Older daddies to be??

[Mummyandwife85]

Just wondering if any of you lovelys have an other half who is that bit "older" and a first time daddy? My hubby is 43 (,I'm 31) and this will be his first child although he has taken my three as his own and is the best step dad I could ever wish for 😍 . He is so nervous about being a daddy for the first time and doesn't help that ALOT have said crap about our relationship \ marriage the whole way thru etc, I know he will be amazing if not wayyyyyy over protective and stressy lol 🍼👶🙈 xx

But 43 is not old at all!

My partner was 58 and was 42 when I had my DD. He had similar comments from a "friend" about me being a gold digger!

Once he's not so old that you've to wipe his arse too it'll be grand

My DH will be 66 when I give birth this time

My dh was 63 when we had dd. we both have a much older child each but it's a bit like starting again. We're both mentally and financially etc in very different places to when we had our first children (with other partners). Works for us.

I know my husband will be an amazing dad and will give my daughter live and stability. I really don't think she matters when it comes to be patenting

Sorry typo age doesn't matter

Aggh bloody predictive text... Should read parenting

I was 34 when we had DS and DH 48. He really struggled with the lack of sleep and just generally not being top priority. I think he'd gotten used to the idea of not being a father so it took a while to kick in. As soon as he met DS, he was fully on board!

Now he's play-fighting as enthusiastically as any younger dad and we have got used to having a mini dictator in our house

Our big upside; DH is the big boss so he can be more flexible around our child's needs than a father still working his way up the career ladder. Financially we are also significantly more comfortable than we would have been if we'd had DS a decade earlier.

I'm 34 and expecting my first, DH is 53 and has two DC's in their early twenties. He's more excited than me and calmer as he's been through it all before.
Congrats on your pregnancy - you'll be a great team!

Lol think no matter what age they are we all but wipe there arse! Lol
Yes I agree evergreen* but he feels it is x

Jusrwanttoweeinpeace,- yeh I worry about him adjusting cos he definitely will be a good daddy but obviously he has no experience with a newborn n I make him watch one born and stuff like that .. other night he was uncontrollably emotional.. now I'm starting to think he may be pregnant too!!😂🙈🙈🍼🍼👶👶😂😂🙈🙈

Thank you thenewwife, 😘 congratulations on ur first lil bubba how far are you? Xx I'm 6weeks with my 4th.. ekk!! Lol xx

Thank you Mummyandwife85
I'm just gone 10 weeks. New to MN and absolutely loving it, we're based overseas so nice to get a bit of 'home'.
Baby 4, eh? You're a professional! You'll be so much calmer and prepared than a first timer too so that will also help your DH.

Aww bless ya, I think other mummys to moan too is so helpful tbh cos I have no pregnant friends or family members who are pregnant so I feel odd one out lol , professional... lol no way.. I'm just as nervous this time as I was 11years ago when I had my first... well not as bad because obviously i know what birth is like for me from experience and I know kinda what to expect pregnancy wise etc but I'm still nervous cos my youngest has only just turned 5 and started school.. so I'm basically starting all over again ha ha xxx

It was an unplanned pregnancy for us so I was utterly gobsmacked - My youngest DSC is graduating from uni two months after I'm due so my DH is defo starting again!
My BFF in the UK is pregnant (20wks) but she really tried for the baby and it took some time so she's super paranoid whereas I'm v laid back so we're not being a huge amount of support to each other which is a shame - never mind, I've directed her to MN too where we can both find people of similar opinions.
Are your first three excited about the new arrival? Just thinking they might not know actually seeing as you're 6wks xx

Aww that's a shame babes xx tbh think sometimes pregnancy can be a little lonely time for us mummies xx tbh we was ttc but we had gone over 6months with no joy so we just kinda relaxed towards it n hubby started a new job and we had three birthdays in last few weeks so we was really busy then fount out out of blue I was actually pregnant and was so shocked and excited xx kids know about baby but only cos hubby was running around house with test in his hand screaming with happiness lol xx

Not our first child but DH was 51 when our last child was born. He is fantastic with the kids. He has a brilliant imagination and they love it when he makes up games for them to play.

He has been mistaken for the younger two's grandad a couple of times (he was gutted, I thought it was hilarious!!) but on the other side, he has been mistaken for our eldest DD's husband (big gap between DC1 and the youngest-they are 23, 8 and 3) She was not impressed!!

Aww bless him lol my hubby is totally grey so he gets so worried that someone mite think he mistake him for my kids grandad lol they never had tho.. but cos I think younger than my age he had been asked if he is my dad lol poor dude 😂😂😂 x

Mummyandwife85
What a wonderful way to find out, nothing nicer than experiencing someone's joy.
My DH is grey too.... I say sun bleached and tell him he's only as old as the woman he feels!xx

My DP is 53! The only negative comments have come from his mother, everyone else including his two grown up children have been fine. We are totally embracing being the elder statesmen couple at NCT . Tell your hubby not to fret, and I agree with the pp that he should give that work 'mate' a wide berth. Congratulations on your pregnancy op !

Mummyandwife85 - just to echo what a pp said, my dad was 40 when I was born and 46 by the time my brother came along, 10 year age gap between him and my mum and he is the best dad in the world. Being 10 or 15 years younger doesn't by default make you a better parent at all, I wouldn't change my dad for anything!