How do I tell him I'm pregnant?

[EmmaA90]

Please don't judge.
I work with a man who I became very close with, he's my best friend both in and outside of work. He's also married with children.
We've had sex a few times and on one of those times it resulted in me becoming pregnant. What we have is nothing serious, I wouldn't even call it an affair. However I decided to keep the baby, one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make.
I know that I need to tell him, I just don't know how or when.
I'm very realistic and I am preparing for him not only saying he wants nothing to do with the baby but that he wants nothing to do with me and I'll lose his friendship. Losing him as a friend is what scares me more.
I know an abortion would be the easiest option, but I need to live with that decision for the rest of my life - something I don't think I can do.
How do I tell him I'm pregnant?

I'm sure his wife would call it an affair.

What would you call an "affair" then

How about 'I'm pregnant?'

I'll be honest op you're going to get very little sympathy on this forum. Not only did you sleep with a married man who has children...you basically define it as two friends shagging...not an affair...which it is btw...

Welcome to mumsnet OP.

losing his friendship is what scares me more imagine how fucking terrified his wife is going to be when she realises she has to ditch this fucking twat and go it alone with her babies and her heartbreak.

How do you tell him? Send him a text. Don't be so dramatic, you have no right to be.

How could you hurt your best friend's children so much?

Of course you have every right to have this baby- but I would tell him in writing, not face to face. He may want to tell his wife that their children's lives are going to be forever changed by adding a half sibling. That he has broken his marriage vows. What a totally fucked up situation. He, and you, have ruined so many lives.

What a mess. Just tell him, sooner rather than later.

Really difficult op but you do just need to come out with it .

Of course we're going to judge. Because what you (and him) did was a fucking shitty thing to do.

You had a choice in all this.

Is he your boss by any chance?

His poor wife, she's in for the shock of her life and what about his children there life is going to be so different

When sleeping with a married man with children. Can't believe neither of you used contraception.

Bottom line is you need to just tell him, text him call him just get him told!

He's not your friend. So don't worry about losing his friendship.

Be prepared for him to rant and rave and beg you to terminate and then say he'll have nothing to do with the baby.

Are you prepared for single parenthood?

What a mess! His wife, she gets my sympathy it's going to hurt like hell.

Honestly just tell him, call him, email even just get it over with

Have a goat OP.

If it's not an affair then what would you call sleeping with a married man?

I love these posts "we were best friends" How gullible are you OP, he was never your friend, he wanted into your knickers that's all.
You sound young, I'll bet he's a lot older than you.

How do you tell him? As the others have said just text him or call him. Be prepared for this 'best friend' to blank you out of his life though.

Op won't be back.

Tell him you're pregnant, then tell him to tell his wife so she can get checked for STDs.