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17 & think I could possibly be pregnant but I don't know who the dad is. Thoughts on what to do? I don't agree with abortion, and I'm meant to be starting uni this year

Alrighty then....so that is not an option

I managed pretty well to study with a baby, wasn't tempted to go out much due to baby, which is what most students tend to do. I had no support from the father but my mum and sisters were great.

The first year was hardest, but uni grades in first year don't count towards much. It got easier as years went by and in my final year I was super organised and focused, I put my son in nursery four days a week (student finance funded) and went to classes and studied. I was probably more disciplined and organised in the end because you have to be when you have a little one!
I graduated with a first and highest grade in my year! Like I said not all hope is lost

Sorry! I'm trying so hard to stay calm. Also just to double check- I'd mentioned before about feeling dizzy. I literally feel dizzy a lot, especially when I'm moving around a lot, or standing up, and keep feeling like I'll pass out is this a symptom as Im aware I have low blood pressure and I used to have anemia but wasn't sure x

P.s I was first to go to uni in my family too!

Wow! That's amazing! Well done ! The uni I want to go to runs for 2 days a week, how about you? Did you put your son in for more time than you were actually at uni for to have time to study? X

Yes could be pregnancy related. But this is a big decision so that could also be making you feel dizzy!

Very true, although It's been going on for ages, but it's been getting worse xx

First year my mum and sister mainly had him for the 2 days a week and I worked on studying in the evening/when he napped. By third year, when writing my dissertation and uni required more focus I put him in nursery 4 days a week. 2 days for classes, 2 days in library. I was very disciplined. And I always managed a coffee with friends around that and the occasional night out thanks to my mum. X

Awh! Your mum & sister seem lovely! My parents are strict but also want to see me pass. I feel like I work extremely hard for my a levels so I can't see anything changing with regards to that! You've definitely made me feel a lot better x

My mum was unhappy initially and no one expected me to do so well or even go back to uni after that, so be prepared for those kind of attitudes. But I proved them wrong and went back and did better than they thought. Women have had babies and accomplished great things so not all is lost. Of course it is hard work having a baby! But not the end of your life, particularly with the right support.

When you have a clear idea about what you want to do I would contact the department you will study with and student services/welfare informing them of your situation and intentions, I.e ask them what support they can offer and that you might want to defer until September 2017 (if that is what you want). Universities can be very supportive, in my experience, so I would let them know. Definitely speak to parents when you feel able to! It will be hard but don't despair at your future.

And make sure you only make the right choices for you. Good luck xx