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Baby names - is this a complete no no!?

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chloechloe · 21/10/2016 12:46

We're expecting DD2 in December and pretty much the only name DH and I both like is the middle name we gave to DD1!

DH doesn't see why we can't use the same name for DD2 - after all it's just a middle name written on the birth certificate but not otherwise used.

To me though it just doesn't seem to be the done thing. Then again we're at a loss to find another name we both love.

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GreenGoblin0 · 21/10/2016 12:58

don't see anything wrong with it. I really like my dd's middle name and might use it if our 2nd DC due in April is a girl

GinIsIn · 21/10/2016 13:01

Well, it is a bit unoriginal. I think I'd be quite put out TBH when I got older if my parents hadn't given me my own name but just recycled part of one they'd already given my sister.

Oysterbabe · 21/10/2016 13:55

I think it's a bit odd and would come up with another name.

NameChange30 · 21/10/2016 13:58

I think it's a shame you used for DD1's middle name, but if it's the only name you both love, just give it to DD2!

Would it be really silly to give her DD1's first name as a middle name?!

I would never use the other names on my shortlist as a middle name - middle name will be a family name that I wouldn't use as a first name!

kikisdelivery · 21/10/2016 14:00

My OH's middle name is the name his younger brother ended up with (albeit in shortened format), so I don't think it's a bad thing! His mum obviously didn't!

Kittenrush · 21/10/2016 15:33

Of course it's fine! If you like the name and it suits then why on earth not? It'll be nice when they grow up that they have that connection!

Lizb1990 · 21/10/2016 16:04

I would have quite liked having my big sisters middle name as my first growing up would have felt like I was named after her, I think its quite sweet

BikeRunSki · 21/10/2016 17:08

My sister and I have never got on. We'd hate to share names. (She speaks very highly of me too )
Really, of the many 💯s of girls names out there, there is only 1 you both like?

BadToTheBone · 21/10/2016 17:28

I don't see an issue with it. I know siblings called Nicola Sarah and Sarah Nicola (not real names), you'd never know unless they tell you.

albertcampionscat · 21/10/2016 17:32

Could you change the first one's middle name (or just get rid of it)?

sycamore54321 · 21/10/2016 18:52

No, it is disrespectful to their individual identities and I would find it very hurtful if I were either child, particularly the younger. They will presumably share a surname, that is enough. They each deserve their own name.

SnookieSnooks · 21/10/2016 19:03

You don't have to have a middle name..... my mum doesn't have I one. I would avoid giving both DCs the same name unless it's one that is passed down the family

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chloechloe · 21/10/2016 22:05

I know it seems ridiculous that we're struggling to find another name! But we're both expats living in a third country which means our children will grow up with 3 languages. It's not so easy to find a name that works well in all 3 - some names are lovely in English for example but then pronounced completely differently elsewhere.

Interesting to see how divided opinions are! It seems to be going a bit far to say it would be disrespectful to my DD2 though!

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MrsGsnow18 · 21/10/2016 22:29

I don't think it's the worst thing you could name your child but maybe not totally ideal.
Some people end up using their middle names more than others e.g in professional way when older.
However the majority of people's middle names stay fairly hidden away and are never used.

When the time comes I'm sure you and your DH will know what feels right.

ShowOfHands · 21/10/2016 22:33

I know two families who have done this. The children don't give a flying fig.

oleoleoleole · 21/10/2016 23:00

I would feel like you had lacked imagination and couldn't be bothered to choose another name

Kittenrush · 24/10/2016 18:46

I totally don't think it would be like you'd lacked imagination or was at all disrespectful. Especially having to translate the name to three different languages! I know it isn't the same but my niece is named after my middle name. I was thrilled when I found out and she absolutely loves that we have this little thing we share. She's 17 now and has no issue with it at all xxx

Sheddie · 24/10/2016 18:56

My younger sister has my middle name as her first name and it has never been an issue at all. In fact I don't think it has ever really been discussed except Mum saying when they unexpectedly had another child it gave her a chance to use the name. Go for it I say.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 24/10/2016 18:57

I don't think it's odd. We're expecting #4 and I was keen on one of the boys middle names for this one of its a boy but Husband thinks it's weird!

SimonNeilshair · 24/10/2016 19:00

I know two families who have done this, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's better to choose a name you both really love than one your not that arsed about.

Beeziekn33ze · 24/10/2016 21:37

I knew a family where two brothers had the same 3rd name, I never asked why. Years later one brother had sons, one of them had that same name as his first name. Odd but that name must have been important to the family I suppose.

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