What did you want when you came home?

[salemtheteenagecat]

Just been thinking about hospital bags etc.. and my DP has asked what I would like when I come home?

It took me a while to work out what he meant but when chatting about it I said I would love to come home to new PJ's, dressing gown and slippers(dark nights have set in, want to be cosy, de hospitalise)

Thought maybe a new lush bath bomb - is this a good idea after giving birth??

My fave meal all ready to go? favourite snacks?

What would you like? or what did you have that was ultimately the best thing ever - I fully understand that baby will be No1 :)

Oh no about the fox shit! What a welcome home present!
I will mention tidy house!
I am 35 weeks and have never once thought about Pate until now!
I think I may ask for some smelly cheese, Pate and crackers. Now thinking maybe I sacrifice my glass of wine for a nice warm glass of mulled wine or mulled cider! I'm very much a autumn winter person!

I would have liked a Chinese takeaway, a glass of wine, my fluffy dressing gown, something good on tv and the chance to relax.

As it was, I got home from hospital at 1.30pm. DH left to go to the football at 3pm and returned after midnight. MIL came round and didn't help one bit, aside from collecting DS1 from school. My parents came round and stayed while I had a quick shower and put DS1 to bed, but wanted to get away as they were off on holiday the next day. I had cold crumpets for dinner. It was only 2 weeks ago and I don't recommend any of these things. They will all make you angry!

Millie, you are surrounded by very selfish people.

Millie, how on earth did your husband justify going off to play football and staying out for nine hours when his baby was just born?

Millie. Poor you!

OK, your MIL did at least collect DS1 from school & your DPs did at least come around to watch the DCs whilst you showered. But DH? Football? Please tell me you mean he is a professional football player & had no possible option of not playing that day? If you mean he went to watch a football match - and then stay out for drinks afterwards - how are you still with him?

The best thing I came home to was a spotless house and empty laundry basket! Picked up a dominos on route home. Simple pleasures.

Box sets and Netflix ready.
Steak.
Chocolate.
A weekly cleaner for the next six years weeks.

Steak so rare it's basically mooing, with DHs legendary blue cheese sauce, followed by my favourite chocolates from the handmade chocolate place in our town.

You won't want new pjs, best to bleed all over old cheap ones.

Has anyone said diamonds yet? Diamonds are always nice. If he's stuck for ideas, diamonds.

Nice thought by your partner by the way!

I thought the first thing I'd want would be a lovely refreshing gin and tonic. Actually all I wanted was just sleep in my own bed. Fresh clean bedsheets for your homecoming are a must :)

I wanted:
Fresh sheets
A clean and tidy house
A bath
Pizza takeaway

I got:
An unmade bed and bedroom which looked like a tornado had hit it, plus a huge pile of laundry. (DP went home for a bit of sleep after DD was born and got woken up by the Grannies desperate to get him in the car to visit us in hospital!)

The usual semi-clean, semi-tidy house that I am presented with whenever I've been gone a while! ('Semi' is me being kind.)

The best bath I've ever had: tea tree oil is nothing to do with tea or trees, it is made of pure magic.

Pizza takeaway which was cold by the time I ate it... good training for the weeks to come!

I really thought I'd go nuts if I had to come home to a mess, but I honestly didn't care. I was just so pleased to be at home with our baby :)

Bath, new pyjamas, cosy fire, Chinese takeaway and newborn sleeping like proverbial

My mum broke in while i was in hospital. I came home to a freezer full of dinners. The fire lit and heating on. A sparklingly clean house which included kitchen cupboards washed and ironing done.

She also had a new crib set up beside my seat on the sofa, a changing basket with nappies,cream, wipes and clean vests and baby grows for ds.

She also had the baby monitors set up and a note saying she'd text everyone to say we'd been kept an extra night for observation.

She can be full on sometimes but got this spot on. 24 hours of just me ds and dh. Bliss. I love my mum

My bed! And knowing my DM and DF were cuddling her whilst me and DH slept for 2 hours. It was BLISS! But then we had been in hospital for 6 days!

And Dinosaur has it spot on with sparkling diamonds!

Sorry to hear it was so pants Millie

Mam that sounds amazing what a lovely thing to do!

What's people's thoughts then tea tree oil for bath? I am like a mermaid and bath is my go to place so would like to have something nice in even if it's just to soothe sore bits

In DH's defence, I had (stupidly) agreed it was ok for him to go to the match. It was an evening kick off in a city over an hour away so they (DH and FIL) left at 3pm and came straight home afterwards, no staying out drinking as he doesn't really drink. Sadly he's not a professional footballer but he is mad about his team and I knew that when I married him. So although I was pissed off on the actual night (and have been since when I'm in a bad mood!) and it would have been nice if he'd stayed at home, it's probably not as bad as it sounds. But I would have liked a Chinese takeaway and a glass of wine! And I did think MIL might have stayed to help a bit. But I have learned to lower my expectations over the years.

for me i wanted a really good meal.Next time i have one i will be ordering my favourite take out when i get home the hospital food was awful i didnt eat my entire stay.

i also recommend senakot if you decide on painkillers they clog up the plumbing

Parma ham and wine, in fact I was only in hospital a few hours and ended up having both of these in hospital even though I was only there 8 hours after birth my Mum had gone straight to waitrose on opening and bought £18 of Parma ham to bring to the hospital which I scoffed the lot about 4 hours after birth and didn't offer to share one bit! My Dad had a lovely bottle of wine on chill already for me! At home they filled the fridge with forkable meals-which are essential!

NOOOOO NOT senakot!!! That can give you horrible horrible cramps and the runs....lactulose is what you want for after birth!!!!! I would buy some and keep it in taking it regardless of how you feel.

Also massive yes to forkable meals Florin mentioned, totally forgot about how difficult it is to eat anything if you have to cut it for a couple of months, staring at hot food you could be eating when you're hungry and hormonal is rubbish.

I was in hospital a week with DD in SCBU and so really I was just so happy to have been able to take her home that everything else was just details. We did order a takeaway though and I remember eating it while we both stared at her thinking "now what?!"

I wanted to be able to sit down somewhere! DH had been 'busy' getting the house ready as I went into labour 4 weeks early and some DIY jobs hadn't been done that he wanted.

He then, however, on the day I was to be discharged, decided to spend the day sorting his EXTENSIVE cd and video(!) collection into alphabetical order. There in bloody piles everywhere when I got home and had to move stuff to be able to sit down!

He got the hump for that.

Oh, and I wanted help in the night! The first time DD woke up for a feed, he muttered 'It's too early', rolled over and went to sleep.

He got an earfull for that the next morning. But was a complete arse about helping with the baby for the first month, when he then got over it a bit and started being more hands on and helpful.

I wanted: my bed, my own bathroom/shower, a curry (takeaway!), comfy armchair and my biggest dressing gown to snuggle into. I got all of them!! My mum drove us home from hospital, checked we were ok & had groceries, held baby while I had a shower, then left. DH got curry.
Clean sheets would be nice but probably not worth it, I wanted the sheets to smell of me for the baby so changed them a few days before I went into hospital.

Personally I don't like anyone moving anything around in my house/doing my cleaning, I was able to leave it spotless as baby was induced so I had plenty of time to clean before baby came!

I wanted a clean, warm house with lots of food in ready to eat or get a takeaway. I wasn't fussy.

I got: not being discharged from hospital until 9pm on a stormy Sunday night and by the time we got home, unpacked the baby and sat down, realised we had no food in and all the takeaways were shut. We had cheap ass frozen pizza from the Londis nearby - you know that really, really bad stale crusty pizza with the really bad tomato base? That costs about £1? We had those ones. We'd unexpectedly stayed in hospital for a few days and DH had been with us every moment he could, only going when they kicked him out and had no thoughts to get food in.

Salem
This is such a good idea. I'm 33 weeks And I am so prepared for what I want in my bag at the hospital but I never stopped to think about after!!

I Actually just started a blog on facebook about pregnancy. Do you mind if I do a post about this idea at some point? I'm 33 weeks so I imagine it would be in 4 or so weeks when I'm a bit closer to my due date!

I posted about personal space, hospital bags and hypnobirthing but now I'm at a bit of a loss to be honest! trying to put a funny spin on pregnancy but some days i feel like it's just rubbish!

Check the blog out ladies if you want, it's on facebook. How To Grow a Person

m.facebook.com/howtogrowaperson/?ref=ts&fref=ts

It doesn't have much of an audience yet as only shared with my own facebook friends, most of whom are travelling and not even thinking about kids! But hopefully some of you can relate and find it funny :)

Im off to start thinking about what I want when i return from the hospital! Xx