Measuring 3 weeks behind - 6 weeks not 9

[BestBeastie]

Just getting my head around this.

Had brown discharge and odd ovulation type pain so went to epu.

He did an internal scan and measured me at just 6 weeks (no heartbeat) when I should be 9 today. I've heard of being out but not by this much.

Dr says to return if I haven't miscarried by next Thursday but I want to manage my expectations.

Is it possible it might develop?

What do I do if I go back next week and there has been no growth but no miscarriage?

Feeling pretty crap but just want to acclimatise myself to the situation so I can move forward.

Trying to resist the urge to have a glass of wine or 5 tonight. This is so shit.

And I should say that dr gave me no indication of progression unlikelihood etc and didn't give me a clue about what my options were if I didn't miscarry naturally. All he would say was to come back next week

And I'm reasonably sure on dates - got a frer positive 2 days before my period due.

I was 3 weeks out too, think getting pregnant straight after coming off the pill didn't help!
I had a fair bit of bleeding at what I thought was 9 weeks gone, went to the gp who basically said not much I could do, just rest, not really any help or information either.
Anyway had to wait until my 12 week scan where they discovered I was just 9 weeks and so had to go back again when I was really 12 weeks!
All good in the end though shes now 14 :D

I'm sorry you're going through this. I've been there many times do know what a horrible place it is to be.

I'll be brutally honest. I doubt there will be a catch up. It's not unusual to be a few days out either side but 3 weeks is a lot. You're talking about nearly another cycle. Is there anyway you could be 6 weeks in your mind?

If there has been no growth and it is determined that it is not a viable pregnancy, they may offer to let you wait and see if you miscarry naturally, offer you medical management which is where they give you medication to induce a miscarriage or, lastly, they might offer you an ERPC which is surgery carried out under general anaesthetic.

The majority of my miscarriages have been spontaneous but my last one at 11 weeks where baby had died at 10 weeks I had an ERPC. They did offer me alternatives but said because of the gestation, I would probably find a medically managed miscarriage very painful.

Sorry, I should have said mine was a missed miscarriage so not spontaneous.

So so sorry you're going through this I had a similar situation over Christmas which ended up being diagnosed as a MMC and I had an ERPC early in the new year. It's a shit time, and hopefully they'll let you talk over your options after the next scan. Frustratingly I had enough growth for them to not discuss options and send me away for another 10 days, but not enough to get over the hump of 'this pregnancy isn't developing properly, here is your clinical diagnosis'. Just so you're prepared, if there has been a small amount of growth between now and next week they may send you away again for another week. It's utterly crap. If it's any consolation though, I fell pregnant 6 weeks after my surgery and am now almost 31 weeks in an uneventful pregnancy, so there is hope

Thanks everyone - I am pretty sure it must be a mmc. A friend of mine had an odd experience of being 2 weeks out - and her DD was absolutely fine - but I think 3 weeks is just too long to be out on in terms of dates. Better not to hope anyway.

Its horrible, isn't it. I was reasonably shaky about this pregnancy, as we'd had a pretty hard time getting pregnant, but after 8 weeks and no bleeding I'd really started to calm down - even though I had limited symptoms compared to my experience with DS (head down a toilet all the way). I'd really started to plan this next year with a baby in mind so I feel like a whole future has gone. I'm 38 - too - so I'm wondering whether this is ever going to happen for us.

But I'm feeling a bit better today and trying not to go negative. Unfortunately this is an experience that is all too common - I am finding out the number of people I know who have gone through something like this - or worse - is pretty staggering.