terrified of 12 week scan tomorrow after 2 mmc's - positive vibes needed !

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hi there,
I'm 12+1 with my fourth pregnancy and I have my dating scan tmw. I have a 4 year old girl as a result of my 1st very straightforward and problem free pregnancy!
I had a mmc at 12weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 8, the heartbeat had stopped at 11 weeks - we were totally shocked and devasted - I then fell pregnant again this February, only to experience another mmc, this time twins, at my 8 week scan - one had stopped developing at 6 weeks, the other at 7. I've had d&cs both times now - the 1st one with the pregnancy that was further ahead was horrible - I had to be put to sleep. So terrified of going through that again this time !
So, with my current pregnancy and to date - I've had a 6, 8 and 10.4 week scans, all completely fine with a heartbeat seen at each one. Altho this gives me hope and im trying my absolute hardest to stay positive - I'm convinced tmw will be another mmc and I'm terrified . I've had no bleeding / cramping. I've started to feel what I think are stretching pains / round ligament pains (I'm obviously para about The pains everytime I get them though!) and I do feel like I've had all the pregnancy symptoms this time - I've not physically been sick but definitely feel sick a lot, feel v tired, on and off constipation, the metallic taste, a stint of what I believe was pregnancy rhinitis as well as some hormone headaches around 9weeks, and I've gone off foods / feel sick after eating and never know what I fancy, then when I eat - I don't enjoy it !! I'm generally wiped out by 7pm also !!
I guess I just want some success stories or something . Reassurance that I've got this far - surely it would be just horrible luck to find out tmw that nothing is happening !!! my doc tested what he removed with the twin pregnancy and it was chromosomal so nothing to do with me and with the 1st mmc he's convinced we just had bad luck .
I'm 35 and from then all the statistics tend to go up a few percent so that also makes me freak out !! I just can't relax and am dreading tmw, it's taking over my mind and it can't be healthy to feel this worried - pls help xxxxxxxx

I'm sure you will be absolutely fine . I've got mine coming up this Thursday, and although I've had about three scans already after several big bleeds (subchorionic haematoma), every time I go, I'm scared the baby is gone. Last scan was at 11+3 which was fine, but it's still worrying. I'm sure all will be well and you'll see your lovely baby wriggling happily!

This was me a few weeks ago, then earlier this week - 5% excited about the scan and 95% absolutely terrified

We have a DD who's 3.5 and fab, no complications in the pregnancy, just lots of sickness throughout.

We lost a baby boy last October at 17 weeks, due to a cystic hygroma, (nothing chromosonal or genetic could be found) so we had 2 early scans in this pregnancy at 6 and 9 weeks under consultant care, just to check on the fluid. All looked good although baby was measuring a week behind according to our dates (cue worries!) then at 12 week scan measuring almost a week further ahead than we'd calculated (more worry!) But we've just had our 20 week scan and all looks good the sonographer actually told me to calm down as she could hear my pulse through my abdomen! she said, obviously it's not a guarantee, but everything looks good at this stage, so I was ordered to please try to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy and... its a boy

I hope you have great news too. Your symptoms are exactly what I've been experiencing so I'm crossing everything for you x

Oh, and I'm 36 x

thank you both for writing back to me :)
Isn't it mad what some of us have to go through ?!! I have everything crossed for you both
All of my friends seem to be popping them out left, right and centre and I can't ever see it happening for me anymore ! It'll be more of a shock tmw if it's still happening than not !
Ignorance is definitely bliss - I didn't even know a mmc existed when I had my 1st !
We deserve the best luck this time round - pls can these little beans be the ones !!!

It still hasn't sunk yet for me that all seems okay, and I had my scan 2 days ago - that just shows how anxious I was and expecting bad news. It'll be all the more special when we actually get to hold our lo's in our arms, after the journeys we've had

Let us know how your scan goes, sending good luck and lots of positivity

Have you had the scan yet OP?

No, it's at 3.30pm .
I've already broken down in tears from nerves !
I'll let you know how it goes - so scared 😥
xxx

It's good to have a release before you go, I sobbed myself to sleep 2 nights before my scan I was so scared. Sending virtual hugs x

Sending you massive hugs Op.
Please update the thread after your scan.

Will be thinking of you.

Thinking of you

Sending you as many positive vibes as I can. I really hope all is well!

Thinking of you. My 12 week scan is this week and starting to get a little bit nervous. Hope all is well for you. Please let us know xxx

Hi everyone,
All is fine 🙏🏻 I'm so relieved - I was crying when I saw the bubba moving !
The sonographer was happy with everything for this stage which is also a relief .
She couldn't get a measurement of the neck for the downs test though - the baby wouldn't budge from its front or side !!
Not quite sure what to do as we do want the test but they can't rebook me as demand is too high ! might have to go private for it . Anyone had experience of this ? xxxxxx

Hi OP that is fantastic news!! So happy for you. I had the harmony test at the fetal medicine centre two weeks ago - it tests for downs/Williams/pataus (the most common chromosomal abnormalities) and will give you a very accurate result. I would also highly recommend FMC - very professional and thorough. In any event, have the midwives asked you to come back so they can attempt the measurement again?
So glad you've had good news - now my turn to be nervous for 12 wk scan on Thurs, and harmony results on Saturday...!

So thrilled for you, OP x

You should come and join us:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2716393-Staying-posifrickentive-Thread-11-for-ladies-pg-after-mc
We've all been in the same place as you and we keep each other going :-) I'm now 18+4 and nervous about the 20 wk scan which is next week. The support on the thread is fantastic.
Congratulations on your great scan!

Congratulations! My baby was also refusing to play along for the 12 week scan measurements. We did go and have a private scan and it was the best thing we did. It cost £180 (southern England) but can honestly and truthfully say it was worth every single penny. Good luck with your pregnancy!

Sorry just to add that there is a specific time frame when the measurements and tests can be done at this stage- I'm sure it's up to 13weeks and 1-2 days? Just thought I should mention it in case you didn't know. X