Is that purely because there is a more specialised neonates elsewhere? what about you transferring or staying on site at a ronald mcdonald house? Our hospital is Princess Anne's in southampton, i know they have a policy that if you live a certain number of miles away you have to be housed on site - especially if you are wanting to breastfeed ( i know the babies wont be able to feed straight away but it's nice to know)
Hi Jodie,
Your thoughts sound so so similar to mine, but you've reached 30 weeks!!! and the surgeon said to me as soon as the baby is born the chance of survival heightens! I dont want to buy anything either, but comforted by the fact that we know they will have time in hospital, so it's not being morbid, it's just knowing we have additional time to buy the most suitable things :)
I do have a question - your lung to head ratio information, i've never heard of that before, do you think they will start mentioning it at a later date? did they explain what it means? as in, is the surface area of the lungs supposed to match the head or something? (sorry if that sounds stupid!) I haven't had any symptoms from the amnio as of yet, the midiwife did show me the fluid they took though which looking back i think i could've done without! I felt relieved straight away after it was done though, I think I was worried the procedure would make me start contracting straight away or something!
Our first baby went to NICU when born (just to grow, he was 6wks early) so we know the layout but i think it might be nice to go again to ask the professionals some relevant questions, also it can't hurt to see it again!
I love that you have such a big family, what have you told your other children, do any of them know theres a risk involved? ours is only young so luckily won't remember any of the stress - i still think he is affected by my low moods though!
Has anything changed throughout your pregnancy, as in more organs rising up or anything like fluid etc...? thank you so much for replying, and im so glad you're in the last bit, this pregnancy will not be one we want to repeat the feelings of!
LWRF, hello! thank you for your reply. Congratulations on having a tough little cookie for a daughter! I love a happy ending, but of course you've really been through the mill, id love to talk to you more so will message! I have since emailed the charity who put me in touch with a facebook group so can see all the stories in there, it really is such a comfort knowing so many people have gone through the same thing, and theres always going to be someone with a similar story. I'll be in touch!!
thank you all, i feel a lot more positive - surprising how much more really!