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Tex111 · 15/06/2004 07:35

I didn't think I would be like this since I've been pregnant before but I'm feeling increasingly worried. 11 weeks pregnant today but my symptoms started drying up a few days ago and this morning the little bump that was growing is gone. No cramping or bleeding. Just a lack of symptoms and a creeping sense of concern.

My first pregnancy I was sick 3-4 times a day every day until about 16 weeks (it was a boy). This time I've had some nausea and tiredness, especially around week 9, and threw up once but that's it. I know all pregnancies are different but it just doesn't feel right.

Making a GP appt today and will hopefully be reassured. Anyone else felt like this?

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piglit · 16/06/2004 12:17

I'm so sorry to hear that Tex. Thinking of you.

oxocube · 16/06/2004 12:30

Tex, my 1st pregnancy ended like this and it is horrible. Am very sorry. Have a lovely holiday, though and get lots of rest and sunshine.xxx

cat82 · 16/06/2004 12:38

so sorry to read your news, i was following your post and hope the outcome would be good news
take care, keep strong x

smellymelly · 16/06/2004 12:38

Oh no tex111 - I'm really so sorry, I can't believe it. I feel like I have lost a friend off the Jan thread.

I don't know what else to say... You sound really positive, so I hope you can get through this ok, the break should do you some good.

xxx

Azure · 16/06/2004 13:10

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Tex111.

2babies · 16/06/2004 13:22

So sorry to hear your news, Tex111. I have been following this thread since yesterday. Good you are getting away now to Spain. Thinking of you.

sweetkitty · 16/06/2004 13:25

so sorry to hear of your loss tex

try to rest and take it easy on your hol xxx

busybee123 · 16/06/2004 13:29

oh tex.....i am SOOOOOOO sorry.....i know what you are going through. It still hurts no matter how much you prepare yourself for the worst. Just remember you have plenty of support on here and a shoulder to cry on should you need it. Time does heal...I promise. Take care of yourself and try and enjoy your holiday. Sending hugs x x

hewlettsdaughter · 16/06/2004 13:31

Tex111 - sorry to hear this. Hope the holiday does you some good. At least it will give you and dh some time together, to talk/grieve, and plan for the future - whatever you need to do.

Ronniebaby · 16/06/2004 13:47

Tex111, oh sweetie, sooo sorry, I know how you feel I was 7 weeks and miscarried, they told me it had stopped growing at 5 weeks, that was January, it's now June and I'm nearly 14 weeks, so there is a positive side of this, enjoy your holiday, rest and relax, and then come back all refreshed to think about starting again, that's how I looked at it, it happened couldnt stop it moved on and looking forward to baby no.2 in December.

Love & hugs to you.

BIBIBOO · 16/06/2004 13:53

Tex, hope you are feeling okay (IFYWIM) and that you and DH have a nice time away together next week. Thinking of you

Marina · 16/06/2004 13:55

Tex111, very, very sorry to hear your news. Hope your time away provides you with some time to put yourself first and relax.

ggglimpopo · 16/06/2004 13:57

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Tinker · 16/06/2004 13:58

tex - so sorry to hear this. Have been following this thread as well keeping my fingers crossed.

hana · 16/06/2004 14:31

oh Tex, have just seen this, so sorry for you and DH. Hope things go ok on Friday and that you have a 'nice' time away. At least you'll be spending time together, and as someone else has said, time for talking, grieving, planning and thinking about what's next. Hope to see you back soon
hana

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Tex111 · 16/06/2004 14:36

Thanks so much for all of your support and kind words. I'm feeling remarkably calm at the moment though I'm sure Friday will be tough. It's wonderful to hear about women who have been through the same thing and gone on to have other children.

I'm so glad we have DS as I think I would be taking this much harder without him. He'll be getting even more kisses and cuddles than usual!

I'm looking at it as just getting through the procedure on Friday, resting, enjoying the holiday and coming back fresh to try again.

I can't thank you guys enough. You're defintely helping to keep me steady and sane.

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Tex111 · 16/06/2004 15:08

Does anyone have any advice about the D&C? How bad will the bleeding be afterwards? Will I need maternity pads or will normal ones suffice? I have a massage booked for the following day. Should I cancel it or will it be some welcome pampering? I'd be grateful for anything anyone can tell me about what to expect.

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bunny2 · 16/06/2004 15:25

Tex,I really am sorry to hear your news. A holiday will do you the world of good, give you and dh lots of time to be together. I've had 2 missed mcs and 2 d&cs. With the first, the bleeding was like a heavy period, with the second, the bleeding was light for a few days then, about 4 days after, I got lots of cramping and clotting which was painful. The hospital gave me antibiotics and painkillers but I was fine. It is a quick and straightforward process. In your shoes I'd cancel a massage purely becuase the bleeding might be heavy and the last thing you want to do is strip down to your knickers.

Hulababy · 16/06/2004 15:32

Sorry it was bad news Tex

bundle · 16/06/2004 15:54

I'm sorry to hear that tex, x

rosies · 16/06/2004 15:57

i'm sorry to hear your news.

as for the massage, i would give it a miss. you will have had a general anaesthetic(sp) so it may not be a good idea. i dont think it necessarily would make the bleeding worse.

if you know the therapist, give her a call. she should be able to advise you correctly. she may be able to offer reiki or something instead, which could be a good thing at this point.

best wishes
rosie

Canadianmom · 16/06/2004 18:24

Tex111 So sorry to hear your news. No amount of preparation can help with the grieving. You are handling everything with such a positive outlook but don't be discouraged if you have down days. Hope the week in Spain is as relaxing as possible. On a purely practical note: Do ask if it is possible to have anti-biotics and painkillers prescribed as it would be awful to spend your holiday in a foreign hospital. 90% of these procedures are quick and relatively painless but it is sometimes best to prepare for the worst scenario. (I was readmitted 4 days after my d&c with retained materials, an infection and blood loss severe enough to be considered for a tranfusion.) Would travel insurance offer coverage if this became necessary or would it be considered a pre-existing condition? Sorry if I am only putting ideas in your head that you would rather not consider.
Make sure that you do spend more time giving ds extra cuddles and kisses and take care of yourself.

hana · 16/06/2004 18:43

tex - I also used reg pad after a D&C, the bleeding was like a heavy period for a couple of days and then fairly light for about a week. YOu should be prescribed painkillers and antibiotics as a matter of course, if not, def ask for them as you'll be in a foreighn country. Will be thinking of you on Friday - and your massage will be something to look forward to maybe when you return from your holiday

pollyanna · 16/06/2004 19:08

Tex, I'm really really sorry to hear your news.

Hope you can rest on holiday. xxx

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Tex111 · 16/06/2004 21:19

Thanks so much for the advice. I was going to ring our travel insurance provider and check on the coverage but I will definitely request painkillers and antibiotics just in case. I would never have thought of that. Thanks so much for the tip.

I'll cancel my massage too, which I'm sure is the wise option. Oh well, I'll definitely plan a day of pampering when we get back.

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