I was due 14th December. Had a sweep by midwife just before Christmas. Nothing happened. Went into hospital on Boxing Day (Friday) for induction. Had pessary inserted nothing happened. A second one the next day (Saturday) then started getting pains, strong but manageable. That night pain was almost constant only a few minutes inbetween to rest. No dilation so they weren't called contractions! By Sun morning however I was in agony. Was refused pain relief and I'm wondering if this is because I requested natural birth with no drugs in my plan or if it was because I wasn't technically in labour.
Anyway was in agony non stop Sunday through to Monday. I wasn't put on the drip until early hours Monday morning which only made things worse. I begged for pain relief by that point. It was until Monday lunchtime I was seen by an anesthetist (skeleton staff as it was Christmas period so the care wasn't great) and given epidural (which wore off after an hour! This is rare!!) They let me get so bad I didn't even get anything milder first, I went straight to epidural which is so funny as that was the one form of relief I was really against! I was trying to 'poop' but was told I wasn't dilated more than 1 centimetre so couldn't be the baby pushing yet the pain and my body pushing the baby (she was what is it - back to back so her head was in my bum - even more painful) told me it was. I dilated a centimetre then another. Then it stopped again at only 3cm. Constant pain (no intervals like I'd expected and everyone talks about) Began to give up hope on vaginal birth. Had a spinal tap late Monday evening and took a lot of pain off. Got an hours sleep but then that too wore off a lot and a lot of pain came back, but not all. I had to sign documents and prepare for emergency c section which I had not wanted (but I did in the moment actually as id had 3 days of constant hell and no sleep) Dh was scrubbed up and we were ready to go. I was exhausted and just wanted it over.
Then before they came to wheel me out to theatre, out of nowhere, midwife said hold on a second! She checked me and Dr were talking fast before I knew it my legs were in stirrups and I had to push, so I pushed three times which was easy as I felt I'd been pushing all damn day, and Dr used the ventouse and she was in my arms. Just like that. That's the closest anybody could cut it I think!
Yes the whole experience was awful and traumatised me incredibly. But a lot of factors played into mine so don't worry over that part. Like, I had hormonal problems and cysts and endometriosis which I believe contributed to my pain. I was unlucky with the epidurals not working - this is uncommon. 1 in 10 or something. I was unlucky that it was Christmas - I think the low amount of and constantly changing midwives, failed to recognise my situation and peeked in now and again and just saw me as a bit pathetic with a poor pain threshold. (They didn't know I'd been awake non stop over 50 hours without food and barely 9 ounces of fluid)
Despite all this I am still incredibly thankful that they didn't get to me sooner for theatre and I stuck it out and got my vaginal birth! I really did not want a c section. Had my fair share of surgery for one lifetime!
At the last possible minute my body just dilated and out she came. So it doesn't always have to end in a c section when you are induced with the drip. Keep hope I say. If you really do want a v birth (I very much did too) then I would give induction a shot - the c section is always going to be an option for you. If you have good staff and actual pain relief I really think it makes it easier to get through even a difficult labour. (I will be going private next time...and avoiding Christmas time
) I'm guessing that during the hour after the spinal tap my body was finally in a relaxed mode with a lot less pain, so it helped my body co-operate as it should and speeded the dilation at the last possible moment. Stress can hinder labour in a multitude of ways (and pain is stress to the body essentially.)
(As a side note I would be sure to keep an open mind in your birth plan - state that you are open to all forms of pain relief if they become necessary. I think this is partially where I went wrong. It doesn't mean you're going to use it all, just if you get desperate it's a back up, you know?)
Good luck op. I really hope things work out for you. And you get the best gift at the end which makes even the most awful labours worth it. As soon as that baby is in your arms the sun comes out again. :-)