My pregnancy symptoms disappeared at 8+5, and now I'm convinced my baby is dead

[Tarastara123]

Hello,

I'm new to this, so please excuse the long post whilst I try to explain. I've spent the past week in tears constantly because my symptoms have totally disappeared. I was exhausted before, and constantly nauseous (though I was only sick twice), my mood was everywhere and my boobs were so sore.... Now I feel nothing.

My scan is booked for Thursday 28th and that will be the first time I'll have any confirmation that there is even a baby there and I haven't been victim to a cruel blighted ovum, never mind whether it is still alive or not.

I work in clinical negligence law, acting for the NHS, so I see some real horror stories every day at work. I think I'm just looking for some reassurance after googling the hell out of this and not finding many answers.

Has anyone been through the same and got to the scan to find a normal pregnancy? Unfortunately an early scan is not an option. Struggle to afford private, and my midwife has no sympathy so a referral to EPU is not an option. This is my first baby... And I'm petrified .

What about the day unit ground floor in the clarendon wing? Just explain and they may have a quick look w their scanner. If not, then thisismy are lovely.

I had horrendous stomach pain at 4 weeks and went to a GP who said I was miscarrying and to expect a heavy period in the coming days, he didn't refer me for scan as advised co-codamol for the pain. I didn't take the painkillers but I took a week off work and practically lived on the toilet waiting for the bleeding.

It never came and the pains stopped around 7 and a half weeks which I when I assumed my baby had died. I spent the rest of my first trimester is total denial, wouldn't talk about the baby, didn't want to acknowledge that I was pregnant and absolutely dreaded my scan. Got there and everything was absolutely fine!

I had a friend who was 13 weeks pregnant before she found out and she had not a single symptom and another friend who's baby is a month now in the exact same boat, she found out at 6 weeks that she was pregnant, had a few symptoms and then nothing at all. No symptoms doesn't necessarily mean there's no viable pregnancy :).

If you can't wait then going for a private scan is a good option - the sonographers doing the scans are normally all NHS trained and they work it as a second job so don't worry about it not being official or anything.

Good luck! x

Thanks so much for your messages everyone. I have decided to wait. I'm scared that if I go for an early scan now and things are okay... They may not be by the 12 weeks scan and I want as definitive an answer as I can get. Hopefully then my worries will subside slightly. I'm conscious of becoming obsessed with this and spending a fortune on reassurance scans throughout. I have 8 whole days left to wait. Might seem like a lifetime but at least once it's done I'll know.

I'll be sure to update you all either way as I know people want the full story when looking to these posts for reassurance/facts/statistics... I think I've read every comparable thread!! Honestly though it has been lovely to read your thoughts and stories. Very comforting.

I really sympathise with you, I was so anxious through pregnancy and the scans made me feel loads better... On the day and then the next day I was back to worrying! It did help once the baby started moving though as I had my own little way of monitoring he was ok then.
I did have a couple of extra scans due to having a low lying placenta/growth checks and I did pay for a gender scan at 16 weeks as we couldn't wait... but I'll be honest, the only thing that stopped me paying for loads of private scans was the fact that after 20 weeks they all seemed to be 3D and I really didn't want to have a 3D scan, wanted to save seeing his little face for the first time in the flesh!
I really hope all is ok with you, I really didn't experience much, symptom wise but the few I had disappeared by 10 weeks so similar to you really.

Hi, I just thought I would let everyone know that I went for my 12 week scan last Thursday. I was very very nervous, and it turns out my instincts that something wasn't quite right were sort of accurate... IM HAVING IDENTICAL TWINS! They were both measuring the correct size and their little heartbeats were perfect. Whilst it was a huge shock, me and my partner have now had time to come around to it and we're really excited. Unfortunately, this now puts me in the 'high risk' category... But I'm trying to see the positives of this little miracle. To think I thought there was going to be no baby... And there was two!! Thank you for all of your support leading up to the scan ladies. xxxx

I saw this thread on my "I'm on" list recently and wondered how you were doing, so glad that all is ok and it's going to be double the fun for you! Must have been quite the shock, ironic that your symptoms subsided when there are actually 2 little beans- really goes to show that symptoms aren't indicative of healthy pregnancies!
Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well and congratulations!

Oh wow OP! Congratulations my love

I had terrible anxiety in my first trimester. To be honest, I'm 32 weeks and I'm still worrying it's absolutely normal but if you feel it's out of control have a word with your midwife (the nicer one)!

Oh excellent news! What a lovely surprise. Very pleased for you Tara

Congratulations

tara aw congratulations I'm so pleased for you!! I'd written about my experience with the cramping etc too and at our 12 week scan we found out we are having non identical twins! You'll get a lot more scans now so hopefully that will help with the anxiety :)

Wow!! That is so exciting xxx

Well, I wasn't expecting that :-O Congratulations!!!

Wow!!! Massive congrats!!! I'm also expecting identical twins (5 months now). It's a crazy ride but also totally special and amazing!!! It is annoying to be high risk, but on the other hand it is also really reassuring that they will keep a really close eye on you now. The extra scans can be quite nice! Hope you're able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy now.-)