Hen weekend with a baby?

[Sunshinie]

I am a bridesmaid for my friend next year, along with some other close friends. We started thinking about ideas for her hen do a while ago, with her sister. We decided to go to a place which she loves but is about five hours drive away, to get a cottage and do some activities.

Anyway, since then I have found out I'm pregnant (first baby). I think some of the girls have a fair idea as I've suddenly stopped drinking, which isn't like me. As long as everything goes well, this means I will have a nine week old baby to take with me on the weekend.

I haven't told anyone yet, as I'm only about 9 weeks so have been keeping quiet and hoping I could tell them all in a few weeks. However, her sister is really keen to start finding and booking somewhere and asking for confirmation so I'm not sure what to do now.
I'm fairly sure that I would be ok taking the baby along. We're not planning a huge night out and I'm happy to sit out of any adventurous activities. Do you think I should say something now though? My DH says it's not fair to take a baby who might cry all weekend but there's no way I would leave it at home for three days!
It seems so very far away at the moment! I'm not sure what to do.

I wouldn't take a baby. I went on a very chilled hen and one of the ladies had her baby with her. It completely changed the weekend even though it was a chill out everyone was cooing over baby rather than celebratin the bride to be. Plus the poor thing cried all night and kept everyone else awake.

Wow. You can't take your 9 week old baby on someone else's hen night. Such an unfair expectation on the bride and the rest of the group. Have any of your friends ever done this for other hen nights?

Gosh I am shocked you would even assume it's OK to take the baby. This isn't even a thread about whether to!

As I've said- thank you very much for the helpful advice. This is something that's been on my mind a lot and I'm very anxious anyway about all being ok with my first pregnancy.
I said I was 'fairly sure' things would be OK. Now I'm definitely sure it won't be so I'm not going to take the baby. I'll talk to my friends tomorrow and hopefully we can come up with a plan.

Could you organise the hen for am earlier date when you are pregnant rather than once the baby is born? My best friend got married when my DD waa six weeks old and asked me when I'd prefer her hen to be, obviously I didn't want to dictate but she wanted me to be comfortable, so I organised it for when I was in the third trimester, I'm glad I did as I was able to enjoy it and focus on my friend.