How honest are you about pregnancy?

[BabooshkaKate]

A friend has had a baby girl recently - throughout her pregnancy she insisted that her and DP didn't know the sex of the baby but she now says they knew all along, just didn't want to be harassed by people trying to get it out of them, which is fair enough.

I think if I was carrying twins (or more ) I wouldn't mention it and then be like "surprise! We got two for one!"

Or deny being pregnant at all even whilst waddling about round as a house at 37 weeks I am immature and have too much time on my hands

I had another friend who whilst being teased by an older relative about her pregnancy ("haven't you heard of TV/a hobby for entertainment" etc etc) snapped "actually this baby was conceived through IVF"

Just wondered how open/honest/etc you were or plan to be with your pregnancy?

With DD we didn't know the gender until birth. We discussed names, but not ones that were on the short list. A colleague at work asked me if I knew what I was having, I responded "a baby...." and she just looked very confused! (she wasn't very bright...)
I'm only 9 weeks with DC2 now. No one knows yet, telling parents tonight. I want to find out the sex, but unsure if we'll tell others. We definitely won't discuss short list names again.

Yes when we knew the sex we didn't tell people we knew iykwim, we just said we didn't know. When we genuinely didn't know for dc3 I was so glad as SO many people said exactly what a pp has - oh you'll be hoping for a boy, your dh will be desperate for a wee boy, once you have a wee boy you'll stop there won't you blah blah so it was actually quite protective of my emotions not to know! Was very glad!!! But actually I like not knowing what other people are having - of course I don't actually have an opinion of what I would like them to have as clearly that would be weird and irrelevant, but it is nice to find out sex and name etc once baby is here rather than five months before they are born. But each to their own! Makes life more interesting that we are different and have different preferences!!!

I'm 9 weeks and i've told pretty much everyone I bump into that I'm pregnant! I can't help myself. It's my third baby. We have a boy and a girl already, so no tedious questions about wishing for one or the other. It will be the third baby in just over 2 years though, which gets a few raised eyebrows 😁

We will tell people the sex, if we find out. If we decide on a name, we will tell people that too. I'm an oversharer 😊 It's too exciting, why wouldn't I want to share?!!

I'm truthful to a point. With dd we didn't find out her sex. Parents badgered us though and sil was sure we knew but didn't tell her. They were all awful with names. Sneering at ones we said we liked and insisting their own choices were 'perfect'. This time, dd wanted to know if she was having a brother or sister. She didn't mind which, but she wanted to know, so we found out that we are expecting a little girl. We've let dd tell whomever she likes. No one would dare suggest we might be disappointed thar we are expecting a second daughter because they'd get an ear bashing from me after I lost a baby at 13 weeks in January. With other people I've just told them it's a girl and I'm thrilled. No one yet has made any 'don't you wish comments'. Before I was pregnant, both times, I'd have been thrilled with a boy. But now I'm having a girl I couldn't be happier because she is mine. I just want her to be born healthy and screaming. My parents and pil have been awful about names this time too. Worse than with dd because we know the sex this time. We've told dd that if Nanny or grandma ask about the name, she's to say that we've chosen one but she isn't allowed to tell anyone. Then make any old name up and tell them it's that. She told my mum that we are calling her sister Rosie-Jo and told mil the name is Clementine. Both of them then challenged us and we took great delight in making them feel very guilty about guilt tricking a 5 year old into telling them our name. Dd put in an oscar worth performance of 'im sooo sorry mummy i didn't know i couldnt yrll nanny'. The best part is, neither of them dare say they don't like the names because we told them that we weren't telling them because they were so sneery last time and it upset us. But they hate the names! It's very funny watching them try and subtly change our minds. Definitely the best part of my pregnancy so far!

We didn't tell anyone the names we were considering, as we didn't really want anyone DMs opinion. Pretty standard, boring names, but there is always someone with something to say.

Second time around and I really don't feel like telling people at work. Last time I almost popped to tell everyone I knew, and I still can't wait to shout about it this time, but I'm really not interested in talking to people at work about it. I'm only part-time now, and I have such a different approach to childbirth and DC to the people I work with, I can't be bothered to smile and nod to their bollocks this time around. Sometimes I fantasise about seeing how long I could get away without saying before they figure it out...

I told most people I was pregnant after the dating scan by text (nothing on Facebook). My parents and work knew beforehand as I have HG so was hospitalised for a while.

We don't know the sex, and aren't discussing names with anyone else. If people were negative about a and I loved, it would put me off it.

I'm not hiding my due date, don't mind people knowing that at all.

^ that should be "if people were negative about a name I loved"

Open and honest about everything when asked but rarely offer information, that pretty much sums up my whole life TBH.

I'm the same as badtothebone. If people ask they often looked like they wish they hadn't as I give them an honest answer! I would never start a conversation about my pregnancy/baby though.