I feel awful for saying this but I'm hating being pregnant

[Ellarose85]

I'm 34 weeks with baby number 2 and have a very active 1 year old to look after so rest is a luxury that doesn't happen often.

I ache all over, my skin on my tummy literally feels like I'm about to rip, I have the worst acid reflux to the point where I'm not eating as when I do I'm sick and to top it off I have terrible thrush that has comes and goes, nothing seems to help.

It took me all my effort not to scream at my midwife when she suggested milk for the acid reflux and natural yoghurt for the thrush - I have tried everything!

Is it normal to feel so utterly crap and negative? I don't remember feeling like this with DS even though I had the same issues during my pregnancy with him.

My poor DH is treading on eggshells around me as I'm not pleasant to be around at the minute!

I had an easy pregnancy but I hated it, I was so tired, I went from an active person that walks quickly to a big fat blob that could only shuffle around and got knackered going upstairs. I found the responsibility too much as well, I had no control over the most important thing I had ever done in my life.

I gave birth at 33 weeks, I don't think I could have taken it much longer.

I hear you! 33 weeks with a 17 month old. It's really hard work. My body is aching from chasing after her and her sleep has only just come good so I am exhausted as it is. Everyone says being heavily pregnant with a toddler is harder than a toddler and a newborn. I am not convinced lol. My pregnancy in itself is fine so for all of those with hypermisis and other problems I do feel for you. I can't wait for mat leave to start as keeping DD in nursery so will have a few days a week to sleep and rest/sit and watch TV and eat cake lol.

I would def try take something for the reflux, it's bloody awful

Anna: it was definitely true for me that a newborn plus toddler was easier than being pregnant with toddler. And I say that as a battle-worn mum of 3. I felt a bit tired, but much more sprightly once my babies were on the outside! Thankfully I had reasonably uncomplicated deliveries (let us quickly pass over the severe infection I had after no2 due to retained placental gubbins... antibiotics sorted it out quickly!).

Honestly people, ranitidine is very very effective stuff. I can't recommend it highly enough. If it doesn't work for you, please get your GP to prescribe omeprazole. There is no reason to suffer and lose sleep more than you have to!

to all mums to be.

It's so nice to hear other women have the same feelings about pregnancy. I'm currently 20 weeks (oh good lord, I'm only half way ) and have hated every single second of it. Okay, the baby kicks are nice.

Hyperemesis, SPD, extreme fatigue and now baby brain. A full time job + 3hrs per day commute and a 4 year old who still struggles to stay dry through the night. If you have a younger child I salute you - there's no way I could have coped even a year ago.

In fact, I hate pregnancy so much, I'm getting myself 'tied up' after this sprog has joined us on the outside. I'm NEVER doing this again.

Can't we just skip to the end?...

I have a 5yo ds, he's pretty independent except for refusing to dress himself I'm shattered and I can't rest when I need to, I'm still doing too much stuff. I'm not ready, the baby's room is in a huge heap of stuff. 34 weeks and I can't wait for this to be over. I hate it, every second of it.

I have been given ranitidine from the Drs, they are really reluctant to give omperazole - they were in my last pregnancy too.

I'm feeling a bit better this morning although I was up at 3am with the worst braxton hicks, I thought she was making an early appearance!

We can do this ladies!

Omepreszole is great for acid and helps with sickness I fined midwifes can be very dismissive GP may take more notice

Good lord no yanbu. One of the reasons I chose to have my DS in my twenties was so I could easily leave a long gap before the next one!! I could never do what you're doing. for you.

I am one of the people that enjoy pregnancy. But there is no way I can imagine being pregnant and having a small child to look after at the same time. Can't actually think of anything worse child wise.
My oldest is 7 and 3/4 years and the youngest 3 weeks. And I was able to rest, the eldest can look after himself fine. I worked full time till 36 weeks. If we ever decide to have a 3rd, there will be at least a 5 year gap for school age. Not for everyone to do it this way.

Don't feel awful OP. You're allowed to hate being pregnant! I did both times.

The upside is that when everyone else is moaning about the newborn phase you will probably feeling quite upbeat simply because you are NOT PREGNANT ANY MORE!

That's how I was. Of course I was tired etc when they were tiny and of course I was a bit stressed and anxious at times (esp with eldest) but the dominant mood was joy!

6.5 months with a 19 month old here. It's getting hard now.

Lots of spd which is pretty bad right now. Dread the next 3 months with it as I'm already kinda crocked and have to sit down a lot. If it gets much worse I'm screwed!

I really hope toddler & newborn is easier. And I really hope I don't go over by 10 days like last time!

Oh thank God- my people! 28 weeks with a very loud 23 month old. Constant thrush and UTIs. Permanent exhaustion. Actually hating everything right now.

I hated all 3 of my pregnancies- I actually cried inconsolably when we talked about having a 3rd. Before my first pregnancy I thought it would be a wonderful time. Oh, the disillusionment! The only upside was that I hated it so much, going into labour was a joy!

I'm with you OP! I dont know how people do this with other children too. I am pregnant with my first child, very much longed for and dont feel I can do this again. I am 20 weeks pregnant and have had severe pregnancy insomnia since day one. I literally woke up at 12.45am last night, so exhausted that I have now been given sleeping tablets (every 2 days0 to take for this trimester. I am completely useless, cant go anywhere without being exhausted and breathless, and feel the year is just passing me by. If this carries on throughout pregnancy, I dont want to do it again!!

Out of interest why do people have such small gaps?

Not a goady question. I'm genuinely curious. Is it an age thing (as in your age)? Or because you want to get the baby stage out of the way first? Because you think they won't be close?

to all those suffering, it's shit.

Maybe I have a small gap because I want to have my babies while I'm still young. I will be 22 when DC2 arrives and DD will be 17 months old.
When I'm 40, I will have a 20 year old and a 19 year old - they will be old enough to be doing their own thing, and I'll still be young enough to have a life of my own

Makes sense

I've just had DC1 at 26 so I have the freedom to wait a good 4/5 years for the next one but I totally see the downsides to that in that I have "kids" for longer iyswim.

Anyway, sorry to derail!!

I'm the opposite - small gap cos I'm ancient lol. 1st at 39, this one at 41. After this the shop is closed!

I wouldn't have such a small gap if I were younger - I'd have waited till #1 was at school. Or longer.

However I'm not sure I'd trade the 20 years of clubbing freedom I had before!

Maybe I'm 33 weeks with 20 month old and I'm 37 in December so my age is my factor really but that said I have friends with kids close together and they really have a lovely bond

I'm one of 3 with 5 years between each and we were never close as kids or teenagers or now

I think the age gap was too big.

Interesting salene.

There are nearly five years between my next sister and I and nearly thirteen between me and my brother. We were and are very close. Funny how different people are!!

Go to the GP about the heartburn. Mine prescribed Omeprazole and it's changed my life. I just wish I hadn't had to wait for dc3 before someone suggested it!

But I hate being pregnant too. 39 weeks here and counting down the days. Last dc, can't wait to never be pregnant again!!!

I'm so pleased people are saying toddler and newborn is easier! I'm officially fed up and still have 6.5 weeks left. Yuck.

My small gap is because I had too much white wine one night

Hello was just being nosey at this post and decided to chime in (sorry!)
I'm currently in very early stages (5+3) and feeling horrid with the nausea. I also have a 3 year old, 4 year old and 10 year old (eldest has ADHD and ODD amongst other things).
I hate this early stage where everything going feels crap and obviously there's barely anytime to myself but after the initial sicky feeling goes away, I have enjoyed my pregnancies. I've had 2 mc's between youngest and now so I'm praying the symptoms are worth it!
On the age gap thing, I never wanted another child after my 1st due to his special needs but then the broodiness kicked in and along came 2nd when eldest was 6. Straight after having number 2, I knew I wanted another and 10 months later, number 3 came along. They are so close (they do fight too) and look after each other. All boys too!! I remember feeling like super mum when I was feeding my youngest and managed to get my 2nd to sleep at the same time all by myself (partners works)...it's all worth it in the end!

Jesus get a prescription for zantac (ranatidine) you couldnt keep going trying to manage that with milk! It must be keeping you up at night. I took two tablets a day from 18 weeks onwards....

I have found my people!

37 weeks and a 4 yo. The 4 yo is really independent but I'm knackered all the time. Still working as at least at work i can sit in my office on my own with no one bothering me.

Not a thing done for the new arrival except a massive amazon order to get delivered. Feel a bit bad that ive bought this one nothing!

This pregnancy has been awful. The hospital lost my blood work so I didn't find out I was anemic until last week and i might have gestational diabetes this week.

I feel so guilty though as i know so many would love the aches , pains and grottiness that comes with it so I can't moan in real life!!