Irrational thoughts/ anxiety about losing baby

[Tealeaf321]

I'm nearly 30 weeks now but since the day I found out I was pregnant I have believed something is going to go wrong.
At first I was worried about misscarraige or mmc at 12 week scan, every midwife appointment I convince myself that she will tell me she can't find a heartbeat. I have been to hospital numerous occasions with reduced movement and although the midwives have been lovely and told me I must always call if i am concerned I feel like I'm wasting everyone's time because of my messed up thoughts. Dp does reassure me but he is getting fed up of me putting a downer on the happiest time of our life.
I am just convinced that something is going to go wrong still. Someone i knoe recently had her 2nd still born who was similar term term, another friend had a still born at full term last year and 2 of my other friends lost their babies when they were really young, so I know it's more common than most people would like to think.
I'm having a really bad week with anxiety this week, am waiting to hear from a counsellor who my midwife reffered me to, I also have an appointment with my midwife on Friday but until thend please can I have a ?

Hi there, I really feel for you going through this.
I think the sad fact of you seeing so much heartbreak is going to have caused a lot of the anxiety you have. I'd say it's totally normal to be worried but have you considered talking to the mental health team for pregnant ladies?
It's a way to express everything you need to, to someone who can hopefully help.
I actually asked the midwife to refer me last time as I knew I was sinking into a depression. There is no shame in asking for the help. I really hope you get through this with a big smile x

Go to the doctor, I have OCD and I have thoughts like this all the time, I'm learning to control them through therapy. It's normal to have these thoughts but it goes in to concerning when it starts to effect your life or you can't stop thinking about it.

Go to the doctors or midwife and have a chat to them, this sort of thing can be resolved.

Also your do should be more understanding than that!

I'm 28 weeks and starting some hypnotherapy next week for similar reasons. I feel like these thoughts are blighting my pregnancy and i want to enjoy the last few months. Talking to someone I think is the only way to rid yourself of these thoughts xxx

Tealeaf321 as our due dates are close, if you want a bump buddy to talk to, please send me PM. Having someone to talk to who feels the same might help us both get through it together xxx

I actually feel that's pretty normal and healthy to a certain extent. In that things do go wrong - usually not - but sometimes do.

I'm on my third pregnancy and still felt that way all the way through so far. Panicking at each scan or listen that the child is dead. I think in me it's a self-protection thing in not wanting to get excited yet until I have a small baby, alive, in my arms.

I too know a number of people who have had late miscarriages / stillborn children. It does happen so there's no point in kidding yourself it doesn't. I don't go to hospital too much - just once or twice for anti d when kicked in the stomach by a toddler - but if you're worried, the advice is always to go so l'm sure it's fine to.

Obviously once they're born, there's a host of other worries but that's a different chapter!