"knowing your luck it will be another boy"

[thecatsarecrazy]

Why do people think this is ok to say? I have 2 sons, I'm expecting a 3rd baby. I went out last night to put some rubbish out and neighbour who I only have a bit of small talk with said oh your getting big how many weeks? Girl or boy ? I said I don't know we didn't find out. Then she said could be another boy, knowing your luck it will be. I did try to ignore her but its pissed me off actually. When I was expecting last time my half brother said I was going to have another boy because I'm not lucky enough to have a girl. I just want a healthy baby. I'm already anxious because my first d.s wears hearing aids and I'm petrified of having a profoundly deaf baby. Its always people who have a mixture of boys and girls. Sorry for the rant but been stewing

I've had the same. I have a dd and I'm expecting another dd. I lost a baby at 3 months and it nearly broke me. I just want my dd to be healthy. I don't care about anything else. You should have just responded with 'I really hope so, that would be perfect'. People are so rude sometimes.

I have two DS's and have had all sorts of people ask me if I'll be trying for a girl. No, because I don't want three children. What is wrong with people?

I did a sort of reverse of this yesterday. My students asked me if I was getting a boy or girl. I said I didn't know and "as long as it's happy and healthy, I'm happy". My student with a heart condition said "so you wouldn't want one like me..."

SHIT. I'd be fecking THRILLED if I got a baby like her! But I didn't think of that response until the lesson was over and the moment had passed.

People don't think before they speak, I'm living proof.

This is infuriating me atm too. Been told by a friend and a total stranger that I need a girl. Even after declaring I'm not bothered they still insisted I needed a girl. I find it offensive tbh

I've heard people expressing sympathy to dads of all girl families so it definitely goes both ways.

Have also been asked "are you having a boy or a girl?"

Me: "a boy"

Them: "but at least you already have a girl so that's OK then".

People are strange strange strange

Yanbu i get annoyed at these comments. I have 2 sons.
One friend has said to mutual friends when they ended up with one of each "great so you have one of each now, no need to have any more".
So apparently my family is incomplete ?

I found that people comment anyway, no matter the sex. I had two dd's 12 months apart and when I was expecting the second everyone commented that it would be nice to "have one of each". When she was born people asked if I was sad I didnt have a boy!!!! Third pregnancy I had much of the same "oh bet u want a boy", I actually just wanted a healthy baby. Im currently expecting number 4 but at 12 weeks pregnant we are yet to tell people as I can imagine everyone will be saying "oh bet ur hoping for a boy to even out numbers". Our ds was born with medical issues so actually no, I dont mind what we have as long as its healthy!!!!!

People just think they have the right to comment when in reality nobody cares about their views on the sex of your unborn child
We are expecting our first and have had people question what we are hoping for, our reply is quite simpl...a baby !

So frustrating isn't it! We had this all the time when we had 2 dds and we're expecting dc3. He is a boy, we didn't know until he was born, and immediately were told that would be our family complete, we had got what we wanted etc etc ad infinitum! So now we are expecting twins and silly comments abound.. why have more after you had a son, that's what you were wanting right?! Well, you asked for it by going for more after having your boy and girls, it'll have to be boys or pity your son being sandwiched between four girls etc etc. Generally I just smile, when we were expecting dc3 so many people said were we trying for a boy so I started asking how you do that?! Most people went red and changed the subject!

Had similar- v happy after a 20 week scan to find my 3rd child looked to be healthy and growing well- and also a girl. Went into a shop by the hospital after the scan and nosey woman on the till asking if I knew what I was having- a girl since just had had wonderful scan to find baby was healthy- any other kids?- 2 daughters already yes- and straight away she came back with 'you'll have to go again then'. Too shocked to say anything then but really pissed me off since

Babies are babies the only difference is what or what does or doesn't dangle between their legs!! My DD is 20 months and most of the children she plays with are boys and to be honest she is just as rough lol!! We are expecting a DS and couldn't be happier to have a healthy baby that our DD will play with! I don't get all this gender disappointment rubbish! Surely a healthy baby is the most important thing? I just feel blessed to have my babies xx

Ugh I got this with my third pregnancy after two boys too. Even a nurse at the hospital as I was in labour said to me "ooh fingers crossed for a girl!". Erm, no. "Fingers crossed" for a healthy baby please.

Far too many people assumed I'd only got pregnant again to "get a girl" and I was asked more than once whether, if baby turned out to be a boy, I'd "keep going to get a girl". Blurgh.

(When baby number three was a girl I felt almost compelled to have another child, to prove I wasn't just in it for the girl baby lol)

An earlier poster had it, people say this stuff because a lot of people gave a gender preference and express it openly, I know plenty of people who say number three was a try for a different gender child or they would have a third if they could guarantee a gender.